Pure Cremation is body disposal right?

[josephiine]

The advert makes it sound like it’s a lovely thing and saves money. I get that it’s cheaper but surely that’s because it is literally a body disposal service?
My FIL has just planned his, he asked my husband if he minds which he doesn’t, but it got us talking, am I missing anything?

Absolutely this. And there is so much flexibility- it doesn’t have to be stiff or formal or religious.

We had a funeral service in a church for my Mum as she had some religious belief but wasn’t a churchgoer. Then we had a big wake at a local hall. The following day, my brother and I and our spouses went to the crematorium for the cremation service, which was just the four of us taking turns to stand up and talk about mum and playing some music.

Dad wasn’t religious so we had a humanist service at the crem followed by a wake at a hotel.

For both of my parents, there were a lot of attendees as they had both died somewhat prematurely, and had both been very busy, popular, and well-liked people through life.

To add- I didn’t feel any of the attendees had just turned up for the free sandwiches. They really were people who knew, liked and respected my parents.

I’ve not got any children and hope to live to a ripe old age meaning most my family will already be gone. So direct cremation is the perfect option for me, I’m not religious so don’t care for an actual funeral.

I hate them too. I can't stop crying even when it's not a close relative. My DM was cremated with a coffin and hearse and close family attended but the funeral place fucked up the music. It was £6k too! There's no way we could afford that now so I've been thinking Pure Cremation could be the answer. The only thing is how do you know it's definitely your loved one's ashes they send you? 😣

Except the body stays local and funeral directors normally offer an option to visit your loved one while they are waiting for cremation, you can satisfy yourself how well they are being taken care of yourself, you can also take things in to be put with the body for cremation at any time.

Pure cremation just take them away and anything that goes in with them needs to go at the same time, it's a very impersonal service, but you get what you pay for.

They definitely don’t. My Nanna and my dad were both dressed, we were allowed to visit them if we wanted and we had the same level of service from the FD as we would with a full attended funeral. Local is always best here.

That may be Pure Cremation, but other direct cremation services exist.
The one we used for my DF works with local crematoria.
We were able to drop off clothing for him to wear (or post it).
When his ashes were returned, the lady bringing them round was dressed the same as she would have been leading a hearse.

After DF died, a letter from Pure Cremation came for him in the post, so he had obviously seen the ad on TV and called for more information. He always said he did not want a a funeral anyway. He died suddenly and unexpectedly, and none of us were in a state to organise one.

I'm Agnostic

Aren't all funerals a body disposal service?
I'd like a direct cremation. I dont wanted money wasted on flowers, pomp and cermeony. Then when my daughter gets my ashes back she can decide what she wants to do. I suggested she could hold a little party/gathering with my ashes present. Everyone can listen to my favourite music and eat my favourite foods, talk about me (the good, the bad, and the ugly 😂) and just have a generally nice time. She likes the idea, but i'd be happy with whatever she decides to do.

I think the term "body disposal" sounds horrible. Like someone is being thrown out with the rubbish or taken to the tip.
We have a lot of law and regulation regarding how the deceased are laid to rest.

I work at a crematorium and it's 100 percent body disposal.

Wherever you live in the country, your body will be sent to Andover. It will be stored in a body warehouse until they're ready to cremate. Loved ones cannot attend the cremation or be told when it is, afterwards. They are sent ashes in a plastic tub that looks like a food recycling bin.

If the next of kin contact pure cremation, they will be met with a call centre.

If you don't want a funeral and want to keep costs down, please consult your local funeral directors and arrange a direct cremation with them. Nobody will attend, but things are kept local and you can speak with real people, not a call centre.

Crematoria are very very strictly supervised and regulated.
There's probably more chance of being given the wrong baby on leaving a Maternity Unit than being given the wrong ashes.

For that matter - how do you know the right body is in the grave?

No, you are not allowed to visit. They do not go to a local funeral home. They are sent their Central funeral home in Andover

They are sent ashes in a plastic tub that looks like a food recycling bin

Well that's simply not true!

My DH came in a paper sack inside a smart dark blue box.

You're absolutely right. As a crematorium worker, I know that I check every single coffin that comes in and give it a tag that follows them the entire way through the cremation process. It is so strict. There is literally zero chance that you will ever be given the wrong person.

Wherever you live in the country, your body will be sent to Andover.

That's not true either! Southampton has a Crematoria as does Porchester

Why are you spouting such bollocks?

I'm not spouting bollocks - pure cremation do not just use the crematorium closest to where the deceased lives, they use their facility.

https://www.purecremation.co.uk/charlton-park-crematorium

If you book a direct cremation through your local funeral director then yes, they will send you to your local crematorium.

You can contact Pure if you don't believe me 🤣

It does sound horrible, but no matter if someone is cremated or buried, it's a way of disposing of their remains in a sanitary way. The rest of the funeral is all social niceties.

I agree, but cremation is not disposing of a body really. They are transforming it, and in most cases giving the remains back to you.

I just found the term really insensitive TBH. My DF died earlier this year and we used a direct cremation service (not Pure Cremation). We did not see it as a "body disposal service". it is just the cremation without the funeral.
Body disposal just sounds like you are burdened with something and want someone to take it away.

That was absolutely not my experience

Your original post did not specify that you were only talking about the company Pure Cremation!

Pure cremation are just one company.
If you arrange a direct cremation through a funeral director then the deceased stays with them until the cremation, you can pay extra to use a local crematorium, can arrange a viewing and the ashes are returned there.
You don't choose the date but you can decline a date if it's not suitable.
You will be told the time the cremation will take place.
At least that was my recent experience.

A bit insensitive to think of it in that way if I’m honest. For a lot of people it’s circumstantial. I found out out of the blue that my father passed and it’s all I could afford at the time. Logistically we could not do a service anyway. I received his ashes, I chose the urn. I never once thought he was disposed of.

But this is personal choice, surely?
I didn't need to have a body there to say goodbye...in fact it felt preferable to traditional funerals.

It strikes me as odd... A body is just what transports the essence /soul of someone around in.

We used Pure Cremation for my dad this year. We knew when he was being cremated. There was a lovely lady delivered him back to us. No complaints about the service from them at all. Then we held a celebration of his life a couple of months later, which gave mum something to focus on for a while.