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My parents have become insufferable.

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PleasePleasePleaseDontProve · Yesterday 17:11

I am really struggling with my parents. Both are mid-sixties, retired. It seems since retirement they have become quite bigoted, insufferable and insular in their viewpoints. Every time I meet up with them conversations revolve around:

  • Illegal immigration / people on benefits / Reform and Nigel Farage. Essentially focussing around the latest GB news story (which they watch religiously).
  • Their latest or ongoing health ailments and how poor, in their view, the NHS is.
  • Unnecessary and rude descriptions to describe other people (could be random strangers) or people they know. For example, ‘our fat neighbour has put on tons of weight.’

I used to have a fantastic relationship with my parents, particularly my father, and I’m sure he wasn’t always like this. I’m starting to dislike meeting up with them as their attitudes seem to have changed towards life and people in general, and they constantly want to discuss the latest GB News story.

Has anybody else found this has happened to their parents?

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Mmhmmn · Yesterday 23:59

I just say no, I don’t agree with that when the political stuff starts up (views infected by daily Mail) but I really can’t be bothered getting into the weeds of such discussions.

Bananacrepewithnuts · Today 00:03

InveterateWineDrinker · Yesterday 17:29

They've been radicalised by GB News and the Daily Mail.

Get them referred to Prevent.

Lol. True.

SixtySomething · Today 01:02

I feel rather strange reading this post as IÄ…m retired and very much of this age.

I think I'm more interesting and open minded because I now have time to inform myself about politics etc.
I also find this is true of the people I know, who are also in this age group.
I don't know anybody who is like the OP describes.
I'm not doubting her word, but am not sure what would make some people like this.
Some of the responses here are rather dismissive of older people, so that makes me wonder whether the adult child is partly contributing to this situation by the attitude they bring to conversations, dismissing the opinions of older folk too readily, or treating different opinions from their own as worthless.

I deliberately have a username that indicates my age and have been surprised by how dismissive some posters are towards me, sort of assuming I don't know what I'm talking about, or that I hold my opinions for unjustifiable reasons.
I may be wrong of course but can't help wondering whether some of this is in the eye of the beholder.

swimsong · Today 01:25

CoventryCity · Yesterday 21:12

As you're so clever, you will of course understand that the NHS do give priority care to asylum seekers. Right?

Edited

Citation needed

swimsong · Today 02:09

PleaseDontTreadOnTheDaisies · Today 01:42

https://www.lbc.co.uk/article/nhs-asylum-seekers-priority-care-address-inequalities-waiting-lists-5HjcxZY_2/

No point denying it, it's been in the news. You may support it, that's your right, but no point denying it.

Clickbait headline with the article mainly cribbed from a Daily Telegraph sensationalist piece featuring anonymous quotes.

An accurate non-shitstirring headline that fairly represents the initiative would read "Priority care given to vulnerable patients, which can include asylum seekers..."

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