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Condom missing from boyfriend’s spare room?? Weeks ago but it’s still hurting my head. Help 🙈🤣

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rachel955 · 27/10/2026 13:37

Hey Everyone this a very long read but this is something that happened weeks ago but still hurting my head a bit. I would be a chronic overthinker. So a few weeks ago. Me and my boyfriend had really big fall outs it was a Thursday and a Friday. My boyfriend has condoms sitting in his spare room ontop of a cabinet ever since before I met him. The spare room is basically just full of ps4 games and old stuff, some clothes. Before the fall out I’m nearly sure I checked them and there was 11. Because I remember it was a pack of 12 and I remember there was always one spare sitting in the box. (Me and my boyfriend used one one time I was on my period) At the end of August. So me and my partner had a big fall out on the Thursday and I stormed out of his house at 11pm. (He was messaging me when I left and he went straight to bed) then on Friday we never spoke all day and I bumped into him at the shop around 6pm and he told me to come to his house for a chat (which I couldn’t go because I had already booked a night away with my friends) so then I started texting him and we texted back and forth up until around 10.30pm when he told me he’s exhausted and in for bed. Then the next morning around 11am he landed at my house and just acted normal we made up and I went and spent the evening with his son and him no sign of anti guiltyness. (His sons 14). And I stayed over and me and OH slept together etc. and also stayed with him on Sunday. Then it was Monday morning I checked his condoms and I’m nearly sure there was 1 missing. Because the last time I checked there was 11 and then now 10. The last time I checked there was one spare one in the box then this time it was 2,4,6,8 and then two spare ones equalling 10. Where as before it was 2,4,6,8,10 then one spare one in the box. I rung him straight away and asked who he fucked whenever we had them fall outs (although I don’t know when he would of got the time) and he was offended when I asked him and said he hasn’t been in that spare room in weeks and we broke up for literally a week over this. He’s never gave me any suspicion of cheating and on that morning he came to my house (before the condom incident) he handed me over his phone and even gave me the password for his phone and any time we have fell out before he easily hands over his phone. And alls he really does is works and sleeps. He also told me it might of been his son as his son is in and out of that room getting ps4 games, but he asked his son and his son said no. But over the weekend his son was tellin us he has a friend whose a girl and she was hinting about him going to the formal with her etc. so I have no clue. But the week we where broke up he landed to my house crying and put his hand on my heart and said he has never even looked at another girl since me and he even messaged my friend and my dad to try and get speaking to me and even swore blind to him he never done anything. Advice would be grateful I also have screenshots I could share from what he said. He after 5 days then told me he also remembers a month ago giving a guy from work one and then he messaged the guy to. Will post photos

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Gotthepills · 27/10/2026 13:39

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rachel955 · 27/10/2026 13:40

im the green.

Condom missing from boyfriend’s spare room?? Weeks ago but it’s still hurting my head. Help 🙈🤣
Condom missing from boyfriend’s spare room?? Weeks ago but it’s still hurting my head. Help 🙈🤣
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What does that mean haha

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Keroppi · 27/10/2026 13:40

More than likely it's his son but more to the point you need to sort your life out, ringing him and going mental, breaking up for a week and ignoring each other. Sounds a mess

RaggedRocks · 27/10/2026 13:41

Posh wank?

OffTheMap · 27/10/2026 13:42
  1. Its the son
  2. You really don’t trust him with this constant audit of condoms and checking if phones - unless he has given you cause this is a you problem
  3. It was really really inappropriate to question his Ds due to your suspicion in the relationship.
Tummytroubles22 · 27/10/2026 13:43

Set the poor guy free. No one needs a constant drama in their life like this.

PrawnAgain · 27/10/2026 13:43

rachel955 · 27/10/2026 13:40

im the green.

Yikes!
I'd hate to be interrogated like this. You clearly don't trust him so set him free to find someone who does

Sugarleaf · 27/10/2026 13:43

Bloody hell, are you old enough to have teenage age children? You sound about 12.

Ponderingwindow · 27/10/2026 13:45

If you don’t trust the man to the point that you are counting condoms, you should be using condoms every time you have sex. Really, you should be using condoms regardless, but especially so if you have any doubts as to his fidelity.

CrowMate · 27/10/2026 13:45

Oof. You sound like a complete nightmare.

Gotthepills · 27/10/2026 13:46

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OffTheMap · 27/10/2026 13:47

Having read the text exchange if I were him I would run. Fast.

horsesaanddogs · 27/10/2026 13:47

Poor Ricky

ModernNV · 27/10/2026 13:48

Yikes OP, those msg from you are a little much. At the end of the day you either believe him and move forward or you dont and break up. You dont recall exactly how many condoms there were so that's hardly solid proof. Honestly, you don't sound old enough to be dating someone with a teen son and there's too much drama between fighting/storming out/ignoring. Relationships shouldn't be this hard.

Irritableowlwan · 27/10/2026 13:49

If my partner referred to me as 'pet' during an argument even if he were from Newcastle he would be an ex.

PinkyFlamingo · 27/10/2026 13:49

You have major issues and that's putting it mildly.

Scarlettpixie · 27/10/2026 13:51

You sound very young. You clearly don't trust him if you are counting condoms and checking his phone. Those texts are grim.

I think you should call it a day. He would be well rid.

TheLastSilverSaint · 27/10/2026 13:53

Are you the same person who posted about your boyfriend owning condoms from before he met you and was insisting that you needed to know exactly when he bought them and were trying to work it out from the expiry date on the box?

Either way - you've got some serious issues and your boyfriend would be wise to run a mile. You're abusive.

If a woman came on here and said 'I have to give my boyfriend my phone so he can check it every time we argue to prove I haven't cheated' everyone would telling her to leave him because's abusive and controlling, and they would be bloody right.

Pinkflamingo10 · 27/10/2026 13:56

This man needs to run for the hills.

Coconutter24 · 27/10/2026 13:58

On two occasions we know of you have randomly counted his condoms… you need help. You say you’re an over thinker and that shows quite clearly.

MuckSavage · 27/10/2026 14:00

You both sound batshit

ColdAsAWitches · 27/10/2026 14:01

You again?

Still policing your boyfriend's condom use?

Irritableowlwan · 27/10/2026 14:02

Maybe he is using them as water balloons.

Violetplus4 · 27/10/2026 14:06

Are you over the age of consent op? Because you sound like a child and a very unhinged one at that.