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A love story : Living without my beautiful red-headed Mia

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MiaAlexandrasmummy · 16/05/2012 21:47

This love story began before Mia was born, intensified when she entered our lives, and it will continue to burn strongly forever. Mia is my red-headed flame, my sweet pea, my noisy sprite. Mia is joy, she is love, she is every good thing you can imagine. And I am so incredibly proud to be her mummy.

Yet she is gone. Mia died totally unexpectedly last October at the age of 13 months. Impossible, but true.

We miss Mia?s cuddles, her weight and her little legs curled around us, her face against our cheeks and her warm arms around our necks, the soothing pats on the back that she would give us as we in turn patted her. She was intimate, coming to us, arms raised, for a reassuring cuddle, but then with a smile, content she would wiggle free, independent and inquisitive about everything around her, exploring her world, looking in cupboards, peeking between the banisters as she climbed the stairs and just revelling in her existence.

I have tried to estimate how many times a day we kissed Mia. Picking her up, putting her down, dressing her, feeding her, washing her hands, just because? it must have been hundreds. Equally, we always made a point to tell Mia every day just how much we loved her. We know she listened.

I cannot begin to adequately describe the love that we have for our little girl. I can only ask you to imagine the most perfect feeling of love and warmth that you can, to double its intensity, and extend it to infinity and you are still not even close to the amount of love that we shared with Mia every second of the her 13 months.

This is her story, and mine, and my reality.

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chipmonkey · 03/12/2012 19:36

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ThanksThanksThanks
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Mias, I am so, so happy for you! I'll bet he's absolutely beautiful!

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin · 03/12/2012 19:39
cappucinogirl4 · 03/12/2012 19:43

Have not posted before but have been so moved by your posts.
Just had a little cry at your wonderful news
Congratulations,I'm so happy for you both.xx

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin · 03/12/2012 19:47

Just come back to read the news again.

Grin I can't stop smiling and crying. Finn and Mia have the most wonderful mummy and daddy.

All my love Thanks

expatinscotland · 03/12/2012 19:49

Congratulations!

buzzgirly · 03/12/2012 19:51

Congratulations! Wonderful, wonderful news! I have shed a wee tear thinking your wonderful family x

Francagoestohollywood · 03/12/2012 19:51

Congratulations Smile. Lovely news Smile

Northernlurker · 03/12/2012 19:51

Congratulations on the birth of your son :)

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo · 03/12/2012 19:56

Congratulations, what a wonderful gift but then, how could we be surprised at a wonderful gift from a wonderful little girl? I have followed your story and the way you write and your love for Mia, brings her alive to me. I wish you all a happy time, with Mia smiling down on you.

Love to you all xx

janey68 · 03/12/2012 20:01

Oh wow what fantastic news! I have a lovely picture in my head now of you and mrMia playing pass the baby for cuddles! Much love to you ALL.

CJMommy · 03/12/2012 20:02

A wonderful gift from your beautiful Mia. Welcome to the world Finn. You will be so loved xx Smile

Trumpton · 03/12/2012 20:04

How lovely and what a wonderful strong name, one of my favourite names. Congratulations.

Bluetinkerbell · 03/12/2012 20:06

Welcome Finn! You are so loved!

Flossiechops · 03/12/2012 20:22

Many many congratulations on the birth of your son. What a beautiful name xx

GranddadofMiaAlexandra · 03/12/2012 20:22

Three very relieved and happy grandparents, and one particularly happy aunt whose name is Fiona, along with the other aunts and uncles on both sides of the world.
Congratulations to two very clever parents, and congratulations to Finn for choosing them.
To those who have supported Mia's Mummy throughout a long and very difficult time, many thanks, and for the prayers of the many, including JMF, thank you.
Mia's pages in life have been bookmarked, always to be opened frequently, but another book has now been opened also.

KnottyLocks · 03/12/2012 20:30

Oh many , many congratulations Smile

I am so happy for you all.

Welcome, little Finn. You are blessed with the most wonderful family.

Thinking of you all and your darling Mia x

Welovecouscous · 03/12/2012 20:31

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flubba · 03/12/2012 20:33

Many, many, many congratulations on the safe arrival of little Finn. What a wonderful gift to you from his sister.

Much love to you all

xxx

barbarianoftheuniverse · 03/12/2012 20:33

Many congratulations! So glad you have Finn to follow your starry Mia.

RatherBeOnThePiste · 03/12/2012 20:43

Oh my lovely, how delighted I am to hear your very lovely news.

Many, many congratulations, and big hugs for you all and small gentle squishy ones for Finn. Welcome to the world.

Just marvellous.

Love to you all and thinking of the beautiful Mia as always xx

ledkr · 03/12/2012 20:50

Well done. Great news which will inspire others I hope,

jmf294 · 03/12/2012 20:56

Oh Mia's mummy- absolutely over the moon to hear this wonderful news.
In fact tears in my eyes.
Welcome to the world darling little Finn- you really do have the most amazing parents.
Mia - a big sister now who will continue to live through the love and light that fill her family.
God bless you all
Love and light xxx

eightytwenty · 03/12/2012 21:01

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Rowgtfc72 · 03/12/2012 21:05

Congratulations Miasmummy-and daddy ! Finn is a lucky little boy to have such an amazing family x

ohmeohmy · 03/12/2012 21:25

What a beautiful gift. Congratulations and welcome Finn

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