Just so fucked at what he’s just told me…

[Realjournal123]

Waiting in the departure lounge at Gatwick and my partner of 25 years whom I’ve seen so much evidence of cheating- told me about how one of his employees whilst he was out in Venezuela, picked up a girl and took her back to his hotel, had sex with her and whilst in the act, told the girl to say MY partners name over and over! He filmed her doing so of which I’m sure she would have consented, and it was all done sort of sick joke. My man told me this and thought it was hilarious. - I mean - what do I make of it? Of course I’m disgusted, why would the guy do this? They all know that we have had problems because of his infidelity and I feel they’re all having a laugh at my expense! I’m in a desperate bedroom tonight, very upset, sickened and dismayed at his lack of empathy.

Why are you still with him if you have evidence of his cheating?

I think a quarter of a century is more than enough years to have spent with this sleaze, OP.

Don’t be judgmental - you don’t know the circumstances

Gross all round

LTB. 💯
He sounds like a twat.
It will all end in tears the longer it goes on, best to leave with your dignity intact.

If you have evidence of him cheating, then get your ducks in a row and leave.
@Realjournal123

What's a desperate bedroom?

Jesus get some self respect and bin this loser

Big issue is whether she knew she was being filmed. Can you be sure about this? And why on earth would he think this was a funny story to tell you - I can understand your upset. Is he generally unkind to you?

what the guy did was awful for the girl, and just generally awful. I wouldn’t see it as something targeted at you, or at least that’s not the worst part of it, imo.

Can you leave?

Feel sorry for you as you seem to be in a sorry state but I do not understand the story. Sending wishes

Errr that's why I'm asking.Why is it judgemental? Her post literally mentions his infidelity.

Why have you stayed with him @Realjournal123
Do you get regular sexual health checks?

He told you this in an airport lounge?

Well I'd eff that and refuse to go on holiday with him. This is one to give up on.

You're choosing to stay, 25 years of infidelity is a long, long time & this is what bothers you the most?

Your life is worth more than this surely OP

Yes. You’re projecting, OP. This employee and who he has sex with are completely irrelevant to your life. A chronically unfaithful partner is your issue.

25 years yet he sounds like an 18 year old!

He sounds absolutely grim.

I meant separate bedroom.
We are a blended family and leaving would have been so upsetting to all. I did forgive him because I did t have concrete proof and he always denied( he would wouldn’t he?) I thought he had grown out of it all. Then things like this come along and I jist think he’s trying g to humiliate me with these childish fucking things.

When I say blended, we do share two children

It was a completely 100% valid question that the PP asked.

It's like marrying a pig and complaining when it comes in covered in mud.

You deserve better than this. There must be a way you can leave?

For someone to write this post they must have been incredibly upset. She must be in a terrible position. I can’t imagine anyone would stay in a relationship and be cheated on for 25 without some underlying reason. She’s the victim here.

He's absolutely taking the piss and obviously has told his friends at work he's cheated on you given the recording. Also, are you sure it's not him in the recording and he's not just double bluffing/setting this up in advance as an excuse in case you were shown it?

That’s what’s worrying g me also! Is it actually him. I weirdly asked to see it just incase and he’s said he deleted it as it was dangerous incase I somehow saw it. ( he takes his phones even to the shower)