Did my DH’s comments to a stranger cross the line?

[Cyclingsar]

Local retail park - there’s a gym by the car park. Walking back to the car earlier, DH makes conversation with a man (early/mid 20’s I guess) and says he’s in good shape (he had a vest on and was muscly) and that he wouldn’t trust him around me. Jokey tone, the guy laughed. He then said ‘she’d eat you alive, son. She’d probably teach you a thing or two’, again he laughed and we carried on walking.

DH is a bit of a cheeky chappy and always makes conversation with strangers, but I felt this was a bit off.

Is he implying you're not to be trusted or that this man looked like a rapist? I don't find either version funny, both are insulting. I hope this didn't really happen, if it did your husband should stay away from the general public as he can't be trusted not to make inappropriate "jokes".

There's one in the pub we used to go to. The chippy got a new, young woman and it was jokes about his battered sausage, until one of the other men shut him down. We are older and a lot of the drinkers have gone onto alcohol free Guinness, prompting comments about "it'd be like reading porn". He comes out with these things in shops, the street. One time in the shop a younger man asked him if he wasn't getting any, because he seems obsessed, but it hasn't stopped him. They are the embarrassing pervy uncles of yesteryear.
OP, tell him to leave you out of it, before you are looked at with pity.

This is a dick move, you know full well they meant as well.

I agree with your analysis, but I think a better analogy would be male gorillas scrapping for supremacy. 🤮 Women don’t behave like this.

How 0ld are you both op?

Oh come come. Women do compete with other women, get bealous of other women, make catty comments and possessive about their partners, sure it’s not identical but it’s the female version, let’s not pretend otherwise

We are both early 50’s.

So your dh just randomly compliments a man ‘oh you look great. I wouldn’t trust you near my wife’ the man laughs. Your dh says ‘son, she’d eat you alive and teach you a thing or two.’
what a weird world.

So grim.

It’s not my humour at all and I’d be very embarrassed if I was with him. It was supposed to be a weird compliment towards you (that he wouldn’t trust the man to not want to have sex with you, and that you are good at sex so could teach him things) but I think talking to random men about them having sex with his wife is very weird and objectifying of your DH. Why can’t he just say the man looks fit and leave it at that? Is he insecure about something?

The older I get the less I can stand “cheeky chappies”. Usually because it’s code for “unfunny bellend with shit banter”. This example proves my point.

Are you sure your DH is not secretly gay?

Me too

😂

Agree! Your husband sounds insecure and threatened by hot young men!

He sounds like a creep

Sorry OP but your husband sounds like a totally disrespectful sleazebag. Not only did he seek to embarrass you, but I’m sure the poor young man who he said this to would have thought your husband was a wasted space.

What on earth possessed him to make such dreadful comments about you. Perhaps it’s time you ditched him. I certainly would not be sticking by someone with nil respect for me.

Has he always been like this or has he just got worse as he is getting older???

Dear god. He sounds very juvenile.

The first line ok but of a joke / man compliment. The second part - just plain weird!!! What was the thinking behind it… is your DH controlling or jealous? Seems odd!

Pretty grim. Accidentally clicked wrong vote. Not sure if it's more offensive to you or the man.

He sounds like a total creep.

I’d be so embarrassed

Just yuk. Cringe.😖

Christ on a bike. Your H is disgusting

Ah, yes. The type who humiliates his wife for a laugh from a stranger.