AIBU to feel mildly irritated by 'congratulations again' comments online?

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AIBU unreasonable to be mildly irritated/ amused by the people who comment “congratulations again” on social media posts? Like, look at me, I’m in the inner circle and already knew this important information?!

What are they offended by? You seem to be making a massive deal out of this. The OP said “mildly irritated” and I agreed. Mildly irritated isn’t ‘offended’. It’s an eye roll and a chuckle.

Multiple people have said your stance is…. Well, to put it diplomatically, peculiar!

Read this back.

“people today…”

they are “compelled” to respond in a show off way (how do you know?)

because I wouldn’t want to look like I was saying “Look at me, I’m special because I already knew and you plebs didn’t”. It’s nothing to do with upsetting anyone else, I just wouldn’t want to look like a self-obsessed dick.

sad that you have people on your life you’d even think might think this about you

Sorry, I was a little hyperbolic with the “people today” comment. I don’t think it’s everyone, it’s just the direction that society is moving in. It’s like when a celebrity dies and (some) people online instantly demand to know the cause of death. Or when there’s a potential terrorist incident and (some) people want to know the ethnicity and religion of the attacker before the police have even worked it out.

I think over the past 30 years with the internet, celebrity magazines and fly-on-the-wall TV shows, we’re given an insight into people’s private lives that we never had in the past. When a famous couple splits up, lots of people want to know the ins and outs so they can pick a side.

Celebrities’ private lives have been commodified and the public have become more invested and feel they have a right to know their business. And this has spilled over into real life, where (some) people advertise themselves as though they’re celebrities and overshare and ‘market’ themselves online. It’s probably entirely normal to young people who have grown up with it, but it’s really very stark for those of us who are old enough to remember a different world.

I have an acquaintance like this. We were quite friendly in our teens and she would do this continually:

Talk about things that happened in our teens in front of newer friends on purpose

Suddenly bring up past events if one person in the group hadn't been there, even if it makes no sense in the context of what the conversations about

Does those similar SM comments to make sure that everyone else knows that she is "in the know" about a particular plan

This is just one of the reasons she's now more of an acquaintance than a friend these days

YANBU OP. When you've been listening to and subjected personally to this behaviour then yes, it's annoying

Oh yes, it’s to let other people know they are in the inner circle and know the news already

Genuine question and I am not being snarky here but who fucking cares?

I couldn't give a toss if someone knows someone else is pregnant a week before I do - it impacts my life in zero way, I genuinely dont understand why people care about this stuff?

Internet forums existed long before social media. I’m using a discussion board.

And it would seem you are friends on Facebook with quite a few of them!

So nobody else sees similar things on their Facebook out of hundreds of friends? No Girl bosses? No gym selfies? No piles of birthday presents for their children? Maybe it’s just me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Haha, I just had to open this thread when I saw the title, because I thought ‘oh yes, that’s me!!’
It bugs me every single time I see it, way more than it should, but I’m glad I’m not alone 😂

Definitely not. You’re friends with weirdos.

I initially thought YABU, but I get it actually. They’re saying it specifically so everyone knows they’re on the ‘inside’. I’d probably post something along the lines of ‘So excited for you both’, which conveys the same sentiment without the obvious “‘I already knew” boast! So yea, you’re overthinking it to let it bug you, but I don’t disagree it’s icky!

This

I thought it was going to be about being pregnant yet again...

If they have already said congrats in person no need to repeat, but others might think why didn't xyz not say congrats have they fallen out.

Oh behave yourself. I’ve got about 300 Facebook friends and said four of them (who are all either in-laws or acquaintances) are insufferable. That doesn’t mean I’m friends with weirdos! 😂

You mustn’t use social media if you are unfamiliar with obsessive gym-selfie posters/duck lip pouters or ‘Girl Bosses’!

And from these 4 friends you have extrapolated that so many are self obsessed and show offy?

You have aa very very dim view of society to such an extent you feel you absolutely must make clear that you didn’t know news beforehand for fear that people doesn’t think you’re being a show off.

How old are you?

Social media posts are just people showing off one way or another. Look what I’ve done / got, or look how close I am to x person. It’s all bollocks anyway.
what annoys me most is how LinkedIn has turned into face book

As I said before I’m in my 50s, and there wouldn’t be numerous magazine articles about insufferable social media habits, or heck, even threads on Mumsnet if I was the only person in the entire world who recognised it. Please stop with the faux naivety.

ETA If you think you’ve never encountered vaguebooking, humble bragging, over sharing or “curated lifestyles” on Social Media, maybe it’s because you’re a perpetrator and don’t see a problem with it.

How old are you?

This always makes me laugh. I always look for the ‘omg I’m so glad you’ve announced it now as it’s been so awful keeping this a secret’. Me and my friends always do this now when someone has something to announce (even if we didn’t know).

We always put deliberately vague statuses when we’re moving jobs too- mainly because it irritates us when someone from primary school who you haven’t spoken to in 30 years doesn’t say what their new job is and you don’t know them well enough to ask.

The ‘I already knew’ posts about announcements are clearly deliberate and done on purpose
to show how important they are because they knew first.

Unfortunately for me, when I got engaged, pregnant and had babies I had family members who all got in there first. My mum even announced on FB where my honeymoon was before I knew.

That’s not why they’re doing it. If that was their genuine reason they’d just love the status. You know they’re doing it to tell everyone they knew first. When you see it it’s very obvious.

Human behaviour is just fascinating

Oh dear @MrsPapillon you really do have a bleak view of society. No doubt built on the views and experiences of those around you. What a depressing way to live. To feel like you have to make it very clear to your Facebook friends that you don’t know news for fear that they will see you as self obsessed and show offy. You’re a woman in her fifties… have more self confidence in yourself!

mainly because it irritates us when someone from primary school who you haven’t spoken to in 30 years doesn’t say what their new job is and you don’t know them well enough to ask.

W.T.F???