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[mummylin2495]

Well here we are again on a brand new thread,hopefully we can all move on a bit to a more accepting phase in our lives.

Snoozy...my dh and I gave my dad CPR until the paramedics arrived. He also died of a heart attack. He was sat on the bed talking to my mum about the pillows :( It's just devastating. I'm so sorry for you all. glad your family are home tomorrow x
Lego...sounds like the hospice would be a good Idea for your mum ATM...ad you say she will get 1-1 care and IV fluids.
Am thinking of you all xxxx

friendofdorothy I hope that your dad and sister are either now home or en route. That in itself will give you a bit of comfort. Hope you are bearing up as well as you can.
snoozy hope you too are coping ok.*
waterlego do you have a day for your mum going to the hospice ? It should actually give you a bit of peace of mind as you know your mum will be well cared for and give your little break
ssd hope things have Improved for you today and that things are better for you at home. I hope hour apt for cruse will soon com through , you have gone through enough and need something to help you
t875 hope you too are doing ok. When I went to crem yesterday , I went to put the flowers in the pots and on the end of the bunch was a white feather !
supermario hope the children are behaving better for you, sometimes they must get too much to cope with, especially when you are feeling down yourself.
marshy have you had your apt through for your surgery yet ?
For everyone a little something to give you a bit of cheer

badvoc how is your mum doing and also your aunty. What a stressful time you have had. Has your mum made any decisions on The house yet.? Does the whole roof need doing or just parts of it ?

hey mummylinn kids are behaving better yep I am trying to take a step back from running about all day when they are at school back and to with my nan doing things as I was finding myself raging over small things today I have just got work done on the laptop and stayed home has been nice to not be running errands or sitting at someone else's house. am struggling a bit now with so much coming up this weekend I found myself thinking today was the last day my mum ever went outside as she went into hospital for a scan and didn't end up coming home .was an unexpected thought that really upset me. how are you doing now this is a tough time for you. thinking of all who post and chipping in whenever I can think of anything useful to say

Very sad for you to have those thoughts about your mum today. I think we all have those thoughts about being the sat f everything and I can understand why it upsets you, glad you are having an ok day . I have dh home today beating up the bathroom. Oh my god it's awful mess . New bath being de.ivered this afternoon at some time. We have half the plaster off the wall where it fell off when he knocked old tiles off. I am the worlds worst when it comes to having things done like that !

go out preferably to somewhere that sells coffee and cake did he get his way with the square toilet?

We haven't ordered the toilet or the sink yet. Although we need to cause old ones coming out tomorrow ! I'm still undecided really. I am out tomorrow luckily ooh bath just coming !! They are outside

It's now armed on our driveway. Why dh didn't move his car is beyond me. Now he will have to bring t in himself ! As I was saying am out in morning tomorrow and going to a show tomorrow evening so I won't have to put up with banging or anything thank god. Haven't seen the bath yet as its all covered up.
Ok now it's indoors and looks fine, very odd shape, I haven't seen one like that before now parked in the conservatory , along with the screen and panels, we now have a huge wooden palett which dh will have to beat up as we can't get the car out, my dd can burn it on her outside pit burner !

Armed = parked

She is ok Lin.
I think.
No decision on the house but she has applied to get it valued. It's quite a long process by the look of it.
I have caught whatever Lurgy ds2 has...bluergh.
Dh is away this week too.
Moan, moan, moan.....:)

Hope you soon feel,better badvoc I guess you have got the sore throat ?

Sorry to hear about the lurgy Badvoc. Hope you feel better soon.

mummylin, that all sounds very exciting! Square toilet- what have I missed?! What show are you going to see tomorrow?

Nothing doing re the hospice. Mum is feeling better again today so I think she told the Macmillan nurse she didn't need to go in. I totally understand why, but it just means more days of worry for us.

I am currently reading 'The Red Tent', and the bit I read last night contained a quote which really 'spoke' to me. Hope you ladies like it too:

'The painful things seemed like the knots on a beautiful necklace, necessary for keeping the beads in place'.

What a lovely quote Lego x
Ugh...I have razor blade throat, temp And cough. I feel really rough :(
I should eat something really...

Ooohhh.i missed the new bathroom post!
How exciting.
When it's done, that is! Til then it's a nightmare isn't it!?
Earlier this year (feb half term) part of our conservatory roof fell in! Took ages to get it sorted...and it needed up being replaced (with much more expensive glass) in a snowstorm!
That was fun
My dad paid for it, bless him. Took ds1 to see his grave and tree today. He watered dads tree. So touching to see.
Hope you are all ok. You are all constantly in my thoughts x

badvoc and waterlego yes am having a new bathroom! We have the bath delivered today and dh wants a square toilet and sink with vanity unit. I don't mind the sink but am undecided about the loo. My whole upstairs is an utter disaster area, tonight I had to have a bath in a bathroom. With only half the plaster on. Lights hanging down, no tiles , a right bloody mess actually. Old sink and loo coming out tomorrow and new bath going in. I get really fed up when things are so messy even though I know, you can't do it without mess !
That s sweet badvoc about your ds watering the tree. Hope you will soon feel better.
Am at my brothers at the. Lament watching speedway. We have been out for a pub meal at the end of his road.

I have a sore throat too, and feel achy and grim. hoping it will go away too busy this week to fuss with being ill. i think you are on to a winner going out for the day mummylinn i also hate when workmen are in and the place is manic so escape if at all possible. my grandparents live right across from the house that we used to live in me my mum and my sister/brother from when i was born till when i was nineteen. when i went there before there was a man shouting and swearing at his kids on the drive and i just thought hey thats my house get out! couldnt help it

Speedway!?
My fil and dh love speedway!
They used to go a lot until the local track was closed down.
Keep repeating..."it will be worth it in the end..."
:)

It's the semi final badvoc our local team have just taken the lead by one point. Two more races to go ! Our team is Poole pirates. You can tell your dh

I don't Have outside workmen in supermario my dh is doing it himself, which in a way is worse cause he can make so much mess !
It horrible to see other people in "your" house.hope you soon feel better!
badvoc tell your dh Poole pirates have beaten Swindon to get in the final . Finalscore Poole 97 Swindon 90 !

dp is the same, I spent hours changing the living room round for him to come in looking for something and make a mess then asked where id moved his important paperwork, where was this important paper he needed. on the floor in the toy corner ....

Oh! I will...no doubt his dad has recorded it for him if it was on sky.
Dhs team was long eaton invaders.

Yes was on sky. That's why we were at my brothers , we don't have sky although dh has a prog on his comp where he watches all sportfree when he wants.

Hi everyone!
FriendofDorothy, snoozy, I'm so sorry for both of you. Hope you find support, and a place to rant/chat/muse here.

Snoozy I found I was pregnant shortly after my mum died; it was a real mixture of emotions. On the one hand I knew I could hear her giggling when I discovered the result, on the other I didn't know if I could cope with another loss if I miscarried. In my case I did lose the baby at a late stage: it was really hard but somehow knowing Mum would be looking after the baby was comforting somehow. I know if I do manage to have a healthy baby they'll have a guardian angel somewhere.

Have been absent for a while as I think I had what badvoc and supermario have.. it seems to have been doing the rounds at the local schools. The kids all seem to get away with having a slightly sore throat and that being it; the parents feel terrible and are confined to bed for days on end. Hope you're both feeling a bit better today?

Badvoc your last post made me smile - I took DD to Mum's grave a while ago and she insisted on wearing her fairy costume: I was too tired to argue in the end and left her prancing about while I put in some flowers. As we left an elderly woman came up to us and told me how nice it was to see DD - almost a reminder that there are nice, happy things around too. Dad and I chose Mum's headstone at the weekend - as ever we ended up in fits of giggles looking at the ones she would really have hated and went for a nice one.

waterlego what did you think of 'The Red Tent'? I really enjoyed it.

mummylin you might like this

Oh, vlad...mum, my sister and I chose dads headstone and we had a laugh about it too.
My sister is a well known shopaholic.
At one point whilst looking at the brochure I turned to my sister and said "this is the least fun shopping I have ever done" and we all cracked up.
You do find humour in the strangest situations.
We saw one that was a bit OTT and cost well over £5k and I managed to convince dh it was what I would want....he looked a bit panic stricken when he saw the price :)
I still feel really rough :(
Both boys should be back at school tomorrow though so intend to spend the day on the sofa!
Dh away though so afternoon/evening will be hard.

Hi guys, still here but got a bit of a sore throat and general achyness about me. how are you all? we didnt get to really chose mums headstone it is in a new area which is called a woodland resting place so the stones are really quite small and just say name surname and years of born-death its quite depressing i would of loved one that said everything she was to us. though i could imagine that being a bloody big stone. we are not allowed to leave ornmanets or windmills or other trinkets which upsets me so i have a planter at home where all my things go that i see and think of her.