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Condom missing from boyfriend’s spare room?? Weeks ago but it’s still hurting my head. Help 🙈🤣

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rachel955 · 27/10/2026 13:37

Hey Everyone this a very long read but this is something that happened weeks ago but still hurting my head a bit. I would be a chronic overthinker. So a few weeks ago. Me and my boyfriend had really big fall outs it was a Thursday and a Friday. My boyfriend has condoms sitting in his spare room ontop of a cabinet ever since before I met him. The spare room is basically just full of ps4 games and old stuff, some clothes. Before the fall out I’m nearly sure I checked them and there was 11. Because I remember it was a pack of 12 and I remember there was always one spare sitting in the box. (Me and my boyfriend used one one time I was on my period) At the end of August. So me and my partner had a big fall out on the Thursday and I stormed out of his house at 11pm. (He was messaging me when I left and he went straight to bed) then on Friday we never spoke all day and I bumped into him at the shop around 6pm and he told me to come to his house for a chat (which I couldn’t go because I had already booked a night away with my friends) so then I started texting him and we texted back and forth up until around 10.30pm when he told me he’s exhausted and in for bed. Then the next morning around 11am he landed at my house and just acted normal we made up and I went and spent the evening with his son and him no sign of anti guiltyness. (His sons 14). And I stayed over and me and OH slept together etc. and also stayed with him on Sunday. Then it was Monday morning I checked his condoms and I’m nearly sure there was 1 missing. Because the last time I checked there was 11 and then now 10. The last time I checked there was one spare one in the box then this time it was 2,4,6,8 and then two spare ones equalling 10. Where as before it was 2,4,6,8,10 then one spare one in the box. I rung him straight away and asked who he fucked whenever we had them fall outs (although I don’t know when he would of got the time) and he was offended when I asked him and said he hasn’t been in that spare room in weeks and we broke up for literally a week over this. He’s never gave me any suspicion of cheating and on that morning he came to my house (before the condom incident) he handed me over his phone and even gave me the password for his phone and any time we have fell out before he easily hands over his phone. And alls he really does is works and sleeps. He also told me it might of been his son as his son is in and out of that room getting ps4 games, but he asked his son and his son said no. But over the weekend his son was tellin us he has a friend whose a girl and she was hinting about him going to the formal with her etc. so I have no clue. But the week we where broke up he landed to my house crying and put his hand on my heart and said he has never even looked at another girl since me and he even messaged my friend and my dad to try and get speaking to me and even swore blind to him he never done anything. Advice would be grateful I also have screenshots I could share from what he said. He after 5 days then told me he also remembers a month ago giving a guy from work one and then he messaged the guy to. Will post photos

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CleanShirt · 27/10/2026 14:09

May this life never find me.

Gotthepills · 27/10/2026 14:12

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GinAndJuice99 · 27/10/2026 14:22

Well it is a bit weird that after five days he suddenly remembered giving one to a guy at work. I mean who even does that? It's not like it's something you just forget about. Did did the guy from work respond?

I don't think people are aware of this important development because nobody else made it to the end of the post

Irritableowlwan · 27/10/2026 14:24

Irritableowlwan · 27/10/2026 14:02

Maybe he is using them as water balloons.

Or a sling shot...

MyballsareSandy2015 · 27/10/2026 14:26

horsesaanddogs · 27/10/2026 13:47

Poor Ricky

😂😂

ZippyPeer · 27/10/2026 14:28

Put yourself in your boyfriends shoes. Would you like to be treated like this by your partner?

Must be exhausting for him, and also for you to be so paranoid that you are regularly counting condoms (I imagine there are other things you are doing). I'd suggest seeking some therapy

FizzyColaBottle8 · 27/10/2026 14:53

Pet 🤢

Malasana · 27/10/2026 15:10

What in the Jeremy Kyle is happening?

If you trusted him you wouldn’t be phone checking and counting condoms. If you don’t trust him you need to move on.

What a hideous drama.

Irritableowlwan · 27/10/2026 15:11

Irritableowlwan · 27/10/2026 14:24

Or a sling shot...

Or part of a halloween costume.

Malasana · 27/10/2026 15:13

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TealFrameCircle · 27/10/2026 15:13

It probably ran away from you and I don't blame it. I'm surprised the other 10 stuck around to be honest.

Electricsausages · 27/10/2026 15:17

Let the poor bugger find someone less paranoid.

Createausername1970 · 27/10/2026 15:21

I am team boyfriend.

Sorry OP but if I received ridiculous messages like that from a bloke, he would be history.

I am not saying he did or didn't use the condom, but I couldn't cope with those messages.

rachel955 · 27/10/2026 15:50

took him 5 days to say this btw? And I also asked him did he have a posh wank and he said definitly not. Although surely if he had cheated he would just lie and say oh yes I did have a posh wank the Friday night when you weren’t here. If that makes sense. The apprentice is 18 years old. And one time in work he was talking about he had met a girl etc

Condom missing from boyfriend’s spare room?? Weeks ago but it’s still hurting my head. Help 🙈🤣
Condom missing from boyfriend’s spare room?? Weeks ago but it’s still hurting my head. Help 🙈🤣
Condom missing from boyfriend’s spare room?? Weeks ago but it’s still hurting my head. Help 🙈🤣
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rachel955 · 27/10/2026 15:52

So he texted the young boy and this was it. And I said sure you could have rung him before hand or text and he showed me that he has him on nothin else apart from Instagram.

Condom missing from boyfriend’s spare room?? Weeks ago but it’s still hurting my head. Help 🙈🤣
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CleanShirt · 27/10/2026 15:56

Jesus wept.

Chunkybabythighs · 27/10/2026 15:58

Girl you're a psycho. I hope he dumps you and runs far away

rachel955 · 27/10/2026 16:02

So none of you think he cheated and I’m just bein a phyco? Can I genuinely ask what ur reasons are that he hasn’t??

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AMarkAMissionABrandAScar · 27/10/2026 16:05

It doesn't matter whether he has or hasn't. You will never believe him and you're going on and on and ON trying to get him to "prove" himself. This is emotional abuse and he needs to get TF away from you.

Rockfordpeach · 27/10/2026 16:09

I hope i never have a relationship like this, it has been painful to read.

BestMugPlease · 27/10/2026 16:11

I'd have dumped you for the length of the original post alone.

IdaGlossop · 27/10/2026 16:15

If your verbal communication is as hard to follow as your written, counting condoms is the least of your problems.

Could you tell us what you get out of this relationship? For him, it must be very hard work. What I have taken from this thread is that you don't trust him. So you need to decide whether you continue the relationship. Your position on trust in this context is a whole lot more important than whether a condom has gone into a place it would have done better keeping out of.

rachel955 · 27/10/2026 16:19

AMarkAMissionABrandAScar · 27/10/2026 16:05

It doesn't matter whether he has or hasn't. You will never believe him and you're going on and on and ON trying to get him to "prove" himself. This is emotional abuse and he needs to get TF away from you.

It entirely does matter if he’s cheated I don’t want to remain with a cheat ? How do people not get that

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SerendipityCat · 27/10/2026 16:22

The most puzzling thing is how he’s tolerated this unhinged behaviour for so long. When - not if - he splits up with you and meets someone with a more balanced outlook, shall we say, you’ll definitely be the “crazy ex” of Mumsnet legend. If he’s any sense he won’t even try to prove his innocence, you’re not going to believe him anyway, are you?

AMarkAMissionABrandAScar · 27/10/2026 16:37

rachel955 · 27/10/2026 16:19

It entirely does matter if he’s cheated I don’t want to remain with a cheat ? How do people not get that

But he's told you he hasn't and you will never believe him even if you stay together. And if he tells you he has, then you'd break up with him. Do you not see you've doomed this either way?