Sick of my wife’s temper

[Seriouslyworrieddad]

My wife has always had a temper but recently it’s next level and I’m concerned for her but mainly our child.

We have a toddler who admittedly is extremely full on - for the last 6 weeks he has been going through a sleep regression and my wife has been completely loosing the plot with him during night wakes.

We had a conversation about it last week and she said she would look into anger management.

I’m away at the moment and my wife is now sleep training our toddler. I called before bedtime to say good night not realising that my wife had put our child down early. She answered the call in a room seperate to where our child was sleeping but it must have disturbed them as the next thing I could hear was our child crying so my wife hung up.

She then preceded to send me increasingly angry messages saying bedtime was a disaster and then called me shouting down the phone saying it was all my fault. I could hear our child screaming and crying in the background.

Thankfully I know my child is asleep now but I’m just getting sick to death of my wife’s temper and worried about her with my child.

Does anyone have any advice please ?

My son as 3 before he slept 5 hours straight and again it was 1 night, prior to that he was up at least every 2 hours and I had another baby who breastfed through the night. A year is what people expect, 2/3/4 + years is a reality for many.

However not everyone has the same resilience and for some a year in a unsupportive relationship doing lm the parenting is too much.

In the thread he didn't ask what they could change as a family

He didn't reflect on their situation

He didn't question in any way how or whether he could contribute to a solution.

Of course not because he’s not the problem - his wife is.
She is the one with the anger problem.

He gives her lie ins, she goes out to the gym, he asks what else he can do - and for some posters this still isn’t good enough because they think he should be working FT and taking on the majority of parenting, whilst she sits at home doing nothing.

If the sexes were reversed then posters would not be telling the working mother that she needs to do more over the SAHD.

And OP has to work, it’s the only income they have - if her temper is this bad, imagine what it would be like if they couldn’t afford the bills.

Saying he shouldn’t go to work is ridiculous and childish.
He needs to work.
She has obviously never been this bad and he says how her behaviour is escalating and this aggressive behaviour is what triggered him to start the thread.

Even then posters blamed him for ringing the poor wife and waking the child, even though he said she’d put the child to bed early.

If I was him I would have rang SS and kicked her out of my house but he seems a bit too soft and therefore chose to get advice on MN first.

I don’t think he should leave the baby alone with her again and I think she needs to go back to work and him SAH.
It’s just not worth the risk.