my husband is critically ill, i am terrified

[lemontruffles]

My husband has severe copd (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) and yesterday had a severe exacerbation. This means he couldn't breathe properly and is now in hospital.

He is on a ventilator, and not responding well to this treatment after about 40 hours on the ventilator. I am utterly terrified.

I've come home to try to sleep, but can't.

He is only 61. He is terrified too. I simply can't think straight and am in a new and appalling world where nothing is right and everything is terrifying. I can't stop shaking with fear. Please hold my hand.

So sorry x x

I am so sorry lemon. You must be devastated. Thinking of you, and wishing you the strength to cope with your loss.
XXX

I'm so sorry xx

I'm so sorry lemon... :(

I'm so sorry Lemon. Thoughts are with you.

I'm so so sorry. All I can say is take one minute at a time. The pain is immense and you'll be in shock. I lost my husband very suddenly eight months ago. Thinking back to those immediate days after frightens me still. I wish I could help you now. Take it slowly and say yes to help. Much love to you x

I'm so sorry lemontruffles xxxx

Thinking about you OP.

I'm so sorry lemon

Oh no how terrible I am very sorry for your loss.

So so sorry for you Lemontruffles

Thoughts and condolences to you and all family members xx

Xxxxxx is allxxxxxxxx praying for you lemontruffles xxxxxxxxx so sad for your loss xxxxx

I'm so sorry lemon, there are no words just so desperately sorry.

I have just seen this and wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family xx

6 years ago my DW (age 56 - previously healthy) was admitted to Swindon ICU with a 20% survival expectation from acute pneumonia. She was under sedation for a week, with complications, and her heart stopped more than once.

The hospital opened up a guest room on the ward and I just lived there for 3 days with 24/7 access. She pulled through and recovered more or less fully though with many months rehabilitation.

The medics warned me and other family members that the priority for us was to look after ourselves - basic food, rest, care while driving etc etc. They were looking after her.

However during those first few days I came close to those 'ultimate questions'. We had 'made our peace' with one another while still at home while the health situation was deteriorating, so for me there wasn't any point in worrying about the uncertainties of the future:

If I did think, it would be 'if we lose her, she'll be oblivious then happy; it will be a big shock for me but things will work out somehow'. I was surrounded by friends. 'If she recovers then there will be a tale to tell.' Which she has.

So sorry to hear your news, Lemon.

Take care of yourself

Xxx

So sorry to read this.

Hope you have someone with you. X

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're in my thoughts.

I'm so sorry for your loss lemontruffles

Oh my dear, im so very sorry for your loss. Just wanted to say, whatever 2013 brings, you have many amazing memories to remember and your love for each other will stay with you forever. Please take any help and support loved ones offer.

Lemon, so so sorry to hear your sad news xx

So sorry for your loss, what a heart wrenching way to start the year. You are close in my thoughts. xx

Oh no lemon, I'm so very very sorry

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.