Pure Cremation is body disposal right?

[josephiine]

The advert makes it sound like it’s a lovely thing and saves money. I get that it’s cheaper but surely that’s because it is literally a body disposal service?
My FIL has just planned his, he asked my husband if he minds which he doesn’t, but it got us talking, am I missing anything?

Well I’m religious and I’m very happily going to do direct cremation. The funeral will still happen, in church, load of speeches, sandwiches and cake, my favourite hymns.

Its just it will cost about £400 for sandwiches rather and £10,000 to a funeral director.

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DF died earlier this year and had a direct cremation (a different service though to Pure Cremation).
We opted to be told the date and time prior. I played some of his favourite songs and had a drink.
They still use a coffin and are treated with the upmost of respect. It is no different to what happens after the curtain closes at a funeral.
When his ashes were ready, they were hand delivered to DM. The lady bringing them over was dressed in top hat etc, just like when they lead a funeral procession. Very dignified, and a lovely touch.

YABU to use the term 'body disposal'. They are not treated like something to be disposed off.

Not near a stream certainly. I don’t think it’s a good idea for a body to be seeping into flowing water……🙁

All cremation and burial is just body disposal, Paying thousands more, for talk, doesn’t change that.

Yes, this is another very valid option, bert3400, and in fact there's such a burying ground just up the road from me, where instead of a traditional wooden coffin most use wicker or even just a natural fibre shroud

Everyone is cremated in a coffin. But it will be chipboard

Oh and in response to a previous poster, they do tell you when the ashes will be coming so you can arrange to be in. And as for coming “in a random car”, would you expect them to be delivered in a limo?
If you care about the dead person wearing particular clothes then it’s not the funeral plan for you but a lot of people really don’t care and it’s perfectly fine for them.

That’s why people should use their local undertaker for a direct cremation. We were able to have my Dad dressed and I was called when the ashes were back with the offer to collect or have them dropped at my house.

The loved ones get the ashes and you can do a wake/celebration of life at any venue at any time. Not tied down to a wake fire tly after the funeral service.

It's good to have choices now. It's catching on.

This is what you get from Pure Cremations, it’s nicer than some of the cardboard boxes we’ve got from other relatives who had “proper” funerals imo.

My dad has asked for this and reading about how it might be has helped, thank you. I’m sorry for your loss.

I have mixed feelings about this but would say if you want a direct cremation use a local undertaker and not a big company.
Pure Cremation have 3 crematoria and depending on where you live in the country, the body may have to be transported long distances and due to the logistics, delays do occur. My aunt had her cremation through them and it was nearly 5 weeks before her body was collected from the morgue causing much distress for my uncle who was having to chase the company for information.
A few other family members have used a local undertaker and had a much better experience and it was cheaper and more of a personal service. However they didn’t have any kind of get together later which I found sad as there was no closure but it wasn’t my decision.

@KaleidoscopeSmile I was referencing my own experience, when my Dad died last year. He was very much loved and we chose a simple cremation because he had a traumatic death and my Mum, who is in her 90s could not face a bigger occasion. We had a personal ceremony for him later, when we scattered his ashes. In my experience, it was very respectful and I thought this would help others. I chose a small, local funeral director, he came to visit just before my Dad died, to make sure we understood how things would happen and when he came to collect my Dad's body, with a colleague, they could not have been kinder or more respectful. Obviously I was referring to the respect that was shown to us, his living, grieving relatives. My Mum is now receiving palliative care and has only weeks to live, she has chosen a simple cremation for herself.

As a female, childless, only child.
I am fairly likely to outlive my husband and with no traditional next of kin relationships who would organise a funeral, it's probably my only option.

My dad had one in 2020 as it all got complicated with COVID and travelling.

I agree. I'm in the US and the cost of even a graveside only service where I live is still in the low 5 figures. And 'full service' cremations aren't that much cheaper. It's criminal!

I don't want a funeral. I don't want to be planted in a hole in the ground. I've specified that I want a 'basic' cremation and ashes scattered in the ocean. They know where and there is an organization who will do it if they can't.

I've told my boys that if they want to 'remember me' in some fashion after I'm gone I want them to use some of their inheritance to have a slap bang party or to take a holiday somewhere and think of me as they're having fun.

Actually it did.

All cremation is a body disposal service.

The no frills ones they might not put you in a coffin and your remains might get mixed up with others. Then it's presumably spread outdoors to help grow plants. Similar to what they do with pets?

Many people believe their body has no connection to their soul/self once they pass away so it has no physical or sentimental value.

Might have done for you (and im glad for you), but it traumatised me and my siblings, made the grieving process much harder.

It sounds brilliant. I went to a funeral last month to pay our respects to a lovely neighbour, and discovered her family had paid for a double slot at the crematorium, so we could watch them cry for a whole hour.🙁

Tedious.

It’s a good option in some circumstances, but it’s not for everyone.

My parents aren’t religious, hate funerals to the point that they’ve delayed telling me when distant relatives have died until after the funeral so I won’t go (I don’t get it, but they think they’re doing me a favour!) and are very fond of saving money so I wouldn’t have any hesitation about doing this for them.

My dad had one, he lived the other end of the country so obviously his body was there. He had been separated from mum for many years and if he had had a funeral there would probably only be me and my brother and our small families there. I chose not to get his ashes and they were scattered in a garden in the area where he had lived for the last 25 years.

As I understand it ALL bodies must be in coffins - however cheap - for cremation and every body is cremated individually, so no way would a person's ashes be mixed in with others!

What's your source for these claims?

PS
Pets can also be cremated individually and the ashes returned to you - it costs of course but the option is there

no closure for you perhaps?

They definitely put you in a coffin, and your remains are definitely kept separate from others, and the ashes are definitely not spread outside. It’s nothing like pets. I mean, where did you get all that from?