Sick of my wife’s temper

[Seriouslyworrieddad]

My wife has always had a temper but recently it’s next level and I’m concerned for her but mainly our child.

We have a toddler who admittedly is extremely full on - for the last 6 weeks he has been going through a sleep regression and my wife has been completely loosing the plot with him during night wakes.

We had a conversation about it last week and she said she would look into anger management.

I’m away at the moment and my wife is now sleep training our toddler. I called before bedtime to say good night not realising that my wife had put our child down early. She answered the call in a room seperate to where our child was sleeping but it must have disturbed them as the next thing I could hear was our child crying so my wife hung up.

She then preceded to send me increasingly angry messages saying bedtime was a disaster and then called me shouting down the phone saying it was all my fault. I could hear our child screaming and crying in the background.

Thankfully I know my child is asleep now but I’m just getting sick to death of my wife’s temper and worried about her with my child.

Does anyone have any advice please ?

Where was your Dad? You mentioned up thread you struggled but internalised when your DC were little, where was your partner? You are projecting on this thread and I would recommend therapy to notice how your experiences are shaping your behaviour. To be clear I am not saying your Mum wasn't at fault but it is clear that you believe it is ok for men to watch their children being abused and that doesn't make them bad parents.

It was and still is pretty easy to ensure the other parent is alienated and unable to have any contact with their children. Someone with those type of mental health issues will think nothing of fabricating abuse to make contact impossible or severely restricted.

The Dad in the OP isn't alienated and she believes Dad should be leaving the DC with the mother and holds the mother fully responsible in this scenario.

You werent asking about the OP though. You asked the other member where their own father was. I commented to say that mentally ill women like that poster's mother would have long ensured that contact with dad wasnt feasible.

I grew up with a mum who screamed and shouted and slammed doors from when I was a baby onwards. This escalated into physical, verbal and emotional abuse and neglect of my siblings and I until we left home. My Dad was very present but did have to go out to work and she didn’t do it when he was around. We were told if we told anyone, we would be taken away and split up as siblings and never see each other or our Dad again.

I wish someone had been aware and advocated for me. Your wife may be having a hard time but you need to prioritize your child. If she is treating a young child like this, how will she treat an older one?

Hope things have improved for you and the child since you started the thread.

Probably not... because its not likely the dad has been exclusively B'feeding and had disturbed sleep persistently.

I don't think that it is at all fair to say that until recently every absent dad was desperate to be a Dad and mothers were always at fault for driving the men away or claim that if a woman has mental health issues they should take responsbility for the other parent neglecting their child. Your are jumping to your own conclusions there. Clearly that poster sees her situation as fairly similar to this. In this situation she believes parenting and safeguarding is something that is the mother's job only, she is projecting and it is fair to point that out.

@Paganpentacle This isn't the case here. Child is no longer breastfeeding and been consistently sleeping through until recently.

Hope you have found the strength to hold a boundary here OP. Your DC need you.