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AIBU to refuse to feed the baby in the hallway?

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Pigeonpairmum · 19/08/2026 15:22

DH is working from home today and I’m on maternity leave with our 11 month old DD.

DD had been napping, so I was sat in the kitchen with DH while I had a call with my employer about my return to work. The internet was playing up, so he suggested I go into the living room, but I said I didn’t really want to be sat on the sofa for a call with HR. I never asked him to leave the room.

DD then woke up from her nap and needed some lunch, so I set up her highchair in the kitchen. DH asked what I was doing as he had a call and needed me to be out of the kitchen.

I said to him that I was going to feed her in the kitchen because that’s where we eat. He suggested I feed her in the hallway instead.

For context, we only have a kitchen diner & living room downstairs and we don’t eat in the living room. The hallway obviously isn’t somewhere we would normally feed DD either.

I understand that he needs the kitchen to be quiet for his work call, but I also had a baby who had just woken up and needed lunch. He ended up going into the living room as I refused to feed DD in the hallway.

Was I being unreasonable here?

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BCBird · 24/08/2026 17:08

Ur house is not set up for wfh

AffableApple · 24/08/2026 17:52

Lexibletheflexible · 24/08/2026 16:45

The baby had just woken from a nap.

I can't tell you how to raise your kids without chaos if youre determined to make every act a huge drama.

It isn't drama and chaos. It's just lunch. The baby woke up... for lunch.

The kitchen was needed for baby's lunch prep. No drama, no chaos. Unless of course, it's been commandeered for non-kitchen purposes.

Unnecessarily considering food outside of the kitchen just in case it gets taken-over for non-kitchen purposes is drama and chaos.

Lexibletheflexible · 25/08/2026 07:11

AffableApple · 24/08/2026 17:52

It isn't drama and chaos. It's just lunch. The baby woke up... for lunch.

The kitchen was needed for baby's lunch prep. No drama, no chaos. Unless of course, it's been commandeered for non-kitchen purposes.

Unnecessarily considering food outside of the kitchen just in case it gets taken-over for non-kitchen purposes is drama and chaos.

Yep so you prep lunch while baby is asleep and give it to them when they wake up so as to minimise disturbance to husband who ia wfh. It is simple.

My husband would have taken the baby out for lunch when they woke up. Also simple and no drama.

Some of us don't see these simple tasks as mountains.

Whyherewego · 25/08/2026 07:20

I am baffled why neither of you want to do calls in the living room. Put a background on the Teams/Zoom or blur it if you dont want people to see it. Seems very strange altogether

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