AIBU to refuse to feed the baby in the hallway?

[Pigeonpairmum]

DH is working from home today and I’m on maternity leave with our 11 month old DD.

DD had been napping, so I was sat in the kitchen with DH while I had a call with my employer about my return to work. The internet was playing up, so he suggested I go into the living room, but I said I didn’t really want to be sat on the sofa for a call with HR. I never asked him to leave the room.

DD then woke up from her nap and needed some lunch, so I set up her highchair in the kitchen. DH asked what I was doing as he had a call and needed me to be out of the kitchen.

I said to him that I was going to feed her in the kitchen because that’s where we eat. He suggested I feed her in the hallway instead.

For context, we only have a kitchen diner & living room downstairs and we don’t eat in the living room. The hallway obviously isn’t somewhere we would normally feed DD either.

I understand that he needs the kitchen to be quiet for his work call, but I also had a baby who had just woken up and needed lunch. He ended up going into the living room as I refused to feed DD in the hallway.

Was I being unreasonable here?

In that case he shouldn’t be working from home! He is being paid to work, it’s quite ludicrous to suggest it take a lower priority than someone else making meals in the kitchen.

You said the living room wasn’t appropriate for your work call, so I don’t know why you thought it was for his.

your house isnt suitable for work from home while you are there on mat leave

id hate this - you should have fre run of the house

my husband was in the office 5 days while i was on mat leave - cus he usually works from our bedroom - thats where the desk is and pbvs the baby still slept in our room and sometimes id like a nap too

but i wouldnt want him perched in my kitchen either - maybe i wanted to watch a show or start dinner while the baby is asleep

Can he not go to the office for a while

I agree with you he should have gone in the living room, 11 month olds make a right mess when eating and the hallway is a bit awkward if not very big.

I have a fold up desk in my bedroom if I am. Working at home with family around.

But, you can't take a call from HR on the sofa...

He can't work from home if he has nowhere to sit and work at home. He should go to the office if you're home with your DD.

YANBU

Your DH was being ridiculous. He can't just commandeer the kitchen for a call when you need it to cook and eat.

Well you also wrote: "I said I didn’t really want to be sat on the sofa for a call with HR" so it seems that both of you didn't want to take calls in the living room!

This… Don’t be silly, op.

You know on Teams you can set a background so no one can tell whether you’re sat in the kitchen / lounge or wherever in your house!

But it does sound as though there’s not really room for him to be working from
home if he’s having to hop between the sofa and kitchen island.

I don’t get how the kitchen is more ‘professional’ than the living room? I WFH our little one is in nursery so I sit in the living room, easier to make it out of bounds to everyone else. When little one is home though I switch on lunch break to the bedroom again then out of bounds to my OH. I’d not use the kitchen because people are bound to need food and drinks during my shifts

Telephone vs WiFi? My phone signal stinks indoors, the WiFi can extend to outside use

He could have moved out of the kitchen with that set up.

I didn’t ask him to leave the kitchen for my call though, that’s the difference. No I didn’t want to take my call in the living room, but I also had no need to take it in there. He could have let us stay in the kitchen until she had finished her lunch if he really didn’t want to use the living room.

I think you need to work out a way for both of you to have space in the house so he can work and you can use the living space as necessary without getting in eachothers way. Either that or he goes to the office or elsewhere to work so you can have the house to yourselves

Yeah I don't get it.

Why is this only a problem today? What have you done all the other days?
Sounds like a mountain out of a molehill.

Couldn't you just pop out while he was oh his call and take the baby to the park or a cafe and feed it there?

Are either of you actually old enough to have a child and jobs? Just sit down and plan your days like grown ups. You're both ridiculous.

He had literally the entire rest of the house to choose from while you fed your child in the kitchen 😂

Sounds like you both need to be more flexible, load of fuss about nothing.

Why can’t he go into the hallway then?

No sorry I’m with your DH, if he’s expecting a work call in there, you could’ve moved rooms, it’s not that hard and is definitely what you would’ve expected him to do if roles were reversed and you know it!

Not the point of the thread but I'd be looking at changing the cream carpets pretty quickly OP (or getting a massive rug to cover them) especially once little one starts walking and into toddlerhood they probably won't stay perfectly cream

Don'r understand. Obviously you had to be in the kitchen as you were still making the food. He's being ridiculous and utterly unreasonable to attempt to use that space exclusively.

If he's going to WFH he needs to figure out somewhere that doesn't interrupt your day with your baby.

But on a completely different subject. Vomit, nappy accidents, potty training, sticky fingers... you need to change that carpet out. That isn't going to work out.

Is she expected to take the fridge, the pantry, the plates and the knives to cut with her too? Just curious.