To think that the dressing gown was one step too far?

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In a petrol station buying a coffee at nine thirty in the morning. Looking down realised that the young woman behind me was wearing obvious pyjamas. And slippers. Then looking up to see a fluffy cream dressing gown.

I can't decide if it matters. I was brought up to believe that it shows a complete lack of self respect, and a lack of respect for anyone else, but does it, these days?

YABU. Perfectly normal wear for filling up your car.

YANBU. What is the world coming to that anyone thinks that's reasonable.

All of the people who are so upset about this what do you think about the people roaming the streets in furry dog heads or fetish gear? How about the hairy men in dresses or the people who wear see through clothing? How about the people who are dressed in day clothes but stinky absolutely rotten?

Of all the crazy things people wear these days, a pair of pyjamas has you outraged? I just don't get it.

@IronEverything I have never seen anyone wearing fetish gear outside of a club. And I have only seen men wearing dogs heads or see through clothing on the net.
You talk as if every high street has people wandering around wearing fetish gear, instead of the tracksuit, trainers, t shirt and jeans I actually see.

Depends where you live. There's a very broad assortment in my nearest city. There's a group of fetish/furry gear wearing people who congregate at a fountain several days a week. They often bark at people who walk by.

What would mumsnet become if everyone adopted that approach

No they were definitely wearing pjs, with slippers etc

Quite apart from the fact that it is lazy and inappropriate to wear nightwear outdoors, it also defeats what I always thought was the purpose of nightwear. Slippers are indoor shoes, if you wear them outdoors you bring dirt indoors. You might as well just wear your normal outdoor shoes all the time instead of even having slippers. Same with pyjamas - my pyjamas are clothes I wear to bed that don't have the grime of the public bus or my workplace on them. Why would I wear them outdoors and bring all of that into the bed where I sleep?

No, I wouldn’t. Because it is none of my damned business. That alcoholic could have easily have been my dad, if we, as a family, hadn’t stood by him and got him the help and support he needed. He ran a massively successful company but as soon as many middle aged men do, he fell into depression and turned to the bottle. The only person I’d be bothered about cheating on their spouse would be my own husband. Anyone else can deal with their own consequences.

We do not, as a society need to be judging anyone for their life choices, least of all if they go to the store in their PJs. Because that assumes that there is only one way to live and who gets to decide how that is? Decades ago we judged women for wearing trousers. A century ago it was for showing their ankles. I’ll bet you are the kind of person who would have been entirely on board with doing that, wringing your hands about how society was going to hell because of it. It wasn’t then and it isn’t now.

Sitting on a bus a few weeks ago saw a man in his late 50’s, early 60’s walking his dog down a main road wearing just a short dressing gown and baseball cap. Dressing gown was open over his hairy chest (ugh) so looked like he just had underwear beneath dressing gown. I find it unacceptable and lazy.

I have inside “slippers” and outside “slippers”. They are basically just slip on trainers.

I don't care what people are wearing. As long as they don't stink they aren't impacting me at all. If I need to collect my DC from a friends late at night I might wear PJ bottoms and a jumper in the car. Just luck that I've not been caught out with a flat tyre or something but I still wouldn't care that much. I'm covered up, whats the big deal.

This is one of the Mumsnet things that however much I think I just can’t understand. Barring offensive comments on t shirts and not covering body parts that should be covered why on EARTH does it matter what other people wear? WHY??????

It certainly is a decline in standards. My DD told me that she saw a mother and her 2 young DC in Tesco all in their PJs.

I saw a girl around 9/10 with her mother in her silky strawberry patterned PJs and her attitude was kind of is everyone looking at
me. I thought not for the reasons you think they are.

I was also thinking about the recent thread about wearing PJs all day when at home and
just couldn’t see myself going about my day, doing the things I had to do and feeling good about myself whilst wearing PJs.

Also it is never going to happen because I don’t and never have owned a pair.

It really is quite sad that people can’t be bothered about their appearance.

That is grim, fishing around in their undies to retrieve their money. You should give them their change all in coppers.

So if your husband cheated on you habitually, you’d judge him for it? Or would you say, hey ho, that’s his perfectly legitimate lifestyle choice?

My walk into work takes me past two blocks of flats with a Tesco Express on the ground floor. I often see people in their pjs and slippers going from/to the flat doors with milk or breakfast stuff.

Jesus....I worked in the service industry when I was younger and absolutely no way would I accept money from someone who has reached into their knickers for it!!!!

Tbf there is a large traveller community here and the younger generation of travellers do this all the time. However the ones over 40 never do and are as aghast as us about it!

Have taken DDog out at the crack of dawn in PJs with a coat on top….

Did this really happen?! I wonder what she'd do in the privacy of her own home. Some people are truly revolting

But are they clean? Did the person get up and wash themselves and then put back on their jammies? I think it's laziness.

What low standards you have🤣🤣

Utterly feral. Standards have honestly dropped beyond low.

Presumably, as you are above all judging, you don’t judge anybody’s comments here?

Course she wouldn’t judge him. She is a saint and above all this!

That is a pretty low bar.