Being told that as a size 18 I can’t wear certain clothes

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I do appreciate that when posting canvassing for opinions on outfits etc., you will get all sorts of responses.

But I have been told a few times now that as a size 18, I should cover up and not expose too much skin, basically purely because of my size.

AIBU to think this isn’t okay? I have as much a right to get my shoulders out as any other size!

YABU. I wear whatever I like but equally don't canvass the opinions of total strangers online (especially if I can't take it).

Curious to see the photo of this model now though.

I’m a teensy bit shocked people think the model who is a size 8 and 5 ft 9 is overweight… In which universe exactly? Also the dress is super flattering OP so you’d look fine in it even as an overweight person. It’s pretty loose fitting.

I honestly think fat people can wear what they want but the recent trend of fat younger women in crop tops isn’t the nicest, I don’t really want to see their midriff.

I think it’s this woman. Size 8 and 5 ft 10- apparently overweight? Mumsnet is mad.

Nope. Not this one. The asos dress

Nobody thinks that model is overweight. It’s the asos one.

I’m all for body confidence whatever shape or size you are but some people you do wonder if they look in the mirror or if other people tell them honestly what they think of them.,

Oh for God sake, I wish people would just stop this shit and read the bloody thread.

It has been said countless amounts of times that this is NOT the photo!!

Good grief, read the thread, it’s obviously not that one.

https://www.asos.com/asos-curve/asos-design-curve-chiffon-high-neck-maxi-dress-in-multi-abstract-print/prd/210378452?acquisitionsource=pasteboard&clickid=_m91xwib699kazxapri3ct2yjpe221ovtofhgnfv200&im_rewards=&irgwc=1&afsrc=1&affid=29009&pubref=10078&utm_source=impact&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Skimbit+Ltd.&utm_term=Online+Tracking+Link&utm_content=ONLINE_TRACKING_LINK

Is it this one?

Model is clearly overweight but I agree with PP, nice looking lassie.

It is this one, yes.

The link has been repeatedly posted and the photos are at the top of the thread in the gallery.

Clearly overweight but looks lovely.

Meh, I've been bigger than I am now but much, much more toned. There are different types of large, flabby or solid, but you get it with thin too. I'm not fat but I'm certainly not toned either. I'm not bitching at myself, just being realistic.

I can't work out what the OP wanted from this thread. We all know that everyone has opinions on everything. Some share more than others, everyone is thinking something. Some people lke bigger, some people don't. The OP and everyone on this thread knows it and I don't know why she's feigning shock and surprise at the idea that people have different opinions. Wear what you like. Some people will think you look good, some won't, for a variety of different reasons. Don't ever expect anything else.

For what it's worth, there's one universally loved dress on a certain person that everyone fawns all over - Princess Di's 'revenge' dress. I don't get it. I don't think it was at all flattering or stylish, quite frumpy in fact. However she would no doubt have thought I usually look like shit too. You cannot please all of the people all of the time so give up trying.

https://www.asos.com/topshop/topshop-chiffon-maxi-dress-with-seam-detail-in-green-floral/prd/210570227#ctaref-we%20recommend%20carousel_4&featureref1-we%20recommend%20pers

Asos is not a store I ever visit. I really like this one though, but I'm too short and porky with nowhere to go for it. Mebbes I should head me over to Style & Beauty to get myself dissected.

Yes I didn’t get that dress either, and certainly didn’t see the wow. I usually thought she looked great, but didn’t see it in that dress.

You'd get slaughtered for the 'mebbes' alone! 😁😁

Ffs the comments on here are shocking. I'm a size 8 and people saying the model in the brown dress is a tank etc are disgusting. She looks like an average sized woman. Some of you really are absolute vultures.

Op, wear whatever you want, like and feel confident in and ignore comments on mumsnet from the people who think it's okay to anonymously get their claws out and say shit they'd never say to your face.

Literally noone has been talking about the model in the brown dress, apart from people who haven't understood or bothered to read the thread properly.

Noone has actually CRITICISED the model in the asos dress that actually is in question, theyve just said she is overweight. Which she is. She's a size 18, and looks it. I am also a size 18, and look it, i am also overweight.

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You are out of order with your name-calling when you haven't bothered to read the thread before commenting or at least checked the links.

Yes, totally out of order. They aren't being judgmental about all women's bodies, just some.

Best read the thread @DidYeAye16 ! You need the full context of the judgment.🙄

Then again, maybe don't if shaming and judgment isn't your thing.

I think it was seen as a sexy dress at the time and Diana wasn’t known for being a sexy dresser. But it was ghastly imo.

JFC this has been posted and corrected at least half a dozen times. It’s this dress

When I was a size 18 I mostly wore trousers and a longish T or jumper with 3/4 length sleeves.
Now Im a size 10 post mounjaro I wear exactly the same things because thats my style and it suits me fat or thin.
Once you find the style that suits you you will wear it whatever size you are.
I dont wear mini skirts or short shorts because they dont suit me at all and I dont feel comfortable in them.

READ THE FUCKING THREAD FOR FUCKS SAKE

What is odd to me is that you think the "which" of which woman makes any substantive difference to the tenor of the comments.

You what?