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AIBU for saying my DH needs to man tf up

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ambitiousqueen · Today 09:31

DH has just gotten a very good job promotion, and I am very proud of him. Obviously. Lovely salary, lovely title, everyone congratulating him etc. BUT. He is destined for an even greater promotion (CEO level). Don't ask how I know this.
The problem is DH keeps saying he doesn't want to "get involved in office politics" and that “nature will take its course” I've tried encouraging him. I've said, hypothetically, if there was a person standing between my DH and the CEO position, then perhaps one might consider... removing the obstacle. metaphorically I mean
Also, I may have suggested that DH invite the current CEO round for a nice little dinner.Purely hospitality, obviously. DH said he was worried about the consequences, particularly the whole "divine judgement, eternal damnation" side of things. Blah blah blah
Honestly, he's overthinking it.
I am NOT saying DH should kill anyone. Obviously not... at least not with his eyes open. I'm only saying that hypothetically, if one wanted to rise to the very top, one might need to show a little more ambition
AIBU to think DH needs to man up and seize his opportunity?
FWIW, I’ve already laid out the plan, and the metaphorical dagger is just waiting to be used.

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TheBlueKoala · Today 10:21

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RonaldDahl · Today 10:21

Meanwhile, on planet earth…,

Damnloginpopup · Today 10:23

freezingmytoesoff · Today 10:20

I can't work out if the fact this is a Lady Macbeth parody is genuinely going over the heads of 80% of posters on this thread?!

I believe so. But be patient and let every man be master of his time...

Lurkingandlearning · Today 10:23

DannyDeever · Today 10:08

This one is simple. Imply he's a coward by saying something like:

“Art thou afeard
To be the same in thine own act and valour
As thou art in desire?”

Then he'll bend to your will, and you'll both live happily ever after. (I think.)
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Watch out for moving foliage in your garden.

BTW, do you believe in ghosts? No particular reason.

Love it

Fiftyandme · Today 10:23

OooPourUsACupLove · Today 09:53

Anyway. When shall we three meet again? I can do next Thursday...

Shall ye bring the cauldron?

ForDeepLilacPlayer · Today 10:24

Appalled this post is sailing over the heads of so many posters.
It's so well written as well.

Ronaldos · Today 10:27

I can put you in touch with three witches if you like , they do takeaways but the ingredients wouldn't get them through the food standards agency ratings system

OooPourUsACupLove · Today 10:28

Fiftyandme · Today 10:23

Shall ye bring the cauldron?

Happy to bring the cauldron. Can you bring eye of frog? The shop by me is right out of them. They've had a run on frogs, newts, anything slimey really. I think people are getting stuff ready for the US midterms...

DannyDeever · Today 10:29

Happyjoe · Today 10:16

Your husband sounds a better person than you!

And great to get a good job on merit, not by being an utter c**t.

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And great to get a good job on merit, not by being an utter ct.

Yeah, that's exactly how Early Middle Ages monarchy worked.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · Today 10:29

If I were him I’d chop down Birnam Wood pretty sharpish. Just saying…

Damnloginpopup · Today 10:29

ForDeepLilacPlayer · Today 10:24

Appalled this post is sailing over the heads of so many posters.
It's so well written as well.

What's done cannot be undone. Weird sisters, hand in hand.

BlessedAreTheCheesemakerz · Today 10:30

Maybe he's perfectly happy where he is. I find your behaviour very odd.

Damnloginpopup · Today 10:31

BlessedAreTheCheesemakerz · Today 10:30

Maybe he's perfectly happy where he is. I find your behaviour very odd.

The cry is still, 'They come!'"

WoesFromAuntFlo · Today 10:31

LTB and run off with the current CEO, it’s the only way

newberry · Today 10:31

2026newname · Today 09:33

Wtf have I just read.

I think it is satirical but idk the reference 🙈

Lurkingandlearning · Today 10:32

Does the company your husband works for value brown nosers? If so definitely invite the CEO to dinner.

I wonder what the wives of your husband’s competition will cook for the CEO. Maybe they will get a personal chef in for the event. You should do that.

Whatawickedgametochoose · Today 10:33

Hello Lady Macbeth or is it Lynette Scavo

JudgeJ · Today 10:33

PollyBell · Today 10:11

And i bet none of them put the effort in themselves living through others achievements it seems

In the military there used to be an expectation that the 'wife of' , rarely her own name!, would be involved on aspects of her husband's career, eg an expectation to entertain, overseas they acted like mini-social workers to the wives of young soldiers and even to older wives with far more military and life experience. It used to be that a commission from the ranks might not happen because of the man's wife! Hopefully things will have changed!

Laurmolonlabe · Today 10:34

I think you are pushing too hard, a man who doesn't want to get involved in office politics is not CEO material.

MrsJeanLuc · Today 10:34

PurpleLovecats · Today 09:53

What is going on today? Multiple really bizarre posts. Feel like I need to be drunk to understand!

You're obviously not familiar with the plot of Macbeth ... along with quite a lot of other posters.

It's obviously a spoof thread, but people are enjoying it 😁

JudgeJ · Today 10:34

NotTheDramaMum · Today 09:58

The “metaphorical dagger” comment absolutely sent me But yes girl, stand by your man and get him that CEO position!

I know of at least one wife who slept her way to her husband's promotion!

BeverleyMakka · Today 10:35

I think You need to back tf off….

Excellentboiledpotato · Today 10:35

It's all very well having your eye on the tree/prize, but it means nothing if you don't keep the other eye on the woods. Have you checked Birnam for activity recently?

Damnloginpopup · Today 10:36

newberry · Today 10:31

I think it is satirical but idk the reference 🙈

Edited

Can you not damned spot the clues?

user1492757084 · Today 10:36

Of course he will gain confident in his new role and will probably remain respectful of other workmates.

His hard work and staying out of business politics sounds great.