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AIBU for saying my DH needs to man tf up

178 replies

ambitiousqueen · Today 09:31

DH has just gotten a very good job promotion, and I am very proud of him. Obviously. Lovely salary, lovely title, everyone congratulating him etc. BUT. He is destined for an even greater promotion (CEO level). Don't ask how I know this.
The problem is DH keeps saying he doesn't want to "get involved in office politics" and that “nature will take its course” I've tried encouraging him. I've said, hypothetically, if there was a person standing between my DH and the CEO position, then perhaps one might consider... removing the obstacle. metaphorically I mean
Also, I may have suggested that DH invite the current CEO round for a nice little dinner.Purely hospitality, obviously. DH said he was worried about the consequences, particularly the whole "divine judgement, eternal damnation" side of things. Blah blah blah
Honestly, he's overthinking it.
I am NOT saying DH should kill anyone. Obviously not... at least not with his eyes open. I'm only saying that hypothetically, if one wanted to rise to the very top, one might need to show a little more ambition
AIBU to think DH needs to man up and seize his opportunity?
FWIW, I’ve already laid out the plan, and the metaphorical dagger is just waiting to be used.

OP posts:
Busybookworm · Today 09:32

Out, out, damn’d spot etc

MellowSubmarine · Today 09:32

Calm down Lady Macbeth, he’s only just got this promotion.

2026newname · Today 09:33

Wtf have I just read.

AnneLovesGilbert · Today 09:34

Do you put as much Machiavellian thought into your own job and career progression?

2chocolateoranges · Today 09:34

Not your career, not your business. Let your dh do as he wants regarding his career and you concentrate on your own.

Disturbia81 · Today 09:36

MellowSubmarine · Today 09:32

Calm down Lady Macbeth, he’s only just got this promotion.

😂

Xmasbaby11 · Today 09:37

You sound over invested. He's only just got this promotion - let him settle into it.

PollyBell · Today 09:38

Man up? Really?

And why are you not capable or is promotion not for little women? You could woman up?

ChrisInghamStoleMyBeanie · Today 09:39

Worry about your own promotion

BMW58 · Today 09:39

This is AIBU not Chat 🙄

gototheledthenright · Today 09:39

I think you should back off and if CEO is so important then that should be a goal for YOU

RedxRobin · Today 09:39

I think you should stop trying to manage your DH's job! If this was my DH doing this to me I would be livid by you trying to interfere!

StiffAsAVicar · Today 09:40

Just checking in that everyone’s taken their meds this morning!

wisbech · Today 09:41

LOL. You are Lady Macbeth and I claim my prize

Damnloginpopup · Today 09:41

Is this a dagger he sees before him?

I think you're right.

CremeDeMure · Today 09:42

What have you been sniffing?
Can I have some?

Enigma54 · Today 09:44

StiffAsAVicar · Today 09:40

Just checking in that everyone’s taken their meds this morning!

Just taken my last one now! 😂💊

NotTheDramaMum · Today 09:45

I agree with you. He’s overthinking everything. You’ve clearly thought this through, and he just needs to be more ambitious.

pointythings · Today 09:47

All the perfumes of Arabia will not sweeten this little hand.

Heronwatcher · Today 09:48

Hello Robert Jenrick’s wife.

OP why don’t you tell us about your own rewarding career? Where did you go for your summer holidays? Do you have any interesting hobbies?

NotTheDramaMum · Today 09:49

Um I don’t get why everyone is on this poor dh side… I’m a girls girl babe dw ill always be with you and support you

for the sticker : not life but wife

Frustrated Buzz Lightyear GIF
OooPourUsACupLove · Today 09:51

Almost the same scenario with my DH.

The "obstacles" were successfully removed and all was good, until one of them turned up at dinner uninvited and put the boot in !!!

Well. After that we tried to keep going but really my heart wasn't in it anymore. It all ended up very messy and he is no longer employed.

NotTheDramaMum · Today 09:51

NTA!!! Lovely promotion, lovely salary, but why stop there? You’re right to want more for him. 💅

OooPourUsACupLove · Today 09:53

Anyway. When shall we three meet again? I can do next Thursday...

PurpleLovecats · Today 09:53

What is going on today? Multiple really bizarre posts. Feel like I need to be drunk to understand!