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My son died, aged 24

127 replies

Random789 · 10/02/2020 08:00

My son died. The police came to tell us on Thursday morning, so he died either late on 5th or early on 6th Feb.
He was very mentally ill and also had a diagnosis of autism. I'm not sure if he still had a diagnosis of schizophrenia, but he was vulnerable to repeated episodes of psychosis.
He was transitioning into living in his own flat after about three years of living on a mental health rehab ward. He had just got to the stage of spending nights there, and was due to be formally discharged from his section today.
He died from loss of blood. In the past he had used recreational drugs to try and cope with how he felt and it is possible that happened again and contributed to what he did. We don't know yet.
He was a terribly unhappy person, unable to break away from solitude and inactivity, unable to do anything that would be a source of comfort or absorption or satisfaction.
He was very thoughtful, gentle and kind.

OP posts:
Igmum · 10/02/2020 08:37

So sorry for your loss 💐💐

BayHorse · 10/02/2020 08:40

I'm so sorry for your loss OP Thanks

soccerbabe · 10/02/2020 08:41

So sorry OP Flowers

Standrewsschool · 10/02/2020 08:43

Sorry for your loss.flowers

Standrewsschool · 10/02/2020 08:44
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waterlego · 10/02/2020 08:45

I’m so sorry to read this. 💐

Lonelycrab · 10/02/2020 08:46

So so sad.Sad This has bought tears to my eyes. I can’t imagine what this must feel like. Big hug to you at this awful time xFlowers

Lindy2 · 10/02/2020 08:48

I'm so sorry for your loss.

SeaViewBliss · 10/02/2020 08:50

I'm so sorry to hear that. Be kind to yourself Flowers

7dayslater · 10/02/2020 08:51

I'm so sorry Thanks

SciFiScream · 10/02/2020 08:52

I don't know what to say. Nothing will be right. I'm so very sorry for your loss. If you have a faith I'm hope that guides you.

StealthPolarBear · 10/02/2020 08:54

How awful and unfair. I am so so sorry.

MrsCat1 · 10/02/2020 08:55

How terribly, terribly sad. I am so very sorry. I can't imagine how devastated you must feel. No words. 💐

neverdoingthatagain100 · 10/02/2020 08:56

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your precious son.
I lost my brother in similar circumstances, it was very hard.
Please try and be kind to yourself. Don't blame yourself.
Sending support and hugs.

Spied · 10/02/2020 08:57

I hope you eventually find peace and comfort in the fact he is out of his tormentFlowers

Abraid2 · 10/02/2020 08:58

I am so sorry to hear this.

wapbapboo · 10/02/2020 08:58

I am so sorry op Flowers

Almahart · 10/02/2020 08:59

I’m so so sorry to hear this @Random789. You will be in my thoughts today. Sending love Flowers

ItWillBeBetterinAugust · 10/02/2020 08:59

I'm really sorry to hear that Random SadFlowers

Butterflyflower1234 · 10/02/2020 09:00

I really am so sorry for your loss. I can understand the loss from suicide. There are so many unanswered questions. Please be kind to yourself and allow others to support you as much as possible.

Srictlybakeoff · 10/02/2020 09:02

That is so sad. I hope you have some real life support

notanothershitday · 10/02/2020 09:02

I'm so sorry, my sons has lots of problems and as now not been eating since Christmas, so much worry when you have an unwell child (his 27) but still my baby, have more meetings this week,
I'm thinking of you and your son,
Nothing anyone says can make it better but sometimes just talking about it helps a little,
Sending love to you

ASureSign · 10/02/2020 09:03

I'm so very sorry about your son. 💐
I hope you and your family have plenty n of real life support.

FloreanFortescue · 10/02/2020 09:12

A huge hand hold to you OP, some people were just born too special for this earth Thanks

QuiteForgetful · 10/02/2020 09:22

Random I am very sorry for your loss, and the pain you are in. May he rest in peace. Flowers