AIBU to be upset about having to pick a front door I don't like?

[Delara]

I got the keys to a new house in May, and my partner moved in last week. I'd been trying for over a month to get a new front door, having had around 5 fitters come to measure and then say they couldn't source a door that narrow.

My partner then moved in and pushed for me to get a new front door ASAP as he had accidentally let the cats out (we currently have a recessed door and need an airlock).

I ended up buying the only style of door I could find that could be produced so narrow, and it's a cotta,ge style front door that will be put on my Edwardian house. It's not been fitted yet but is in production so too late to change. I really wanted a traditional style door.

AIBU to be feeling resentful of the rush and having to compromise on the front door? I lived in a house with three years without an airlock and learned how to not let the cats out. We are both obviously stressed for the cats' safety, and I was planning to buy a door anyway for my partner's sake, but I am feeling resentful that this has pushed me into buying a door that doesn't suit the house.

Pic attached of what it will look like when fitted

I think I am being unreasonable and it's not my partner's fault the fitters couldn't find a door. But I'm struggling with the compromise.

You need a bespoke door. Pay the price or put up with the one you don’t like.

I think you should lean in and dress it up like a minion.

Sorry, I haven't helped have I?

How much time do you spend looking at your front door? If thats what you could get and afford then live with it ,paint it black and save up for one that you like. It will keep your house warmer in winter if that is any consolation. I wanted a second front door to keep the house warmer and cleaner everytime i opend the door all the dead leaves in the street flew into the house and all the cold air I had to settle for a door that opend out the way not fantastic but it worked

Yeah I'd be fucking fuming if my partner wanted to keep my pets safe too.

The door looks fine and the house looks average, it's not going to make it look worse.

You have to look at the damn thing every time you put your key in. Get rid of your partner,keep the cats and get a door of your choosing. Is that it in the pic? Looks a bloody monstrosity!! 👀

Sorry - but yes. In this situation i think you are the AH.

I actually don’t think the door is the problem at all, I think it’s the colour.

The door itself is probably one of the NICEST features on what is otherwise a fairly ordinary period terrace.

This isn’t a grand Edwardian villa with ornate stonework where you’d expect an elaborate bespoke entrance. It’s a simple terrace and I actually think the proportions and detailing of the new door suit it well.

I did a few mock-ups because I was curious, and honestly just changing the colour completely transformed it.

Personally, I’d be looking at something like Farrow & Ball Hague Blue No. 30 or a traditional Oxford Blue. Both are classic heritage colours that work beautifully with red brick and make the same door feel much more Victorian/Edwardian rather than country cottage.

I also think the front garden is contributing to the impression. It’s a lovely garden, but it’s very soft, informal and cottage-style with lush planting spilling over the path.

That’s naturally going to make the entrance feel more “country cottage” than a formal Victorian townhouse, regardless of the door. A cooler heritage colour would actually balance that beautifully.

I also don’t think your partner has really done anything wrong. You’d already decided to replace the door, the fitters couldn’t source the style you originally wanted in such a narrow size, and needing an airlock for the cats is a completely reasonable reason to get on with it. That’s frustrating, but it’s not really anyone’s fault.

If it were me, I’d fit the door, paint it Hague Blue or Oxford Blue, and live with it before spending thousands replacing something that I honestly don’t think is the issue.

You need to focus on a cooler toned colour and I think your new door will be far nicer than the one on the left and will be actually the prettiest part of the terrace.

I prefer the glazing in your new door. It’s elegant, well proportioned and gives the entrance some character. The door on the left is certainly more traditional in style, but I don’t think it’s automatically a better looking door.

On a modest terrace like yours, I actually think the new door is the more attractive of the two. I genuinely think it’s the mustard paint that’s making it feel wrong, not the design itself. A cooler tone paint for the door will balance well against the warmth of the red brick.

So my final opinion not meaning to be blunt but yes - you ATAH.