Help me fall in love again with Amelie

[RaeOfLight]

We called our daughter Amelie and at the time I loved it. It was also the only name my husband liked so I really didn't give it enough thought.

Now 2 and a half years later I loathe it :-( Mostly because of the things I have read on here (why oh why didn't I discover this place beforehand?!!)

So PLEASE can you post some things to help me like it again? (please only post nice things tho - am sure this is total misuse of this board but I can't change her name now so need to find the love for it again!!)

Thank you!!

I love it, it was on our baby name list but we had 2 DSs!

My advice would be to watch the film again!

Well, I've not read what other posters have written about your daughter's name but I think it's absolutely beautiful.
I like the sound of it - warm and soft.
Also, it will be easy for her to pronounce.
I don't think it has any religious connotations.
It doesn't rhyme with anything silly or rude (except maybe 'jammily' !)

What's wrong with it?

I think it's lovely

I know a very sweet, kind, pretty French Amelie, so I have very good vibes about it.

A sophisticated name and one of my FAVE films. I think it's pretty.

Agree about watchind the film again-the character is so quirky. My dd is an Amelie, I think it is such a pretty name so feminine. It looks lovely when written down, easy to spell for when your dd learns to write. It is still quite unusual in some areas of the UK. I haven't read any of the posts on here that have put you off, but there are plenty of things written on Mumsnet that I totally disagree with.

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Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply - it really is helping.

Chocoluvva - I am LOVING the word Jammily :-) I may use it as a nn!

Quietly - I think you may be on to something there. I say her name roughly 1500 times a day and each time I hate it even more.

Tigers, do you have a nn for your Amelie?

I have heard vile things said about both my daughter's names. You cannot please everyone. Discount that.

Amelie is lovely. The only thing against it in my view is the increasing popularity, but then that is a really rubbish reason to dislike a name. It's a pretty name, but not too twee. I can see it on a little girl and an adult equally.

You could nickname her Melly at home to cut down the 1500 repetitions?

I think it's a lovely name.
What is it that you have read that puts you off?

VV lovely! Also really like Melly as a nn.

For the sake of your mental health and your relationship with your daughter's (beautiful) name, step away from the Baby Names topic on Mumsnet! I went through a phase of reading about my son's name on here with a sinking heart (it's also a popular but lovely name) before realising that the opinions of anonymous people on a computer screen mattered not one jot. I decided not to read the Baby Names section for many months and over time the feelings of love I have for my son's name have come back. Today is the first time I have come on here in months and I can now do it without that sick feeling in my stomach!

I am sure the OP knows where I am coming from, even if other posters think I am a little OTT

OP - your daughter has a beautiful, feminine, lovely name. There are absolutely tonnes of Nicolas, Sarahs, Katies, Julies, Pamelas, Evies, Lorraines, Sallys etc out there but the names they have makes no difference to their personalities or characters. In the same way, your Amelie shares her beautiful name with many other little girls, but that does not make her any less special, gorgeous or precious.

Enjoy your beautiful little girl and step away from this board for a while to give yourself time to treasure her name once again!!

I have read that it's "chavvy", too try hard, absurd to use it unless you're French, ridiculously popular (but it's about 50 on the list on ONS) to name but a few.

Also, very occasionally people pronounce it "Amma-lee" which for some reason gets massively on my nerves.

Love Melly but one of my best friends is Melanie so would that be a bit odd?

My DD is Tabitha - either loved or completely slaughtered on here.

It's not chavvy and no it wouldn't be odd. (correct people!)

Wildspinning- yes I totally get you. It makes me sad to read what some people think yet I have no idea why!! I'm glad it is possible to learn to love a name again and glad you succeeded.

I think I keep coming back on here to see what else I could have called her and I see so many lovely names and I feel worse!! So I do a search on her name just to find one or two positive things that people say and rarely find any!! Hence starting this thread.

Oh it really is a beautiful name, very pretty!

Thanks again for more responses. And I really like Tabitha!! (another name to add to the "should have picked that instead" list!)

I have a friend called Amelie. She is lovely and beautiful and effortlessly stylish. I have always seen her name as a part of that.

My dh railroaded me into dd2's name. I don't love it but she has plenty of nicknames.

I think its a beautiful name but how are you meant to pronounce it? I always thought it was Amma-lee, like Emily but with an A? Is that not right?

Oh Rae. I have seen people say my daughter's name is clunky, ugly and old-fashioned. You have to ignore it. Would you trust every MNers view on fashion, or food, or anything else. You have to remember that names are taste just like everything else.

Also remember that people are commenting in a vaccuum on here. They are effectively commenting on a word. They are not commenting on your daughter. Think about how often you actually think about someone's name when you meet them - fairly rarely, and usually in passing. Now think about how often you think about someone's name when you know and love them - never, unless you particularly love the name. They are judging the name like they would to a link to skinny cords, not her or you.

Also, to make yourself feel better, take a look at some of the names MN thread seem to like. Reading through many of those and realising I don't like them reminds me that I don't trust everyone on here's judgement automatically .

Who cares what we think? My dd is called another mn hated name - Sophia. Do I give a fuck? Nope. She was nearly Isabella which is apparently completely beyond the pale. So what.

Amelie is lovely and even if I didn't think it was lovely, you did. Have more courage of your convictions.

Oh it's a lovely name, every bloody name gets called chavvy in here!

I think it's really nice, you can also use Millie?

My friend wanted Amelie nn Millie but someone got in first. (with Millie)

And first what it's worth I don't know any if them or seen any in baby groups etc.

It's a beautiful, graceful adult name ( how many babies get saddled with cutesy little girly names?)
I love it and I bet you can't imagine your dd being anything else.
FWIW I went through name regret with both my DC for quite a while around the age of 2 and as a PP said its probably because you are saying her name a million times a day.