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"How do black people feel? How do brown people feel? How do cripples feel? How do fat people feel?"

316 replies

Temptree · 07/09/2026 22:34

As stated by Miriam Margolyes today, as she gets worse and worse...... and worse.

Link to previous thread:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5574225-omg-miriam-margolyes-andi-peters?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

It was intolerable what she said on This Morning last week.
And now what she's saying today by way of defending herself is even further intolerable.

OMG Miriam Margolyes Andi Peters | Mumsnet

I've got an annual leave day today and am spending the morning shamelessly on the sofa watching daytime TV with cups of tea and biscuits after an exha...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5574225-omg-miriam-margolyes-andi-peters

OP posts:
HoppityBun · 08/09/2026 13:16

Presumably she’s just trying to wriggle out of the consequences of what she said under the cover of being open minded or something like that

HopeSpringingHigh · 08/09/2026 13:17

She's 85 . Probably best people stopped giving her tv appearances and newspaper articles.

MrsSlocombesCat · 08/09/2026 13:22

I was under the impression that Miriam had mimicked Christine's accent but it was Andi. But I don't think she was being racist at all. She was just clumsy, after all she's pretty old and believe me I have older friends who would never say that everyone is welcome! Even if she did add the footnote that there were a few who wouldn't be. High yella may be considered to be offensive now but originally it was intended as a statement that you were of high status. She just sounded genuinely interested to me, albeit without a filter.

Sunbringer · 08/09/2026 13:24

MrsSlocombesCat · 08/09/2026 13:22

I was under the impression that Miriam had mimicked Christine's accent but it was Andi. But I don't think she was being racist at all. She was just clumsy, after all she's pretty old and believe me I have older friends who would never say that everyone is welcome! Even if she did add the footnote that there were a few who wouldn't be. High yella may be considered to be offensive now but originally it was intended as a statement that you were of high status. She just sounded genuinely interested to me, albeit without a filter.

She was born in 1941 not 1841. Even if it wasn’t meant insultingly it was a phrase rooted in colourism. It’s unacceptable and frankly weird to use it as a British woman in the 21st century.

Plus it’s not even accurate…

AInightingale · 08/09/2026 13:28

I know MM is a Dickens afficionado, but this is getting more ridiculous by the day. What next, is she going to use the words 'dumb', 'idiot', 'imbecile', 'lunatic' or use slurs for Downs Syndrome?

AInightingale · 08/09/2026 13:30

'Filter' = manners. She's not ND that I'm aware of, I doubt to any extent where it would excuse her lack of sensitivity.

alexdgr8 · 08/09/2026 13:36

There used to be a sign on the dual carriageway near here.
One of those official red triangle highway code warning signs.
With a silhouette of elderly people. And the words
Cripples Crossing.
I assumed it was a local place name like
Reeves Corner.
Later I found out there was a charitable group home nearby called
The Crippleage.
All long gone now and built on.
Along with the sign.

AnswerIsNo · 08/09/2026 13:39

Stormwhale · 08/09/2026 05:49

I totally understand that this is totally innapropriate in person, but on a message board where people come to debate ideas, learn new view points, discuss current research and understanding of various topics… is it not possible to have an educational conversation about these things or does it need to be avoided totally? I feel it should not be taboo, but definitely handled respectfully, which it doesn’t seem to have been previously.

totally inappropriate in person, but totally appropriate to say online?

yes, I totally see what you mean

posting online certainly does provide a verified, timestamped evidence base that in certain cases, is legally sufficient to have their anonymity stripped away

now you totally see what I mean 😀

also, debates on scientific evidence does not equal "research from youtube", or the conspiratorial ramblings from a Facebook post, shared amongst the Dunning-Kruger massive.

Anarchy99 · 08/09/2026 13:44

AInightingale · 08/09/2026 13:28

I know MM is a Dickens afficionado, but this is getting more ridiculous by the day. What next, is she going to use the words 'dumb', 'idiot', 'imbecile', 'lunatic' or use slurs for Downs Syndrome?

Am I missing something? Since when was ‘idiot’ off limits?

AInightingale · 08/09/2026 13:48

Anarchy99 · 08/09/2026 13:44

Am I missing something? Since when was ‘idiot’ off limits?

We use it all the time of course when annoyed with someone who's behaved foolishly, but its original meaning was to describe a person who had an intellectual disability, I'm not sure when it stopped being formally used for that. Probably the 1920s when the term 'lunatic asylum' was phased out!

Anarchy99 · 08/09/2026 13:49

MrsSlocombesCat · 08/09/2026 13:22

I was under the impression that Miriam had mimicked Christine's accent but it was Andi. But I don't think she was being racist at all. She was just clumsy, after all she's pretty old and believe me I have older friends who would never say that everyone is welcome! Even if she did add the footnote that there were a few who wouldn't be. High yella may be considered to be offensive now but originally it was intended as a statement that you were of high status. She just sounded genuinely interested to me, albeit without a filter.

No it’s never been acceptable; at least not in her lifetime.

If she is so old she can’t control her urge to be so blatantly racist, perhaps she shouldn’t be doing interviews.

And the problem is that because she’s old, naive people give her the benefit of the doubt and say she’s curious not offensive

Sallysredshoes · 08/09/2026 13:49

Ah ,bless her
Could be starting of dementia..she's at that age for it
I can't remember who she is ,or why she's on TV
Cripple...is a word that has not been used for for many years ..she absolutely must know this ...or dementia.. hopefully her nearest and dearest will get her a doctor's appointment

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 08/09/2026 13:57

Sallysredshoes · 08/09/2026 13:49

Ah ,bless her
Could be starting of dementia..she's at that age for it
I can't remember who she is ,or why she's on TV
Cripple...is a word that has not been used for for many years ..she absolutely must know this ...or dementia.. hopefully her nearest and dearest will get her a doctor's appointment

Bless her?

It's not dementia. She's been an attention-seeking twat for decades.

QueenietheGreat · 08/09/2026 13:58

@Nomura
Well said you
You are so right says this black lady standing right beside you!
Am fed up with something offensive being said to a black person in faux innocence because slyly "they just didn't know and I've got a chip on my shoulder" when I tell them I find it offensive what they've said
Remembering how awful most Eastern europeans were but brexit calmed them down ( that's another story right there)
Once had a young white girl come up to me and start in a god-awful crude jafaican accent told her wasn't from there she said "wot part of Africa are you from then? "
Replied the classy, educated not being a nosey cunt part?
She burst into crocodile tears saying I'd just mouthed off at her as others turned to look
Told assistant to look at their CCTV and see for herself
As soon as I said that she claimed it was just a joke and scarpered off
Some people i really, really have discovered i truly hate
Racism disguised as "petty assumptive statement "

AnswerIsNo · 08/09/2026 14:03

Anarchy99 · 08/09/2026 13:49

No it’s never been acceptable; at least not in her lifetime.

If she is so old she can’t control her urge to be so blatantly racist, perhaps she shouldn’t be doing interviews.

And the problem is that because she’s old, naive people give her the benefit of the doubt and say she’s curious not offensive

and the problem is that racists will cos-play as giving her the benefit of the doubt and say she’s curious not offensive, while thinking they are being subliminally smart in their messaging

mainly the flag-shaggers, along with the subterfuge posters from the US and Russia - cos-playing as flag shaggers

ZeroSocialBatteryLeft · 08/09/2026 14:10

I’m a “cripple” and I feel like Miriam Margoyles is a racist old twatbag and we should no longer have her attention seeking shite on our screens.

Anarchy99 · 08/09/2026 14:39

AnswerIsNo · 08/09/2026 14:03

and the problem is that racists will cos-play as giving her the benefit of the doubt and say she’s curious not offensive, while thinking they are being subliminally smart in their messaging

mainly the flag-shaggers, along with the subterfuge posters from the US and Russia - cos-playing as flag shaggers

Exactly, it’s kind of ironic that she claims to hate Reform when she has that huge racist streak. Perhaps she is trying to get both sides to like her.

lincolnsosig · 08/09/2026 15:28

Sallysredshoes · 08/09/2026 13:49

Ah ,bless her
Could be starting of dementia..she's at that age for it
I can't remember who she is ,or why she's on TV
Cripple...is a word that has not been used for for many years ..she absolutely must know this ...or dementia.. hopefully her nearest and dearest will get her a doctor's appointment

Yes because every older person who is a nasty cunt (to use her own style of language) must have dementia.

She has always been like this btw, it’s not some sudden personality change. She is just nasty.

PrettyLittleRose · 08/09/2026 16:10

I have a feeling she won't be asked onto any more chat shows. Wink

PrettyLittleRose · 08/09/2026 16:11

lincolnsosig · 08/09/2026 15:28

Yes because every older person who is a nasty cunt (to use her own style of language) must have dementia.

She has always been like this btw, it’s not some sudden personality change. She is just nasty.

This. ^ I can't figure out of @Sallysredshoes is taking the pee or not with that comment/post!

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 16:15

AnswerIsNo · 08/09/2026 14:03

and the problem is that racists will cos-play as giving her the benefit of the doubt and say she’s curious not offensive, while thinking they are being subliminally smart in their messaging

mainly the flag-shaggers, along with the subterfuge posters from the US and Russia - cos-playing as flag shaggers

Once again, what have the embarrassingly named flag shaggers got to do with this? Why aren't you having a go at the silent lot who normally condemn this bigoted behaviour? If you think right wingers are behind this racist, you are deluded.

PrettyLittleRose · 08/09/2026 16:23

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 16:15

Once again, what have the embarrassingly named flag shaggers got to do with this? Why aren't you having a go at the silent lot who normally condemn this bigoted behaviour? If you think right wingers are behind this racist, you are deluded.

Exactly. It's the left who cheer her on, more than the right/right leaning, and centric. I am centric, and neither right nor left, and I find her repugnant, I know several right leaning people who think she is disgusting. None of them cheer her on. A few left leaning people I know think she's hilarious. Most do think she is awful though - left and right...

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 16:28

PrettyLittleRose · 08/09/2026 16:23

Exactly. It's the left who cheer her on, more than the right/right leaning, and centric. I am centric, and neither right nor left, and I find her repugnant, I know several right leaning people who think she is disgusting. None of them cheer her on. A few left leaning people I know think she's hilarious. Most do think she is awful though - left and right...

The left are very vocal when they think it's white men dishing it out. Put 300 men in black attire and they will be called racist. Put a woman on a TV programme actually being racist and Nada, zilch, crickets. That's the racist part dealt with. The dig at 'cripples'. Hmm...normally there are (rightly) complaints about people being ableist. Where are they now?

PrettyLittleRose · 08/09/2026 16:34

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 16:28

The left are very vocal when they think it's white men dishing it out. Put 300 men in black attire and they will be called racist. Put a woman on a TV programme actually being racist and Nada, zilch, crickets. That's the racist part dealt with. The dig at 'cripples'. Hmm...normally there are (rightly) complaints about people being ableist. Where are they now?

Yep! 👏

YourAmplePlumPoster · 08/09/2026 16:54

The left loved her anti Israel stance especially as she's Jewish. It's the usual, see, even Jews condemn Israel but I see they're now deserting her in droves.