Whats the point of consent and asking permission if you get lied to

[MrsOctaviaCharlotteSmythe]

Whats the point of consent and permission ? friends meal and they cover the cost, they said here is x amount get what you want, so permission is asked what the limit is eg £20 and i can get whatever food / takeaway with it, the yes permission is given that i can buy what i want within the budget.

turns out a day or two after wards a sarcastic comment was made because i had 2 jacket potatoes with different toppings, so i said why is that an issue and it turns out that they still thought id get one instead of two ,

so i said i asked permission of what the budget was and i did ask what i could get then all i got was oh id still thought you would get 1 so i said why then say i can get x why not just say and be honest.

i guess this is more me moaning but why do people do this, say yes to x then they actually want you do to x instead its like why ?

before anyone asks we usually do a weekly meal out, and no they are fairly wealthy

Why is your friend paying for your meal out?

I suppose one is manners - if some one is treating you to a meal - you don’t get 2 meals. They were offering a dinner -

because usually once a week we have a catchup and its there treat

It appears as if you’ve bought two meals though?
If that’s your appetite fair enough, but if it was a takeaway I think I’d assume you’re being a bit of chancer in sorting tomorrow’s lunch as well. I’d guess the point isn’t the cost- it’s the perception of two meals.

true but then why not say that why say get what you want ect because to me 2 poatoes and toppings is not 2 meals, yes to some it may be

that i can agree with, its just the frustrating part of get what you want so i did, its like why say get what you want etc

If i was paying for someone's meal every week and they ordered 2 then I woukd probably have a dig as well.

Why is your friend paying for you on a weekly basis?

So they buy you a meal weekly... this week you ordered 2 meals... and you're the one annoyed? 😳

I think they probably mentioned it now because it looks like you were taking the p××s ordering 2.

Your friend probably didn't expect you to be greedy.

You never offer to pay?

Dude, you need to read between the lines here. You're taking advantage.

Because they expect you to behave reasonably. Buying a double portion isn't reasonable.

I imagine they felt you saw their budget as a target not a limit. You didn't have to spend up to it, that feels a bit rude. Like you wanted to get as much as possible out of them. Most people wouldn't have 2 jacket potatoes. Anyway, the whole thing sounds a bit odd. Maybe stop with the meals out where they pay

Having two jacket potatoes is unusual. Are you sure they weren't commenting on that, rather than the cost?

but if its offered then why say x

Yes it’s rude to get two meals when they offered you a single meal to the value of £20 doesn’t mean £20 is a target

and yes two jackets is two meals

yes it was the poatoes rather than cost

WHY haven't you offered?

Is the friend acting as a buddy or carer for you?

You can be within the “rules” and still be taking liberties. This was taking liberties.

It’s an upper limit - not a full your boots to limit. Particularly rude because you asked what the budget was and then met it for a low cost meal that you decided to have 2 of.

it’s nice your friend treats you but you sound like a chancer

A standard dinner is a single jacket potato. You ordered a double dinner because someone else was paying basically. Would you have done that on your own tab? Do you ever reciprocate?

It isn’t that you overspent, but that you were a bit of a chancer, and your friend felt taken advantage of.

£20 was the limit, not the target.

Did you eat both meals, and clean your plates with no doggy bag?

(Edited to plates, rather than plate.)

It’s because you ordered what they thought was 2 meals, for most that sounds a lot. The person was buying dinner ie 1 meal. I do get what you mean though, if you’d had a different meal would they have minded say if you added sides or chose a larger pizza. Seems odd to take issue with you spending the’ budget’ on what you want.

Tonight my son, his gf and I will have a Chinese takeaway. I put what I want (£16) and know that includes some sides they will share. I then tell them to add what they want up to £40. There will likely be leftovers but that’s ok, I have given them a budget.

So in your case it was good to eat in one sitting up to the value of £20. Did you eat them both during the evening? If so I think it’s fine (although can see why they may have commented too).

The person who told you is shit stirring. There was no need.

Unless of course you are a teenage boy. Then 2 baked potatoes is a snack. But if someone is buying you a meal, why did you ask what the budget was? That seems very rude to me.

Why would you need to eat 2 jacket potatoes? Do you normally eat double helpings?