Would you offer a lift in this situation?

[GSolis]

If a friend who lives close to you is having a birthday party close by, and your other friends are coming too, but they live a 45 minute drive away, would you offer to go and pick them up and give them a lift to the party?

I hadn’t read it was an issue until after I said that. I then straight away posted that it altered my opinion. It would be far better if OP hadn’t been so vague.

No, I would never expect anyone to give me a lift, or offer one.

I might think the one furthest away woukd drive and may offer to collect them or even you, but only if they offer.

I would do this for a good friend, yes. I wouldn’t take them home though, I’d offer them to stay over at my house or they can get a taxi home.

They should be paying for the petrol at the least! If their real friends!

Of course not! And reading your other posts, you really can’t afford it either! He needs to ask for petrol money if he’s going to be such a yes man!

It's completely illogical - he'll be doing 2 round trips rather than them just doing 1 round trip if they sorted themselves out. Sorry OP. My DP.does stuff like this too. The intention is always kind but it's rarely thought through. it's poor form from your friends to let him too.

My DP has picked up and taken friends long distances in situations where I wouldn’t dream of asking him to do the same for me (I drive but don’t like driving much). Or ask my friends to do. I find it odd that his friends even ask him. A recent request was to a shop and back, about 45 minutes drive away in the middle of the day, in London, where you can get tube or bus everywhere. He actually said no to that one.

No

Not even if I didn’t plan to drink.

the fact that this is going to hurt you financially makes it ridiculous. I understand that at certain economic levels there is a culture of helping one another out, but as an outsider, my observation is that this is often abused. Some people take and some people give more than they have. Would the people he is driving really do the same for him?

Why are you the one not drinking and borrowing money because of his decision? He needs to be the one doing those things as he's caused the problem. He can sort the consequences out too (while you have a drink and enjoy the party)

No I’d if I’m close by I’d expect one of them to drive and bring the others.

Has the party been and gone? What happened?

Wow, that's a long way. I assume you live somewhere rural. I have volunteered my partner to drive friends after a night out when he isn't going to be drinking, BUT only to the train station on our way home, nowhere out of his way.

Could you find a similar solution? Say that your check engine light keeps coming on when you drive more than short distances and you can't get it into a garage until (after the party) sorry, I can drop you off at a station if that helps.

no

Why would you enable this by driving them back?

Text them and say they need to get a taxi.

I wouldn’t even go to the party, let him sort it all out