I’m feeling really angry

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Can someone please help me? I’m feeling angry all the time. Little things are setting me off. I hate myself for shouting at my kids all the time. I really don’t want to be like this. I get stressed over the smallest things e.g. just this week the stress of trying to organise a play date for my DD and a mum being an ass and not responding which I find incredibly rude. Yes yes I know she might be having her own stresses etc. but I find people incredibly rude and in the past I would just avoid but increasingly I’m getting annoyed by everyone. Just today driving into tesco a man stopped in the Middle of car park having a chat with another guy while I was waiting patiently behind him! After a couple of mins I beeped and he carried on talking! I’m getting so fed up of everything

OP, I suggested PMDD upthread. Please DM me if you want to know more about it. Just a few things: PMDD is nothing to do with your actual hormones, so bloodtests are likely to come back normal. It is to do with how your body responds to the fluctuations in your hormones after ovulation. Mine developed after I had DC2. Personally I think it is because I could no longer use the NuvaRing. Assuming your GP takes you seriously, they are likely to recommend hormonal contraception. I do not respond well to any form of hormonal contraception (apart from the NuvaRing) so I decided to opt for SSRIs (antidepressants) instead.

I feel for you, it is awful! I almost ended up in trouble with the police for road rage once.

Tried and tested? More like tried and found to be pretty ineffective. It's the stuff the GP prescribes that's been tried, tested and proven to work

@Thegirlwhowent It’s sad you think this. Have you had a bad experience?

Having young children is really hard as you never really get proper downtime, plus probably not getting the full quota of sleep. I used to rage in the 2 days leading up to my period (I am actually more stable now in menopause than I was then!). Be kind to yourself.

No. I think it's sad that some people mistrust what's been rigourously tested and proven. I'm sure that many plants have a pleasant or even positive effect, and the active elements of those will have been incorporated into conventional medicines. Of course, there is also the placebo effect which can be a valuable tool in all sorts of medicine.

@Thegirlwhowent I haven’t said I mistrust conventional medicine - there’s a place for both - but I do suspect you have a misunderstanding about herbal medicine or possibly have been trained to mistrust it in your profession? Herbal medicine has also been rigorously tested and proven (over hundreds of years, but with many recent trials also) and is carried out by highly qualified practitioners who train to degree level and beyond. The placebo effect can be a factor in both systems: after all this is one of the ways in which drugs work. The ‘problem’ with herbal medicine in our money-driven society is that natural plant compounds can’t be patented whereas a compound isolated from a plant can be synthesised and sold for big bucks. If you have an interest, the Herbal Reality podcast is an eye-opener.

I recommended seeing a herbalist as part of a holistic approach as the OP is showing signs of anxiety and it could be extremely beneficial as part of a treatment plan. I know because I’ve tried it for my own anxiety.

These things would piss me off. And if I was tired or hungry or stressed probably would send me over the edge. What is the rest of your life like?

Not to be rude but could your husband have become that way because your so angry all the time? Hugs maybe some hormone tests and also some therapy to help with the anger

Show kindness to
Set your priorities more realistically.
Try ..
Identifying your main three tasks of the day.
Start with them.
Reward yourself with a half hour walking in a lovely park, bushland or garden each day.

You are only responsible for how you feel and react. Try to stay calm when other people do things that annoy you. They are allowed their freedom to answer their phone when they have time etc.
Learn the feeling of stress hormones raging through your body. Stop. You don't need that. How do you best relax? Employ those techniques. You are responsible for how you respond.

Things are annoying people all over the place. Don't be one of those people who rages. Communucate politely. honestly then regroup and relax yourself.