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My son died, aged 24

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Random789 · 10/02/2020 08:00

My son died. The police came to tell us on Thursday morning, so he died either late on 5th or early on 6th Feb.
He was very mentally ill and also had a diagnosis of autism. I'm not sure if he still had a diagnosis of schizophrenia, but he was vulnerable to repeated episodes of psychosis.
He was transitioning into living in his own flat after about three years of living on a mental health rehab ward. He had just got to the stage of spending nights there, and was due to be formally discharged from his section today.
He died from loss of blood. In the past he had used recreational drugs to try and cope with how he felt and it is possible that happened again and contributed to what he did. We don't know yet.
He was a terribly unhappy person, unable to break away from solitude and inactivity, unable to do anything that would be a source of comfort or absorption or satisfaction.
He was very thoughtful, gentle and kind.

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cakeandchampagne · 20/06/2020 04:43

Flowers I’m so sorry for the loss of your son.
I’m sure if you could have healed him and saved him, you would have.

WeMarchOn · 20/06/2020 09:09

I'm Autistic, your sons "co morbids" alongside Autism is NOTHING you have done wrong, if anything you were the best thing in his life.
I have multiple co morbids and it's really hard, please don't blame yourself.
Happy to answer any questions from an autistic perspective.
Hugs xx

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