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AIBU to be upset about having to pick a front door I don't like?

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Delara · 11/07/2026 07:45

I got the keys to a new house in May, and my partner moved in last week. I'd been trying for over a month to get a new front door, having had around 5 fitters come to measure and then say they couldn't source a door that narrow.

My partner then moved in and pushed for me to get a new front door ASAP as he had accidentally let the cats out (we currently have a recessed door and need an airlock).

I ended up buying the only style of door I could find that could be produced so narrow, and it's a cotta,ge style front door that will be put on my Edwardian house. It's not been fitted yet but is in production so too late to change. I really wanted a traditional style door.

AIBU to be feeling resentful of the rush and having to compromise on the front door? I lived in a house with three years without an airlock and learned how to not let the cats out. We are both obviously stressed for the cats' safety, and I was planning to buy a door anyway for my partner's sake, but I am feeling resentful that this has pushed me into buying a door that doesn't suit the house.

Pic attached of what it will look like when fitted

I think I am being unreasonable and it's not my partner's fault the fitters couldn't find a door. But I'm struggling with the compromise.

AIBU to be upset about having to pick a front door I don't like?
OP posts:
goingtotown · 12/07/2026 00:16

You need a bespoke door. Pay the price or put up with the one you don’t like.

LoftyPlumLion · 12/07/2026 08:56

I think you should lean in and dress it up like a minion.

Sorry, I haven't helped have I?

SnappyOP · 12/07/2026 10:33

How much time do you spend looking at your front door? If thats what you could get and afford then live with it ,paint it black and save up for one that you like. It will keep your house warmer in winter if that is any consolation. I wanted a second front door to keep the house warmer and cleaner everytime i opend the door all the dead leaves in the street flew into the house and all the cold air I had to settle for a door that opend out the way not fantastic but it worked

Brokentoes85 · 12/07/2026 11:58

Delara · 11/07/2026 08:16

That's true, the cottage style door with stripes may have been the only style available but at least I got to choose colour and the glass style.

Yeah I'd be fucking fuming if my partner wanted to keep my pets safe too.

The door looks fine and the house looks average, it's not going to make it look worse.

YourDearCat · 12/07/2026 17:56

You have to look at the damn thing every time you put your key in. Get rid of your partner,keep the cats and get a door of your choosing. Is that it in the pic? Looks a bloody monstrosity!! 👀

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