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GSolis · 2026-07-11T09:32:51+00:00

If a friend who lives close to you is having a birthday party close by, and your other friends are coming too, but they live a 45 minute drive away, would you offer to go and pick them up and give them a lift to the party?

havingoneofthosedays · Today 11:51

Yes, I value my friendships

Dollymylove · Today 11:51

It would be dependent upon you not being able to have a few drinks because they expect a lift home as well.
Either way its a no from me

BinBasedKarma · Today 11:52

Surely it would make more sense for your friends to collect you on the way?

5foot5 · Today 12:01

So I understand from your last update that you have offered to not drink so you can drive you and your DH home. So does that mean he was planning to have a drink at the party? But his offer of a lift to his friends seems to assume you will take them home afterwards. When you told him you would not be driving them home so he would have to stay sober after all to drive them home, did that not make a difference?

Have you spelt out the financial reality of the petrol costs, that you will have to do without or get in to debt as a result of this gesture of his? Honestly he sounds like a ridiculous people pleaser or someone who wants to be the over-generous mate who never says no.

BillieWiper · Today 12:08

No. Why should you? It would only be reasonable if your house was near to theirs, not to the party venue.

I mean if they were the types who would do a similar favour then I might do if they asked and I wasn't busy. But I certainly wouldn't offer.

TheIdlerReturns · Today 12:10

Why would you do that? Is someone expecting you to do that?

honeylulu · Today 12:11

When you told him you would not be driving them home so he would have to stay sober after all to drive them home, did that not make a difference?

This. OP, have you made clear to your husband that if they want a lift home he will have to take them. So you might as well get a couple of drinks down your neck at the party!

TheIdlerReturns · Today 12:12

GSolis · Today 10:54

They are close friends and it’s my husband who they have asked and my husband has agreed to it. I said why have you said yes?! And he got angry at me saying it’s his decision and why do I care? Just wondering if I’m in the wrong for thinking he should’ve said no

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OP, why are your friends asking your DH to do this? Complete cheek. Baffles me why he's said yes. I'd be angry at your friends for approaching DH not you. Confused.

PrincessofWills · Today 12:21

They can take an uber

Goldengirl123 · Today 12:24

Very cheeky!! Do they drive? How are they getting home?

Theyreeatingthedogs · Today 12:36

I wouldn't do it and I'm not watching the pennies. Your DH is an idiot for agreeing in this situation.

ColdAsAWitches · Today 12:38

GSolis · Today 10:54

They are close friends and it’s my husband who they have asked and my husband has agreed to it. I said why have you said yes?! And he got angry at me saying it’s his decision and why do I care? Just wondering if I’m in the wrong for thinking he should’ve said no

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That's not the question you asked though. You asked us all if we would offer. No, not out of the blue. But if a friend asked, I would consider it. It's a completely different situation.

BMW58 · Today 12:41

Tell him to get petrol money from them as your finances are so tight.

goingtotown · Today 12:50

Absolutely not. Let your DH pick them up & when he takes them home pissed he’ll possibly be clearing up their vomit🤢

rainbowstardrops · Today 12:55

GSolis · Today 11:17

I have said I won’t drink so I will drive back but I have said I am not taking them home.

I am disappointed in DH for saying yes because firstly I think they are taking the piss, I do not think they’d do the same in return. It not logical for him to do this when the party is happening here! We are already at the location! But plus, we are very very strapped for cash at the moment I needed the petrol in our car to last all week. We share a car and we only have a few bars of petrol left which will do me to get to work and back until Friday when I get paid. But now he’s going to have to top up today which is going to cut into our money for the weekly food shop tomorrow and I’m probably going to have to borrow money from someone or put the food shopping on a credit card. All because he wanted to be “nice” to his friends. It’s just annoying. But he says that anyone would do the same in this position and I didn’t think that was true, so wanted to ask here

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That makes it even worse then!

Error404FucksNotFound · Today 12:59

You realise you'll get bullied into driving them home, right? Once they're there and you haven't had a drink, it'll get to the end of the evening and ooh whoops looks like theres no way for them to get home well theyll just have to be driven back by you...

SunnyRedSnail · Today 13:05

GSolis · Today 10:54

They are close friends and it’s my husband who they have asked and my husband has agreed to it. I said why have you said yes?! And he got angry at me saying it’s his decision and why do I care? Just wondering if I’m in the wrong for thinking he should’ve said no

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So they asked your husband because they think he is a pushover/mug?

Are they expecting him to do a 90 minute round trip to take them home??

He made his bed so he can lie in it. He agreed so it's him that can not drink all night.

Surely one of them has a car and can drive???

MustTryHarderAndHarder · Today 13:14

GSolis · Today 11:17

I have said I won’t drink so I will drive back but I have said I am not taking them home.

I am disappointed in DH for saying yes because firstly I think they are taking the piss, I do not think they’d do the same in return. It not logical for him to do this when the party is happening here! We are already at the location! But plus, we are very very strapped for cash at the moment I needed the petrol in our car to last all week. We share a car and we only have a few bars of petrol left which will do me to get to work and back until Friday when I get paid. But now he’s going to have to top up today which is going to cut into our money for the weekly food shop tomorrow and I’m probably going to have to borrow money from someone or put the food shopping on a credit card. All because he wanted to be “nice” to his friends. It’s just annoying. But he says that anyone would do the same in this position and I didn’t think that was true, so wanted to ask here

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He is mad if you are that strapped for cash.

He needs to ask them to pay for petrol at least.

Twoflowertourist · Today 13:19

Have you asked him or them how they are getting home? I think you’re going to be guilt tripped into taking them home on the night.

ERthree · Today 13:52

And do they expect you to take them home again?

Blondeshavemorefun · Today 13:55

Does dh reliese how skint you both are and to do this nice favour means you wil struggle

I get wanting to help friends

if it is a party will dh get wankered and spend more money you don’t have

how will they get home ?

Notarsed · Today 14:22

He's a fucking idiot! By doing a 1.5 mile needless round trip he's either leaving you short for your food bill as you'll need to top up the petrol or you'll need to put the food on the credit card?! His one and only brain cell must be incredibly lonely in there

mamajong · Today 14:24

I might if they are good friends and I was driving anyway and they had limited options, but I quite enjoy driving and my friends have been really supportive of me in other scenarios. I certainly wouldn't feel obliged if it was convenient though

Notarsed · Today 14:25

Notarsed · Today 14:22

He's a fucking idiot! By doing a 1.5 mile needless round trip he's either leaving you short for your food bill as you'll need to top up the petrol or you'll need to put the food on the credit card?! His one and only brain cell must be incredibly lonely in there

Sorry, 1.5 hrs not miles

Lindy2 · Today 14:26

No.

If someone is suggesting you do this they appear to have mistaken you for a taxi.