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AIBU to want to express support for women who were assaulted at a political conference?

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Warmlight1 · 08/09/2026 21:41

To want to send out support to the two women visibly assaulted at a political conference.
I am concerned about the other protesters too and actually anyone who was hurt. But having to listen to jeering from the podium plus the crowd chanting in live TV at the same time must have been so traumatic and the publicity will die down and coverage move on but that can't be easy. Just want to send love and support.

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OneLilacHedgehog · 09/09/2026 14:15

Heckling is not a crime and every party conference has at least one heckler. No other party apart from reform has seen hecklers attacked and the leadership agreed with the attack.

anniegun · 09/09/2026 14:18

Reform supporters will use any excuse to hit a women. Wrong politics, wrong colour, wrong look.

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 14:19

In fact @Shakeoffyourchains I am getting tired of your accusations. You don't ever reply to my posts, you make comments about how many times I post. Are you a mod? Lay off and attack the post not the poster.

Shakeoffyourchains · 09/09/2026 14:51

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 14:19

In fact @Shakeoffyourchains I am getting tired of your accusations. You don't ever reply to my posts, you make comments about how many times I post. Are you a mod? Lay off and attack the post not the poster.

First, I said joined / name changed as I don't know if you joined the forum in May or changed username in May.

Second, I've not attacked you once. I've merely stated factual information about your posting habits.

Third, from what I can see any attempt to challenge your posts or ask questions of you is met with deflection, whataboutery, silence or accusations of personal attacks.

Lastly, and to borrow from you, who are you to tell me how, where and when I can post?

Warmlight1 · 09/09/2026 15:02

Everanewbie · 09/09/2026 12:49

I have two thoughts at the same time.

This woman pretended to be a Reform member to disrupt their conference and she should not have been there in the first place, and could expect to be physically ejected. No one there wanted to listen to her, she was being self-righteous and self-indulgent.

This woman should not have been struck and received forceful blows, and the way the that she was assaulted was disproportionate. These men and Reform should hold themselves to a higher standard than this, and those who landed blows should face criminal action.

These men are Reform. The wish they will ' hold themselves to a higher standard' is a little naive though isn't it, seeing that the leadership seems broadly in support of the actions.

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LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 15:03

Shakeoffyourchains · 09/09/2026 14:51

First, I said joined / name changed as I don't know if you joined the forum in May or changed username in May.

Second, I've not attacked you once. I've merely stated factual information about your posting habits.

Third, from what I can see any attempt to challenge your posts or ask questions of you is met with deflection, whataboutery, silence or accusations of personal attacks.

Lastly, and to borrow from you, who are you to tell me how, where and when I can post?

My posting habits are totally irrelevant. I type quickly. I learned to touch type aged 18. I think quickly so I respond immediately. I'm semi retired, spend quite a bit of time at home so have time on my hands. I post on many threads, relationships, weight loss, and offer my opinion/device. You don't own the forum but you seem to think you've got a right to try and embarrass me into suggesting I'm up to something. Do you do the same to other posters. Once and for all, I am NOT am a troll, a Reform party member, Katie Hopkins! You can try and be clever and throw something out there and then deny it. I'm not going to be bullied by a group of posters into stopping posting because my views are unpopular.

Warmlight1 · 09/09/2026 15:07

BendoftheBeginning · 09/09/2026 13:02

Ironically, the grooming gang men would also say that they care deeply for the wellbeing of the “right type of woman.” But for women they don’t approve of, they believe that righteous people like themselves can do whatever they want to them.

The parallels with what happened at the Refrom conference are pretty clear. Reform has no issue with beating up the “wrong type of woman.” And that was in public! Imagine what happens in private.

I am concerned in general for those ' caught up.'. Many people probably didn't join to be complicit in this kind of thing. They perpetuate the myth of the strong woman but there's no dealing with that.

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Warmlight1 · 09/09/2026 15:09

Boppydoodah · 09/09/2026 13:02

Yikes 😬 I work in the DV sphere, do you know how many violent men use exactly these words to excuse themselves for beating the shit out of their partners and kids?

"You just make me so crazy, why'd you have to do that, you just pushed me too far, I wouldn't hurt you if you didn't make me, it's your fault" ... you sound just like them.

Yes that is very abusive.

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Everanewbie · 09/09/2026 15:11

Warmlight1 · 09/09/2026 15:02

These men are Reform. The wish they will ' hold themselves to a higher standard' is a little naive though isn't it, seeing that the leadership seems broadly in support of the actions.

It is disappointment because I agree with their policies, but can't vote for thugs.

Persephonia1966 · 09/09/2026 16:34

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 15:03

My posting habits are totally irrelevant. I type quickly. I learned to touch type aged 18. I think quickly so I respond immediately. I'm semi retired, spend quite a bit of time at home so have time on my hands. I post on many threads, relationships, weight loss, and offer my opinion/device. You don't own the forum but you seem to think you've got a right to try and embarrass me into suggesting I'm up to something. Do you do the same to other posters. Once and for all, I am NOT am a troll, a Reform party member, Katie Hopkins! You can try and be clever and throw something out there and then deny it. I'm not going to be bullied by a group of posters into stopping posting because my views are unpopular.

You have every right to post on Mumsnet as often as you wish.
Sometimes your posts come across as combative/disruptive and even, dare I say it, like heckling? You have every right to do this of course. There is just a strong irony that this thread is about whether or not it is acceptable to hit a woman with a stick and grab her by the throat for being combative and heckling. And here you are being quite combative/repetitive on the thread. Not attacking you. I just think it's ironic.

Persephonia1966 · 09/09/2026 16:36

Warmlight1 · 09/09/2026 15:09

Yes that is very abusive.

Strong undercurrents of satisfaction at gobby women being "put in their place" as well. Although probably the same might have happened to a man. I'm not sure though whether if it had been a big burly (but peaceful) bloke the pensioners would have gone for them with the same enthusiasm. I guess it's a hypothetical.

CaptainMyCaptain · 09/09/2026 16:49

soddingspiderseason · 09/09/2026 12:01

Its an age thing. People who went to school in the 1960s were taught to put spaces before and after punctuation. Older people are more likely to support Reform.

I went to school in the 60s and I was not taught to put spaces in punctuation like that, neither do I support Reform.

SevenYellowHammers · 09/09/2026 17:04

CreativeGreen · 09/09/2026 12:54

Let's try again, and maybe this will be clearer. They were there to object. I'm sure they expected to be removed, and that is par for the course in situations like this. I doubt they thought 'I hope Reform bash us with sticks and pull our hair, that will be great'. But since that was indeed the way Reform responded, it does end up showing them for what they are.

So, cynically, from the protestors’ point of view, job done? True Reform colours shown. You’d think they’d be a bit more on the case. They really are in the “not very good club”.

soddingspiderseason · 09/09/2026 17:19

CaptainMyCaptain · 09/09/2026 16:49

I went to school in the 60s and I was not taught to put spaces in punctuation like that, neither do I support Reform.

Some of my older staff, in their late 60s do this and that was the reason they gave - that they were taught to do it at school. Maybe it’s different in different areas? And the age profile of Reform voters is that they are older. Younger people tend to be less right wing. This doesn’t mean that everyone who is older votes Reform, just that it’s proportionally more likely than if someone is younger.

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 17:32

Persephonia1966 · 09/09/2026 16:34

You have every right to post on Mumsnet as often as you wish.
Sometimes your posts come across as combative/disruptive and even, dare I say it, like heckling? You have every right to do this of course. There is just a strong irony that this thread is about whether or not it is acceptable to hit a woman with a stick and grab her by the throat for being combative and heckling. And here you are being quite combative/repetitive on the thread. Not attacking you. I just think it's ironic.

I could point out many posters who do the exact thing you've just highlighted but I won't because I don't believe in targeting posters.

I have made it clear I don't agree with violence on idiots who gain entry to conferences through deceitful means. I'm not going to post in a style that goes against my beliefs. Simple.

Ihateboris · 09/09/2026 17:36

OneLilacHedgehog · 09/09/2026 14:15

Heckling is not a crime and every party conference has at least one heckler. No other party apart from reform has seen hecklers attacked and the leadership agreed with the attack.

Exactly. I can guarantee that Andy Burnham or Kemi Badenoch wouldn't have agreed, and certainly wouldn't have laughed at the heckler.

OneLilacHedgehog · 09/09/2026 17:40

Ihateboris · 09/09/2026 17:36

Exactly. I can guarantee that Andy Burnham or Kemi Badenoch wouldn't have agreed, and certainly wouldn't have laughed at the heckler.

I totally agree.
It's about intimidation. Intimidate women by physically assaulting them so they won't disagree with reform in public again. And to try to scare anyone else who might have been thinking about publicly disagreeing or heckling.

Persephonia1966 · 09/09/2026 17:49

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 17:32

I could point out many posters who do the exact thing you've just highlighted but I won't because I don't believe in targeting posters.

I have made it clear I don't agree with violence on idiots who gain entry to conferences through deceitful means. I'm not going to post in a style that goes against my beliefs. Simple.

And none of them deserve to be attacked either. Neither did the woman and I am glad you agree with that. That fact sort of renders all the other points about her character/intelligence levels irrelevant though doesn't it?

CaptainMyCaptain · 09/09/2026 17:53

soddingspiderseason · 09/09/2026 17:19

Some of my older staff, in their late 60s do this and that was the reason they gave - that they were taught to do it at school. Maybe it’s different in different areas? And the age profile of Reform voters is that they are older. Younger people tend to be less right wing. This doesn’t mean that everyone who is older votes Reform, just that it’s proportionally more likely than if someone is younger.

I have never seen a space before a comma at school or in the years when I worked as a secretary or at university or as a teacher.

Persephonia1966 · 09/09/2026 17:55

Everanewbie · 09/09/2026 15:11

It is disappointment because I agree with their policies, but can't vote for thugs.

Agree about the thugs element. TBF I don't think one can.judge any party by how a minority of their members behave. I am sure there are people in The Green party, Labour the Conservatives etc who have done bad things. What really shocked me was Farage's reaction to it in the moment (chuckling away on stage) and then his and others reaction in the aftermath. I think I have different political views to you but TBF if he had, as the woman was grabbed, asked them to lay of or something he would have.cone across as gracious/a bit dignified. There are people I disagree politically with whose character I like (Widdicombe, to an extent Badenoch).

CovenOfCheeses · 09/09/2026 17:58

Warmlight1 · 08/09/2026 21:41

To want to send out support to the two women visibly assaulted at a political conference.
I am concerned about the other protesters too and actually anyone who was hurt. But having to listen to jeering from the podium plus the crowd chanting in live TV at the same time must have been so traumatic and the publicity will die down and coverage move on but that can't be easy. Just want to send love and support.

They were impinging on Nigel’s right to free speech and had no business in doing so. They took the risk and should accept the consequences. The courts, the political ombudsmen and protestors have no right to challenge Nigel, only the wise and good people of Clacton should decide whether Nigel was guilty or not.

OneLilacHedgehog · 09/09/2026 18:05

@covenofcheeses so you think the women deserved to be assaulted by men for saying something the men did not like?

CovenOfCheeses · 09/09/2026 18:14

OneLilacHedgehog · 09/09/2026 18:05

@covenofcheeses so you think the women deserved to be assaulted by men for saying something the men did not like?

I have no say in whether they were guilty or not, only the people of Clacton should decide whether a woman is beaten for saying something that a man disagrees with. Are you questioning democracy?

OneLilacHedgehog · 09/09/2026 18:16

CovenOfCheeses · 09/09/2026 18:14

I have no say in whether they were guilty or not, only the people of Clacton should decide whether a woman is beaten for saying something that a man disagrees with. Are you questioning democracy?

Democracy does not mean local people decide if a man can beat a woman.
What you are referring to is mob rule. Loved by thugs everywhere

Shakeoffyourchains · 09/09/2026 18:20

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 15:03

My posting habits are totally irrelevant. I type quickly. I learned to touch type aged 18. I think quickly so I respond immediately. I'm semi retired, spend quite a bit of time at home so have time on my hands. I post on many threads, relationships, weight loss, and offer my opinion/device. You don't own the forum but you seem to think you've got a right to try and embarrass me into suggesting I'm up to something. Do you do the same to other posters. Once and for all, I am NOT am a troll, a Reform party member, Katie Hopkins! You can try and be clever and throw something out there and then deny it. I'm not going to be bullied by a group of posters into stopping posting because my views are unpopular.

Didn't ask for your life story, thanks. Also don't know why you'd be embarrassed by your own posting history?

Again, it not that your views are unpopular, it's that you refuse to defend them. I've asked questions of you in various threads of late and you've either deflected or ignored them.

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