Would you offer a lift in this situation?

[GSolis]

If a friend who lives close to you is having a birthday party close by, and your other friends are coming too, but they live a 45 minute drive away, would you offer to go and pick them up and give them a lift to the party?

He'd be having beans on toast every night til payday, if they don't cough up petrol money...

They want you to drive 3 Hours + to save them 1.5 hours?!?! NO

You need to tell the friends they will have to pay for the petrol as you are skint and can’t afford it!!

Not unless they have no other way of getting to the party AND the party will be more enjoyable with them there AND you have a mutually cooperative relationship.

If I know and like them enough I might let them have a spare room for the night, but I would expect a lift to the party or a shared taxi.

Do you lot like your mates? I’d happily collect them to save them a few quid. They’d have to get a cab home.

Tell him that the cost of petrol for you / him would probarly be more than if friends shared a cab / uber.
If he insists he should ask for petrol money at least.
Alternatly whatever amount you are short for food shop i would try and make it up by buying food for a few days just for you and tell him he can buy for himself to the amount he left you short of.
Maybe not be possible for you to do but for sure I would not buy his favourites or treats if applicable or / and not cook for him for a few days at least. But i can be a bit petty occasionally 😂

Do they know you are short for cash and this will cost you in petrol that you can’t afford?!

Rude to ask.
Daft of your husband to agree.
I’d have a drink if I were you-then he can drive you home before he takes them.

Yeah well then you are in the wrong because nobody is asking you to give a lift.

If you’re that strapped for cash that you can’t afford the petrol then your dh is definitely a dock

You are in the wrong as it’s nothing to do with you.

No

No way.
1.5 hrs to pick up.
A likely last minute 1.5 hrs at the end of the evening.
Suggest they drive themselves and ask to stay over at hosts!

Why have they asked-what reason have they given for not driving themselves?

Id only drive that distance for elderly relatives who had no other way of getting somewhere. No chance I’d do it for anyone else.
What is your DH going to do about the petrol money?

That's ridiculous - and I speak as someone quite happy to give lifts under most circumstances where many MNer wouldn't.

I would have said "We are going to walk. If you want to get here, you can walk with us and then crash on our living room floor for the night?"

But I can't believe they would ask in the first place.
Nor can I understand why your dh said yes.

Why is he prioritising their wants over your needs ie those of needing the car to have enough gas for the week/being able to buy food without resorting to a credit card? Do you have joint finances? If not, he needs to top up the petrol.

'I'll give you a lift if you give me a lift to work all week...' :-)

If he is happy to do it, what’s the issue? I would say no bc I couldn’t be arsed but if someone else doesn’t mind that’s ok too.

Before asking here you should have given all the information because I just said it’s fine if he wants to but given it’s going to being financial strain to your relationship obviously it’s ridiculous for him to consider it.

No

The expense of the petrol.

I would be feeding him jacket potato with marge for a week to make the poin that he has spent the food money.
You don't gamble with the grocery money and you don't spend the grocery money on your need to be the hero.

No why would you. It's no where near you and cost you a lot of money in petrol

No why would you. It's no where near you and cost you a lot of money in petrol

Absolutely not. I might offer a bed for the night if I had the space though