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Condom missing from boyfriend’s spare room?? Weeks ago but it’s still hurting my head. Help 🙈🤣

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rachel955 · 27/10/2026 13:37

Hey Everyone this a very long read but this is something that happened weeks ago but still hurting my head a bit. I would be a chronic overthinker. So a few weeks ago. Me and my boyfriend had really big fall outs it was a Thursday and a Friday. My boyfriend has condoms sitting in his spare room ontop of a cabinet ever since before I met him. The spare room is basically just full of ps4 games and old stuff, some clothes. Before the fall out I’m nearly sure I checked them and there was 11. Because I remember it was a pack of 12 and I remember there was always one spare sitting in the box. (Me and my boyfriend used one one time I was on my period) At the end of August. So me and my partner had a big fall out on the Thursday and I stormed out of his house at 11pm. (He was messaging me when I left and he went straight to bed) then on Friday we never spoke all day and I bumped into him at the shop around 6pm and he told me to come to his house for a chat (which I couldn’t go because I had already booked a night away with my friends) so then I started texting him and we texted back and forth up until around 10.30pm when he told me he’s exhausted and in for bed. Then the next morning around 11am he landed at my house and just acted normal we made up and I went and spent the evening with his son and him no sign of anti guiltyness. (His sons 14). And I stayed over and me and OH slept together etc. and also stayed with him on Sunday. Then it was Monday morning I checked his condoms and I’m nearly sure there was 1 missing. Because the last time I checked there was 11 and then now 10. The last time I checked there was one spare one in the box then this time it was 2,4,6,8 and then two spare ones equalling 10. Where as before it was 2,4,6,8,10 then one spare one in the box. I rung him straight away and asked who he fucked whenever we had them fall outs (although I don’t know when he would of got the time) and he was offended when I asked him and said he hasn’t been in that spare room in weeks and we broke up for literally a week over this. He’s never gave me any suspicion of cheating and on that morning he came to my house (before the condom incident) he handed me over his phone and even gave me the password for his phone and any time we have fell out before he easily hands over his phone. And alls he really does is works and sleeps. He also told me it might of been his son as his son is in and out of that room getting ps4 games, but he asked his son and his son said no. But over the weekend his son was tellin us he has a friend whose a girl and she was hinting about him going to the formal with her etc. so I have no clue. But the week we where broke up he landed to my house crying and put his hand on my heart and said he has never even looked at another girl since me and he even messaged my friend and my dad to try and get speaking to me and even swore blind to him he never done anything. Advice would be grateful I also have screenshots I could share from what he said. He after 5 days then told me he also remembers a month ago giving a guy from work one and then he messaged the guy to. Will post photos

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Duckswaddle · 27/10/2026 16:37

Christ alive. Do people actually live like this?

Sugarleaf · 27/10/2026 16:38

I am cringing for you. These texts are unhinged.

AMarkAMissionABrandAScar · 27/10/2026 16:38

Duckswaddle · 27/10/2026 16:37

Christ alive. Do people actually live like this?

Some people do thrive on the drama. No man is special enough to warrant a silent creep into the spare room to count the bloody condoms every day. And definitely no girlfriend is worth spending your time replying to hysterical text chains about the same thing over and over again.

Thehop · 27/10/2026 16:39

You're not well and you need to leave him alone now. How is he putting up with this? Poor guy

Zanatdy · 27/10/2026 16:43

Good lord. Just leave the guy alone, my god.

Irritableowlwan · 27/10/2026 16:47

Note to self, teach son never to hand over his phone and explain every minute of his life to any girl/woman.

Chickpeacurrywithrice · 27/10/2026 16:48

Massive read flags here!

he should run for the hills!

Chickpeacurrywithrice · 27/10/2026 16:49

Chickpeacurrywithrice · 27/10/2026 16:48

Massive read flags here!

he should run for the hills!

*red flags 🚩

nam3c4ang3 · 27/10/2026 17:08

Fucking hell - please please please let the guy be sensible to see what a fucking nutcase you are and run FAST. You are unhinged. Work on yourself.

PinkyFlamingo · 27/10/2026 17:14

rachel955 · 27/10/2026 16:19

It entirely does matter if he’s cheated I don’t want to remain with a cheat ? How do people not get that

How do you not get you're behaving completely irrationally? You don't trust him so end the relationship.

Goodadvice1980 · 27/10/2026 17:17

It’s like evolution is going backwards ………

Boreded · 27/10/2026 17:23

What have I just read.

This relationship is mental. How old are you? You sound young but then he has a 14 year old so it has thrown me.

The whole thing sounds like it doesn’t work. You need to go work on your self esteem and your suspicious tendencies (although I’m not convinced he isn’t lying) because at this point if he hasn’t done anything then you are blowing it by questioning him so much.

Pick what you want to believe and make the decision on your relationship based on that, because at this point his answer isn’t going to change. You either believe him or you dont

Hiredgun · 27/10/2026 17:28

rachel955 · 27/10/2026 13:37

Hey Everyone this a very long read but this is something that happened weeks ago but still hurting my head a bit. I would be a chronic overthinker. So a few weeks ago. Me and my boyfriend had really big fall outs it was a Thursday and a Friday. My boyfriend has condoms sitting in his spare room ontop of a cabinet ever since before I met him. The spare room is basically just full of ps4 games and old stuff, some clothes. Before the fall out I’m nearly sure I checked them and there was 11. Because I remember it was a pack of 12 and I remember there was always one spare sitting in the box. (Me and my boyfriend used one one time I was on my period) At the end of August. So me and my partner had a big fall out on the Thursday and I stormed out of his house at 11pm. (He was messaging me when I left and he went straight to bed) then on Friday we never spoke all day and I bumped into him at the shop around 6pm and he told me to come to his house for a chat (which I couldn’t go because I had already booked a night away with my friends) so then I started texting him and we texted back and forth up until around 10.30pm when he told me he’s exhausted and in for bed. Then the next morning around 11am he landed at my house and just acted normal we made up and I went and spent the evening with his son and him no sign of anti guiltyness. (His sons 14). And I stayed over and me and OH slept together etc. and also stayed with him on Sunday. Then it was Monday morning I checked his condoms and I’m nearly sure there was 1 missing. Because the last time I checked there was 11 and then now 10. The last time I checked there was one spare one in the box then this time it was 2,4,6,8 and then two spare ones equalling 10. Where as before it was 2,4,6,8,10 then one spare one in the box. I rung him straight away and asked who he fucked whenever we had them fall outs (although I don’t know when he would of got the time) and he was offended when I asked him and said he hasn’t been in that spare room in weeks and we broke up for literally a week over this. He’s never gave me any suspicion of cheating and on that morning he came to my house (before the condom incident) he handed me over his phone and even gave me the password for his phone and any time we have fell out before he easily hands over his phone. And alls he really does is works and sleeps. He also told me it might of been his son as his son is in and out of that room getting ps4 games, but he asked his son and his son said no. But over the weekend his son was tellin us he has a friend whose a girl and she was hinting about him going to the formal with her etc. so I have no clue. But the week we where broke up he landed to my house crying and put his hand on my heart and said he has never even looked at another girl since me and he even messaged my friend and my dad to try and get speaking to me and even swore blind to him he never done anything. Advice would be grateful I also have screenshots I could share from what he said. He after 5 days then told me he also remembers a month ago giving a guy from work one and then he messaged the guy to. Will post photos

Relax, I’m sure he’s probably just used one for the many other things a rubber Johnny can be used for….

m.youtube.com/shorts/wvC1jtPaijc?ra=m

CrowMate · 27/10/2026 17:30

Duckswaddle · 27/10/2026 16:37

Christ alive. Do people actually live like this?

Half term, isn’t it?

BananaCocktail · 27/10/2026 17:49

RaggedRocks · 27/10/2026 13:41

Posh wank?

Oh stop it. No such thing. Or invented by men who are cheating

BananaCocktail · 27/10/2026 17:51

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OffTheMap · 27/10/2026 17:53

rachel955 · 27/10/2026 16:19

It entirely does matter if he’s cheated I don’t want to remain with a cheat ? How do people not get that

Well if he has cheated (and it seems he had a very small window to do so when you had your falling out - which you yourself admit) Yes, end the relationship
But
If you spend your life checking up on him, not trusting him, his teen son and family and friends are being dragged into this , then you also need to end the relationship.

Garfieldloveslasagnepie · 27/10/2026 18:12

Jesus Christ.

rachel955 · 27/10/2026 18:17

Boreded · 27/10/2026 17:23

What have I just read.

This relationship is mental. How old are you? You sound young but then he has a 14 year old so it has thrown me.

The whole thing sounds like it doesn’t work. You need to go work on your self esteem and your suspicious tendencies (although I’m not convinced he isn’t lying) because at this point if he hasn’t done anything then you are blowing it by questioning him so much.

Pick what you want to believe and make the decision on your relationship based on that, because at this point his answer isn’t going to change. You either believe him or you dont

do you mean you think he’s lying, or not lying? And if so, how come

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rachel955 · 27/10/2026 18:20

I really don’t want criticism just peoples opinions on what they would do etc or what they would believe. He landed at my house twice crying. And did seem genuinely confused. Surely if he was lying would he not just make something up like “my son told me he took one”. Or the posh wank thing.

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Chefpig · 27/10/2026 18:21

You sound unbearable. He hasn't done it!!! Leave the poor man alone!

rachel955 · 27/10/2026 18:22

When he texted the guy he worked with

Condom missing from boyfriend’s spare room?? Weeks ago but it’s still hurting my head. Help 🙈🤣
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Irritableowlwan · 27/10/2026 18:33

He could have rang the guy to tell him what he was about to text him but who cares? This is all ridiculous over the top drama. None of this is healthy.

rachel955 · 27/10/2026 18:35

Chefpig · 27/10/2026 18:21

You sound unbearable. He hasn't done it!!! Leave the poor man alone!

What makes you think he hasn’t x

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rachel955 · 27/10/2026 18:35

Irritableowlwan · 27/10/2026 18:33

He could have rang the guy to tell him what he was about to text him but who cares? This is all ridiculous over the top drama. None of this is healthy.

He doesn’t have his number

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