What is the etiquette when close friend pinches knowingly your first choice baby name....

[tryingtobemarypoppins]

...........just found out by text. Evie, bit sad TBH as DH said well we can't use that then! Surley we can though??

Just use it and give her the middle name "Wethoughtofitfirst". That will teach them.

You can use it. Just come back quickly with a 'Congratulations! Great name! It's on our list too. We love it etc'

I would just use it.

Had you actually told your friend that this was the name you were definitely going with?

If so, then I would be most miffed and would definitely go ahead and use it too. I would text back and say "Lovely name - we're still going to use it for ours though - you were warned!"

I texted back "Lovely! Our first choice too, there may be two little Evie's!" was that ok???
THEN I SHOUTED AT DH!

I didn't say we were definitely going with, I just gave her my top 3, and it was top!

LOLOL at CrackFox

Good response marypoppins

Yes I loved your middle name suggestion CrackFox!

You can still use it. And you can't 'pinch' a name.

True, you can't pinch a name. Neither can you reserve it. You can, however, feel very hurt when someone close to you uses the name you have chosen and told them about. I told my best friend the name I would use if DC2 was a girl, and she then used the name for her new dog. Ridiculous, I know, but then I felt like I couldn't use it when DD arrived.

I hope you can either get used to the idea of two Evies or that you love the other names on your list just as much.

Oh, I think you should sue, obviously.

Evie is quite popular though - i could understand if it was Ursula or something!
Could you call your dd Eve, Evangeline, Evelyn and then use Evie as a nn. I prefer Evie as a nn tbh, and you can still use the name you love whilst using a different name form your friend iyswim

I do like Eva......is that the right spelling? Also like Lily and Poppy, but surname is Williams????

Tidey she named her dog after your choice!!!!!!! OMG what a cow!!!!!!

By the way, there have beeen multiple threads about similar situations with very similar names. Choose something else, your daughter will thank you for not being the sixth Evie/Evelyn/Eva etc in her class.

Nah, it was fine really, we found a name we liked even more and then didn't tell anyone what we'd chosen in case it ended up the name of a ferret or something!

LOL Tidey!
Any suggestions Georgimama?

I know it's unhelpful to say this but...this is partly why you shouldn't disucss baby names with anyone (apart from DPs/DHs obv) pre birth.

I have to know, did you friend share her list? Was Evie on it?

It is a lovely name but, yes, getting v. popular. Can you live with your other two "top threes"?

Not "live" - "love".

I didn't make a typo but re-read and realised that you need to do more than live with a name....

Anything that isn't Evie?

Do you have any other children whose names it needs to "go" with? What are your other two choices? What about surname - obviously you don't want to be specific but what letter does it start with?

What about (just some random names I quite like at the mo if I were to happen to find myself expecting a girl):

Beatrice
Helen
Juno
Lucy
Claudia
Octavia
Fleur
Isabella (it's on the wane after being v popular about five years ago)
Julia
Hermione
Agatha
Catherine

Crapweasel that is WHY I told her though......so it didn't happen......have I missed the point?????

Lily Williams = a bit of a mouth fall!
Poppy Williams = loads of poppy and not sure about being 30 years old and called Poppy!
Honey = DH loves, I am not sure at all
Matilda/Tilly = hummmmmmm

Thanks Georgimama , Fleur is ok.....growing on me..... not sure about the others! But thank-you

Oh and Crapweasel, no she never said any names.....

I do see what you mean Mary Poppins. Just wondering if your friend was secretly thinking "damn, Evie's on our list too, hope I pop first" or "hmm, Evie, hadn't thought of that...".

From your list (FWIW) I really like Matilda/Tilly and also Lily (and don't think the L thing is too much).

Honey is not one I'd go for (think there was a previous thread on this name also).

I know a Poppy so have to like but do see your point also.

From your list I would go with Matilda.

X-posted.

Fleur is nice. Also like Flora/Florence.

IMO names that are similar to Evie include Maisie, Daisy, Isabel...

I also know an Esme?

marypoppins how about going off the name Evie and telling your friend it's now .. ehem.. too common.. and is only a nickname anyway, and then go for another name you like or the classic Eva and call your DD Evie as nn.

I called my DD Evie for a few weeks and then realised it resembled 'evil' which seriously put me off and she quickly became a much more uniquely named baby girl with a name similar to Lucy meaning 'bringer of light'

PS I'd be annoyed with her though