If you’re grieving, what has made the process even more difficult?

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A thread for a space to share / vent / howl into the abyss. For me it’s the way certain relatives are behaving. It’s breaking me.

I'm glad I found this thread. I have felt utterly alone, both in caring for and tidying up after the death of my beloved Mum. Offered assistance wasn't meant and it was obvious I shouldn't ask for it. My brother criticised me for looking sad while I was grieving.

I've done my bit, ie everything. I've given my siblings their inheritance and have now blocked the whole family. I need time and space to heal.

I'm so sorry @Holymolymoon. Losing your Mum is hard enough without others making you feel even worse. I am fortunate that neither myself or my sibling are that bothered about "stuff". We are taking small mementos of Mum. Hope you find some peace.💐

The OW from years ago writing in my husband's book of condolence. Absolute vile bitch. Took me years to get over and she's brought it all back again at the worst time of my life. That book should have been a comfort to me and she ruined it and sent me spiralling. I'm now in therapy.

Wow! That was incredibly cruel and callous with absolutely no consideration for your feelings. Sounds like it was par for the course for this person. The arrogance is off the scale. I'm so sorry. Glad you have someone who will acknowledge your devastation at this alongside all the other aspects of grief.💐

Receiving a letter from the people I thought were close friends who I was renting a house from, asking for a 25% increase in the rent a week after my beloved mother died. They knew my salary, they knew I didn’t have the money. They expected me to ask my grieving father for financial help.

I moved out instead.

My exh just carried on as normal when I lost a parent and sibling. No emotional support, left to carry on with small children. Then he lost a friend suddenly and took to his bed in grief. I made all the right noises but inside it rankled. One of the reasons he is an ex.

I have many stories. Like the bank staff treating me as though I was a criminal when I had to take ID in the prove who I was. My own bank was lovely which made it 10 times harder when you came across someone who was incredibly short with you on one of the many admin tasks you are forced to perform to administer two estates.

i think as a nation we have got better but still a long way to go in terms with how we treat people who are bereaved. Sorry to all who are going through this.