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my husband is critically ill, i am terrified

377 replies

lemontruffles · 01/01/2013 04:38

My husband has severe copd (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) and yesterday had a severe exacerbation. This means he couldn't breathe properly and is now in hospital.

He is on a ventilator, and not responding well to this treatment after about 40 hours on the ventilator. I am utterly terrified.

I've come home to try to sleep, but can't.

He is only 61. He is terrified too. I simply can't think straight and am in a new and appalling world where nothing is right and everything is terrifying. I can't stop shaking with fear. Please hold my hand.

OP posts:
EchoBitch · 01/01/2013 20:04

I am so sorry for your loss,i can't begin to imagine.

lougle · 01/01/2013 20:04

So sorry Sad

BettySuarez · 01/01/2013 20:11

I'm so so sorry to hear this awful news Sad

aJumpedUpPantryBoy · 01/01/2013 20:12

So sorry Lemon

GreatCongas · 01/01/2013 20:13

I'm so sorry lemon x

peggyblackett · 01/01/2013 20:14

I'm so sorry lemontruffles. We are all here for you x

ajandjjmum · 01/01/2013 20:15

I am so sorry Lemontruffles - I hope you have others you love around you.

peedoffbird · 01/01/2013 20:15

So so sorry for your loss. Awful news

Mollydoggerson · 01/01/2013 20:18

Lemontruffles I am so sorry for your loss. Take care, I am thinking of you x.

kennythekangaroo · 01/01/2013 20:21

I am so sorry to read this.

toomuch2young · 01/01/2013 20:24

So very sorry to hear your loss.
Hope you have people supporting you x

GaryBuseysTeeth · 01/01/2013 20:26

So sorry for your loss Lemon.

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 01/01/2013 20:28

Oh, LemonTruffles I am so sorrySad

Love for your husband shines through from your posts.

I wish you and your family all the best at this terrible time.

mrsharkness2 · 01/01/2013 20:28

So very sorry to hear the sad news lemon.
Take care of yourself.
X

Hulababy · 01/01/2013 20:29

I'm so sorry for your loss

friendlymum67 · 01/01/2013 20:29

I'm so, so sorry. I read your post yesterday and my heart went out to you. My darling dad died from pulmonary fibrosis when he was 60 - we always knew that if it came to him needing being to be ventilated it wouldn't be a viable option as he would never be able to survive off it. I really struggled when I heard that as I wanted everything possible to be done to save him.

My mum was bereft, as was I.

There are no words that are adequate at this time. Sending my deepest sympathy to you and your family. Sad Sad

BIWIshYouAMerryChristmas · 01/01/2013 20:30

Oh what sad news Sad I'm so sorry to read this, Lemon.

AlreadyScone · 01/01/2013 20:36

Oh lemontruffles I am so sorry to read this. The world must look very different today. I hope you have plenty of support around you. X

Milliways · 01/01/2013 20:46

I am so sorry to hear your news. x

Feckthehalls · 01/01/2013 20:51

such sad news. I am so sorry for your loss

AgnesBligg · 01/01/2013 21:01

How terrible Lemon, so so sad to hear this. Wishing you strength for the next few days as you come to terms with this shock. x

hillbilly · 01/01/2013 21:02

I'm so sorry for your loss x

ratbagcatbag · 01/01/2013 21:06

So sorry to hear your news, please take care of yourself and surround your self with people who can support you. X

Pickles77 · 01/01/2013 21:07

Lemon I'm so sorry my thoughts are with you and your family

Varya · 01/01/2013 21:09

Hugs to you and warm caring hand offered. Will pray for you both and keep you in my thoughts XXX