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All my clothes from ex house were destroyed

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SplashSplashh · 20/07/2026 18:00

My husband and I separated a year ago and I moved out of the family home, I took lots of stuff with me and made trips back and forth to collect stuff, I didn’t take everything when I left as we were in a weird no man’s land where we discussed a possible trial separation. Things got more tense and it was obvious that we were permanently separating.

So I was trying to get access to my stuff for a long time but ex would skirt around the issue and say soon or not now, I’m busy etc.

Eventually he told me he would drop off bags of my stuff to my house. Looking inside everything was soaking wet, covered in mould and stinking. Most of it had to be binned. He then sent a text saying how everything was mouldy, how he had to destroy the wardrobe and how there was dead mice behind it.

It’s very odd as everything was fine when I was at the house last (October/November)no mould, just a normal wardrobe, the only thing was the bedroom looked like it had been shut up and not slept in or cleaned since I left (he was sleeping in another bedroom)

It’s a new(ish) build (15 years old) It’s really odd. What would you make of this??

I was the one to leave ex.

OP posts:
BauhausOfEliott · 21/07/2026 17:41

SplashSplashh · 20/07/2026 18:09

It’s weird as they were absolutely soaked and covered in mould, paperwork and old literary magazines, old photos and other stuff all had to be binned too. We lived there for 15 years and all my stuff was fine, even Christmas jumpers that sat for a year were fine the following year. It’s just really strange.

Either he damaged them deliberately, or they got wet and accidentally and he just left them in that state to go mouldy.

When you say 'soaking' wet, do you mean they just feel a bit damp, or do you mean they're properly saturated and dripping?

madaboutpurple · 22/07/2026 12:34

When you have bought new clothes you need to go out with friends and celebrate being rid of him. I hope you meet a wonderful man who cares and loves you Best wishes OP..

insomniacalways · 22/07/2026 13:25

Either on purpose or by accident, he threw something in there that was liquid and then it was left. Mould grows in our house if something has a bit of moisture on it. Actually, in winter, mould was growing on any surface without adequate circulation.

Sharptonguedwoman · 22/07/2026 13:37

SplashSplashh · 20/07/2026 18:11

But how would you make stuff mouldy? The only thing I can think of is he chucked a load of soaking stuff on them and left them for ages. It’s very odd though, other thoughts was that him or his mother dumped everything of mine in the wet room with a load of other soaking stuff. Weird though.

In an open bag, in the garden, for the winter.

madaboutpurple · 22/07/2026 16:56

It sounds like the man was vindictive. Op I can only hope you can get a capsule wardrobe sorted quickly .You deserve beautiful things to wear and you deserve to meet a great man who truly shows his love.

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