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MY son died

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mumof2teenboys · 04/07/2012 04:13

Don't know how to say it, but need to put it down. My beautiful son was found dead last night. I don't know what to do. He is 22 but still my baby, how do you begin to process something like this?

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HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey · 12/07/2012 07:17

You are in my thoughts today Mumof2.

I'm wishing you, Sam and everyone else finds the strength to get through today one step at a time.

With much love and respect and a big unmumsnetty hug. x

differentnameforthis · 12/07/2012 07:22

Condolences, op. So very sorry to hear this.

KnottyLocks · 12/07/2012 07:28

Sending much love and strength to you, Sam and Moon.

Thinking of you all today.xxx

I love the image of James creating happy chaos with Shabs' darling boys. Bless you, Shabs. x

matildawormwood · 12/07/2012 07:41

I've been reading your thread and you sound so brave and lovely. I'm so sorry you lost your boy. You WILL get through it today. I'll be thinking of you. I never thought I could get through my baby's funeral but I did find some comfort in thinking of all the mothers who have walked this difficult road before me and knowing that they are still standing and still loving and laughing. Although I dreaded the day, I look back on it with real fondness. There's no need to hold it together on today of all days, but we are stronger than we know. xxx

usualsuspect · 12/07/2012 07:57

Thinking of you and your family today xx

greengoose · 12/07/2012 07:58

Thinking of you today my lovely.
You don't need to hold it together you know, and also you really don't need to say goodbye, you have your love for him in your heart forever. Today is about everyone showing how much they loved him, and showing you that too.... There will be many shoulders for you. I wish you strength. X

shabbapinkfrog · 12/07/2012 08:13

My candle is already lit up here in Lancashire. I wish I could do more to help but my candle is lit to show my support to you and your family....and for James. Will be holding you close today xxx

JugglingWithTangentialOranges · 12/07/2012 08:57

Lighting my candle here in Cambridgeshire for you all x

Remember it is a day for everyone to support one another and to remember James throughout his life Thanks

Lovely thoughts from Shabba x

ExitPursuedByABear · 12/07/2012 09:42

My thoughts are with you today.

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 12/07/2012 09:44

Michelle, it is not goodbye. It is an interlude, a very painful one. Your love for James is infinite, and you will always be able to speak to him, and tell him how much you love him.

I hope for you today that it is a day which recalls James' smiles, his laughter, his ability to care, amidst the tears and grief. May it be a day of peace and love for you all as you celebrate your special son. Xx

Norfolkbumpkin · 12/07/2012 09:50

Thinking of you today, know that we are all with you in spirit xx

BrigitBigKnickers · 12/07/2012 10:41

Thinking of you and your family today Michelle xxx

QuickLookBusy · 12/07/2012 10:53

Sending much love to you and all your family. Xx

sb6699 · 12/07/2012 14:46

Thinking of you and your family today and sending you much love and strength x

RandomNumbers · 12/07/2012 16:28

Thinking of you all today

I am so sorry for your loss x x x

Idreamof · 12/07/2012 16:31

Thinking of you and your family.

CareerChangeMum · 12/07/2012 16:32

OP Sad hope it went/is going as well as can be expected.

boomdecker · 12/07/2012 18:40

Thinking of you, and hoping you found the funeral cathartic in some ways. What an horrendous thing to live through, I am so sorry. I hope in the coming days you find many ways to cherish and celebrate James' life, and all the postive memories you all have of him.

(hugs)

JugglingWithTangentialOranges · 12/07/2012 18:49

I hope you were all able to share some of your good memories of James x
Hope the day was some comfort to all Thanks

KurriKurri · 12/07/2012 18:52

Dear Michelle, today must have been so hard for you, I hope you were able to find some moments of peace as you said your farewells to James. xx

ExitPursuedByABear · 12/07/2012 19:38

I hope you have managed to get through the day as best you can. That is one hurdle over and from here it will be one step at a time.

Thinking of you.

ginhag · 12/07/2012 19:55

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.

Thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxx

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 12/07/2012 20:56

Thinking of you tonight, I hope the funeral was a comfort to you and all James' other family members and friends.

ChippingInNeedsCoffee · 12/07/2012 22:10

Michelle, I hope that you got some comfort from the people around you today - such a difficult day. It's a long road to anything resembling normality - we are all here to help you walk that road. You are in my thoughts x

OneLieIn · 12/07/2012 22:13

Lots of love to you and your family.