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My brother is dying

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rainbowlou · 21/03/2025 00:07

We have been told he may have 2 days, and day 1 is quickly disappearing.
I just feel so numb, he has us all around him in the hospital right now and we are just waiting for the inevitable.

I don’t know why I’m writing this, maybe for a handhold or for someone to tell me what I can expect over the next few hours?

My parents are dozing on and off but they look so broken.

is is only 50, cancer fucking sucks

OP posts:
LardoBurrows · 22/03/2025 02:40

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your brother sounded like a lovely, gentle soul. I'm glad that his death was peaceful and that you were with him, it might not seem so now, but that will give you some comfort in the weeks to come.

I hope you and your parents have people who can help and support you during the next few months. I wish you peace and healing.

StartupRepair · 22/03/2025 02:44

I am so sorry. Go gently in the next few days weeks and months. Remember everyone will be very raw and it is easy to hurt and be hurt as you navigate decisions about funeral etc.
He sounds like a lovely brother. This will be so hard for your DC but they will learn from you how to navigate grief.

MounjaroOnMyMind · 22/03/2025 03:04

I am so sorry you lost your brother. He was surrounded by love as he passed away and I hope that helps you in the future. Flowers

Spendlessretireearly · 22/03/2025 04:07

So sorry. Be prepared that it may take a long time to accept it

Laalbod · 22/03/2025 05:17

Sending love xxx

ChillWith · 22/03/2025 08:30

Morning rainbowlou, so sorry to read this this morning. Sending much love x

towhoknowswhere · 22/03/2025 09:22

So sorry for your loss 🩷

Cattery · 22/03/2025 10:43

💐

FloofyKat · 22/03/2025 10:49

I’m so sorry. - but relieved for you that his suffering is over. And that he passed peacefully x

WeeOrcadian · 22/03/2025 12:49

I'm so sorry OP, massive hugs to you all

He's at peace now xx

Alliscalmallisnotbright · 22/03/2025 12:55

May your brother rest in eternal peace @rainbowlou . He died surrounded by love and that is the best thing we can provide for our loved ones in their final moments.

My beloved dad hung on for 20 hours after I got there (I live many hours away from my family) and I don’t know how he kept going but my SIL told me that dad loved to be surrounded by his family and was just soaking up his last moments of us all together and that brings me great joy whenever I think of it.

much love to you, please make sure you eat and drink over the next few days as it is easy to get consumed by looking after everyone else x

minnienono · 22/03/2025 12:57

Hugs op to you and all your family and his friends. Very tough loosing someone so young and for parents to loose a child is difficult beyond words. Take help and support that is offered and remember in the night there’s always someone here to talk to. Too many others do unfortunately know exactly what you are going through. Finally don’t forget that the hospital chaplain team are there for you whatever your faith or none, they are excellent at both listening and have practical experience of next steps which can feel overwhelming.

neilyoungismyhero · 22/03/2025 12:58

So very sorry for your loss. X

WaffleParty · 22/03/2025 13:00

I am so sorry. My brother died when my children were very little, but they have very clear memories of him and I see him in small ways in both of them.
Your brother sounds like a lovely man.

ohfourfoxache · 22/03/2025 13:30

Oh sweetheart, I’m so, so sorry Sad

Nothing is going to make this better, it’s gutting to think of you going through this (I lost my mum in August). The only thing you can do is to take each second as it comes (a minute might feel insurmountable, and that’s ok) x

Missmaria123 · 22/03/2025 13:31

So sorry xx

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 22/03/2025 13:34

So sorry, OP.Flowers

Hugs to you and your family at this very difficult time. I'm glad that your brother seems comfortable.

FatLarrysBanned · 22/03/2025 13:56

So sorry for your loss. There are no words 💐

DrummingMousWife · 22/03/2025 13:59

So sorry Op. thinking of you 💐

ValentinesGranny · 22/03/2025 14:05

I'm glad he went peacefully. I always feel my words are clumsy at times like this, sending you all my sincerest condolences. x

BellissimoGecko · 22/03/2025 15:07

I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds as if your bother died very peacefully. 💐

WellyMcLonglegs · 22/03/2025 15:23

Another stranger sending you thoughts and love. I'm so sorry for your loss 💐

Brenna24 · 22/03/2025 17:15

I am so sorry for your loss. I was numb and in shock when my dad died and didn't break down until I saw his coffin. It hits us all at different times. Big hugs from me.

Londog · 23/03/2025 09:09

With deepest sympathy, I am so sorry for your profound family loss. He will send you his strength and surround you with his love and protect you always . Heartfelt compassion xxx

Scooby2024 · 23/03/2025 09:13

I'm so sorry OP. Sending much love and support to you and your family. You are in my thoughts xx

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