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To think that smoking looks really, really cool?

126 replies

aperolspritzbasicbitch · Today 17:53

To start, I know it’s not, I know it’s dangerous, I know it stinks and is a horrid habit. I’m not going to start.

but equally….I’d bloody love to take up smoking 🤣

I just think it can look so chic, especially the skinny little European cigarettes.

I love the idea of sitting out with a glass of something, puffing on a little cigarette.

having a mid morning coffee outside a cafe on a cobbled street, cigarette in hand.

Or, the original ozempic…a cigarette and a can of Diet Coke of lunch.

like I said, I’m not going to start, I don’t like the smell and I’ve also been very vocal on my views on vaping.

but, at the grand old age of 40, there’s still something about it that I look at sometimes and think ‘god, she looks cool’

Think Caroline Besette in Love Story.

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · Today 18:48

potterspot · Today 18:46

@thejelliclecatsTbf in many of the nightclubs I frequented the smoke smell was preferable to the other smells!

Yes!
smoking in clubs - bad because it stank of cigarette smoke and it carried the hazard of a burn in your going out top if someone was careless, good because it covered the smell of feet, farts and general arse!

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ShanghaiDiva · Today 18:53

Looks very cool - watching my mother die from COPD and lung cancer and agreeing to stop treatment and watch her die - not so much.

Livinthedrama · Today 18:53

There are some people that look cool smoking but I don't think it is the smoking, I think they already will look cool.

suburberphobe · Today 18:53

Car exhausts are worse for pollution and harming people's health.

Idlewilder · Today 18:54

suburberphobe · Today 18:47

^I love the idea of sitting out with a glass of something, puffing on a little cigarette.
having a mid morning coffee outside a cafe on a cobbled street, cigarette in hand.^

Yep. Do it all the time.

Better than a friend of mine's MIL who tripped down the stairs and was dead on arrival.

Life is strange.

Some people who live very healthy lives will die prematurely in freak accidents, or get cancer anyway.

Some people who have smoked 40 a day for decades live long lives in good health.

But the evidence is overwhelmingly that smokers are far, far more likely to have long periods of cripplingly poor health than non smokers.

I can promise you, if you are one of the many who get COPD, lung cancer, stroke or emphysema in your 60s or 70s, you will feel the opposite of cool and look back and ask yourself what the fuck you were thinking.

PenelopeJoanSterling · Today 18:54

suburberphobe · Today 18:53

Car exhausts are worse for pollution and harming people's health.

true but then does not mean oh in that case smoking is ok etc

sanityisamyth · Today 18:54

It looks horrific. It stinks, it’s carcinogenic, doesn’t just affect the smoker and causes litter. Absolutely no positives to it at all.

senua · Today 18:54

aperolspritzbasicbitch · Today 18:33

Because hoards of impressionable grown adults are going to take up smoking based on a couple of people on line saying it looks cool?
they’ll just bypass the ones that disagree and think ‘well, if Aperol says it’s cool, I must do it!’ Will they?

Ah. but you didn't say it's cool. You said it looks cool from a distance. Big difference.

PetuniaTabernacle1 · Today 18:55

suburberphobe · Today 18:53

Car exhausts are worse for pollution and harming people's health.

Are you referring to passive smoking or direct exposure?

aperolspritzbasicbitch · Today 18:56

senua · Today 18:54

Ah. but you didn't say it's cool. You said it looks cool from a distance. Big difference.

Oh. Good point!

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potterspot · Today 18:56

@aperolspritzbasicbitchI had an amazing long velvet coat that someone burnt, grr!

Crushed23 · Today 18:56

YANBU and I couldn’t agree more!

DP is a social smoker - 1 or 2 cigarettes on a night out - and I think he looks really hot when he lights up. 😍

(It still smells and is a disgusting habit, agree there also.)

WhenYouAreReady · Today 18:57

I think it looks stupid. Holding this tiny white stick with a cloud of smoke around you, it’s even more ridiculous when you really think about it. You also know the persons clothes and breath absolutely stink. It’s anything but cool.

potterspot · Today 18:59

PenelopeJoanSterling · Today 18:54

true but then does not mean oh in that case smoking is ok etc

But no one is saying it’s ok just that some looked cool smoking!

RaininSummer · Today 19:00

I think it makes people look like sad, smelly addicts.

1989STAR · Today 19:01

Its rank. I grew up in a smoking household and my mum still smokes and the smell makes me want to vomit.

yesohno · Today 19:01

I think it looks stupid not sexy tbh.
i don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone in real life resemble Caroline Besette.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · Today 19:03

yesohno · Today 19:01

I think it looks stupid not sexy tbh.
i don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone in real life resemble Caroline Besette.

Ah, I was in Paris recently and quite a few women made it look very chic.

Obviously for every person that looks chic there’s those who don’t, so it’s a hard balance.

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Goose8080 · Today 19:06

I always feel embarrased for people I see smoking.

PermanentTemporary · Today 19:07

No, not to me. Cool people smoked, so Steve McQueen was cool but to me he wasn’t cooler because he smoked, he was cool without it. Obviously the tobacco firms paid millions to show cool people smoking.

My dad smoked, taking a big drag and then hiccuping - it did something to his diaphragm. Not cool. Then he would stub it out in his half eaten breakfast egg 🤢

CarbonArtist · Today 19:08

potterspot · Today 18:01

It’s not that though, It’s the expressions people make when they are doing it, the eyes, the mouth, the hands etc but if you don’t get it, you don’t get it.

Exactly, it’s extremely hot. The confidence and sensuality - it’s a whole vibe. Love the smell of it too. Have never smoked in my life mind you, too much of a goody-two-shoes!

touchyfeely · Today 19:08

suburberphobe · Today 18:53

Car exhausts are worse for pollution and harming people's health.

Stop lying to yourself:

Smoking is significantly more hazardous on an individual level. Cigarette smoke contains over 7,000 chemicals, with toxic fine particulate matter concentrations measured at up to 10-times higher than a typical idling diesel engine.

I think it's gross, and the only people it looks cool on are the people who who look perfectly cool without it.

RampantIvy · Today 19:09

PetulaGordeno · Today 18:02

Watching my mum die in agony of lung cancer, about 5 stone, with huge cancerous growths up her spine….
Not cool at all.
I lost her far too young and it was the most hideous, traumatising death. It took two years to watch her dwindle, no hair, couldn’t eat or breathe properly as her body decayed.
As for your post title in the words of Victoria Wood - no offence meant, but plenty taken.

💐

Watching my mum struggling to breathe with COPD was painful. She used to walk around the house with her fags in one hand and her inhaler in the other. She needed the use of a nebuliser every day as well.

I hate smoking and just won't tolerate it near me.

WildFlowerBees · Today 19:09

As someone who gave up smoking years ago I can’t now believe I ever did it. It’s gross, the people who smoke don’t look cool I think they all look a bit grubby now.

Senparentingonandon · Today 19:09

Personally I don’t think it looks cool at all, I just vividly imagine the lung damage! A successful school PSHE lesson 30 years ago 😂