DH using his phone when driving FFS

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Ive said multiple times to my DH that he should not be using his phone when driving. Repeatedly I have said this. He says he’s just changing a song or whatever and I get really annoyed with him. I’ve said he could kill someone and he needs to pack it in.

Today he rang me very distressed saying he was “changing a song” on his phone on a dual carriageway and a man in the passenger seat of the car next to him was recording him and shaking his head.

I was mortified and said that it’s totally irresponsible and I’ve told him for years to stop it. I don’t even let our child get in the car with him on his own if I can help it.

he was crying and said he’ll be reported to the police. I’ve no sympathy but worried that the police with knock at our door?? What’s the likelihood of this? I’m annoyed that he’s continually broken the law, got caught and now put out family in a position where he could be arrested at our house.

he’s moping and not talking to me now. Aibu to have been so unsupportive of him?

Thank goodness he's been made to take it seriously. I hope they throw the book at him.

Let me guess, he drives a twatting great SUV?

Hopefully something happens with regards to a fine and this might knock some sense into him.

I sometimes travel with someone who does this and it’s infuriating!

he was crying??? Tell him to grow a pair and own it. When I used to cycle to work I'd occasionally see motorists using their phone. if I mentioned to them about phone use they are full of venom. Traffic queues regularly near my home and probably 30% or more of the drivers are using their phones. Getting upset after the fact is pointless

Good. I hope he gets into trouble. So fkng selfish.

Ask him if he knows what FAFO means. And then ignore him.

In which case he'll just have to find a different source of in-car entertainment 🤷 🤯
Or do we make more lenient rules for those with older mobiles? 👍😂

Did I suggest that or make excuses for the driver? I was correcting a misconception by several people on this thread that everyone has the most up to date technology in their cars, when in fact many of us still drive older cars thst don’t have steering wheel or central console controls. 🙄

The evidence is that 'hands free' is not much less dangerous than hand held

I have a fancy new car with a fancy dash display that allows me to touch for calls, flick to maps, it will read WhatsApp messages and hid knows what else.

i absolutely hate it because it’s astonishing how much attention it takes away from driving, and so unnecessary because the same controls are all thumb touch in the steering wheel. I’ve consciously trained myself to start maps or music before I switch on the ignition, like kids have to with a black box recorder.

I have a fancy new car with a fancy dash display that allows me to touch for calls, flick to maps, it will read WhatsApp messages and hid knows what else.

i absolutely hate it because it’s astonishing how much attention it takes away from driving, and so unnecessary because the same controls are all thumb touch in the steering wheel. I’ve consciously trained myself to start maps or music before I switch on the ignition, like kids have to with a black box recorder.

The OP literally posted and ran. What's the point?

@Yourestressedagain your husband is a pathetic selfish prick.

Contentious subject? One post?

Nope.

Fair enough 🙏

How are you unsupportive FFS he's an asshole.

Well, let that be a lesson to him 🤷🏻‍♀️

Unless that was a cop, would it stand up in court? Everyone knows videos/voices etc can be faked now. Sure, you might ask why would a random person fake a video about a stranger, but that's not the point.
There are now cameras on some roads that watch for people using phones as well as speeding, but that isn't what you're talking about-tell him though!
He might argue it's only the same as changing a CD a few years ago, but presumably you could have been charged for that if it made you drive carelessly? Never heard of it though.

sea yes, publicly filmed footage counts as evidence. I've upload a footage of dangerous driving (as a pedestrian, amazing what we notice all the time and can sneakily film) and the police confirmed they would use it to fine or take to court.

I know someone who crashed a few years ago while changing a CD, and one of the passengers died. (I've no idea why a driver would do this when a passenger was sitting next to them.)

Crying?
Doing something repeatedly that puts others at risk?
He's a moron.
Yanbu.

Maybe show him this, though it sounds like he might be a bit past it.