Pure Cremation is body disposal right?

[josephiine]

The advert makes it sound like it’s a lovely thing and saves money. I get that it’s cheaper but surely that’s because it is literally a body disposal service?
My FIL has just planned his, he asked my husband if he minds which he doesn’t, but it got us talking, am I missing anything?

It's handling human bodies as waste, on an industrial scale. They are stacked, stored and disposed of haphazardly, there is no personal attention.

I get that we in the UK are divorced from the concept of death, sometimes profoundly so, and in that context maybe it makes sense to treat human beings as less than offal once they are actually dead but still, it seems grotesque to me.

A friends partner planned a pure cremation. Some family members found it tough as come from a background with wakes etc.
We planned a celebration of her one month after she died. I gathered stories and memories from friends and family and did a book of it all with shared photos which she had as a running slideshow. . We gathered bunches of her favourite flowers and decorated the smallish function room in a nice bar. I asked people beforehand if anyone wanted to speak and read out on behalf of others. We made it a special day to give closure. It was really lovely and funny, just as she'd have liked.

Do you have proof of that?
It is an awful thing to say TBH. There are people on this thread that have used PC, and I am sure do not need to read that their loved ones were "stacked, stored and disposed of haphazardly" if that was not true.

Pure Cremation is what the thread is about.

Pure Cremation is one company doing it. There are lots of others also doing direct cremations so the subject isn't restricted to just the one company but the act of cremation without any funeral

TBF, the OP is on about Pure Cremation. It is even in the title.

We did exactly this. A while later due to Covid but it was much nicer having a memorial than a depressing funeral planned in the depths of grief.

I have found the rituals of some funerals we’ve attended very forced, like the bereaved have been talked into a set-piece performance by the undertaker/celebrant. Naff music, tacky flower arrangements, inappropriate speeches by people not used to talking in public, huge costs that they were too shy to say “no” to in case people thought they were stingy… the list goes on. I’d be very happy for my remains to be cremated and then scattered after a memorial party some time later, when everyone’s thinking straight.

I had direct cremations for both my parents. I chose it for DM and DF thought it was a great idea (they were divorced) so changed his pre-paid funeral to one.

You cannot say that it would leave people feeling "unresolved". We are all different, and I am happily at peace with the way it was dealt with. While I don't mind going to funerals and have almost "enjoyed" some of them I didn't want to have to attend my parents' funerals (I'm an only child, as was my DM, my DF's sisters had pre-deceased him) and I have no regrets at all. I got their ashes back and interred them later.

OP is correct. And it's what I'm having. My DC have instructions to use what is saved compared to a funeral on a wake, where they can eat, drink, laugh, cry and tell scurrilous stories about me.

They were brilliant in my experience, you can request the ashes back and they deliver them to you personally. The staff were kind and helpful.
It's then up to the family how they want to do a celebration of life, a wake , scatter the ashes etc.
Many attendees expressed gratitude at not having to sit through a service, go to the crematorium.
It is also much more reasonable price wise, more money for a gathering or charity etc

Op title quite off-putting btw