Did my DH’s comments to a stranger cross the line?

[Cyclingsar]

Local retail park - there’s a gym by the car park. Walking back to the car earlier, DH makes conversation with a man (early/mid 20’s I guess) and says he’s in good shape (he had a vest on and was muscly) and that he wouldn’t trust him around me. Jokey tone, the guy laughed. He then said ‘she’d eat you alive, son. She’d probably teach you a thing or two’, again he laughed and we carried on walking.

DH is a bit of a cheeky chappy and always makes conversation with strangers, but I felt this was a bit off.

I'm now racking my brains to try to think of the arsehole I mentioned earlier is running for Councillor. He's early 50's.
@Cyclingsar he hasn't got his head around how old he is, has he? You've come out of the MILF category around ten years ago. He's gone into, creepy old guy, territory. No-one younger wants to talk about sex to people our age, only his mates, who are also in denial about exactly how old (and past it) they are. You're not in a old mining town are you? We are all a bit perplexed as to why the guy I know thinks anyone would be interested. The fact he offers himself and by the references he makes about his wife, they obviously don't even want each other.

Grim. Tell him how inappropriate that was.

Well at least the young man has a story to tell, he will tell his mates how he met this couple who were old enough to be his parents/grandparents, was approached by the man, who started telling him out fit he was then talked about him fucking his wife, as she stood back and said nothing.

how fucking creepy and grim is that from the pair of you and for the poor guy.

My first thought too.

Ah yes, it’s the woman at fault. Classic Mumsnet!

Where did I say that? I said both of you. You said nothing at rh3 rime, walked along with them and even refer to your husband as a cheeky chappy and this as a “bit off”

it’s not a bit off, it’s creepy and grim. This young man was accosted in the car park by the both of you, with your husband talking about his body and making jokes about fucking you. Yoire both old enough to be his parent or grandparent,

my daughter is the same age, if a middle aged couple approached her and started talking about her body and making jokes about fucking one of them, I’d be outraged,

@Cyclingsar hasn't denied it! You could NOT make this up 🤣

He won't be one for long if he keeps appeoaching good looking strange men and talking about their having sex with his wife.

It sounds like he's trying to hit up strange dudes for 3somes.

Your husband is a weirdo

Not to mention this. Creeps.

To be honest, I think he's fine, and perhaps inadvertently trying to show of his wife. He may perhaps be a bit misguided though!!!

Edit - actually I quite like it that he connects with strangers. There's a lot of judgement and criticism on here, which is fine as that's peoples reaction. I think that connection is what makes the world go 'round.

God he makes you both sound like swingers

I think its your partner who wants attention. Also to feel really masculine.
Asking a stranger to Asses you. Whilst he's giving points of how hard you are to handle. How fantastic you are. [ the guy was being told you're not strong enough. Or good looking enough.
If next time he talks about you .like your deaf and have no personal space that should be protected.
Just say . Terribly sorry. Im trying to teach him to be a gentleman. Sadly he's failing Terribly.

Reform councillor by any chance?

Ugh what a foul creep of a husband you’ve got there.

Approaching a young man to tell him how good his body is apropos of nothing, suggesting you would sexually assault him, and then suggesting that if he fucked you you’d ‘teach him things.’ Proper gross stuff.

If she’s as highly strung as her mother sounds, she could probably do with taking them up on their offer!

Of course he crossed the line. He's in his 50's, 'cheeky chappy' is how I might describe my 3 year old.

Sounds like he needs to grow up.

Cheeky chappy?

come on, let’s stop using these phrases and say it
jpw it is. He’s rude, inappropriate, misogynistic, creepy.

Oh dear op.

It is really inappropriate and probably made the lad uncomfortable...he thinks he's funny but he's a creep.

It’s up to you really. Did it offend you, if it did tell husband.

What he did was not okay because he objectified you to some another man to show himself off. What may be a tiny, microscopic, talking electron microscope here, point in his favor, is your husband thinks you're smoking hot. However, that in no way obviates his bad behavior.

I don’t think what he said indicates this at all. In any way

I swear my DH (over 60) has lost his filter along the way too.

we were at a restaurant a few months back with extended family.

Our Wait staff was in a jovial mood and talk flowed beyond the normal service staff banter. Anyhow DH said something to him that actually sounded flirty and that had both myself and family looking at him in surprise.

We’ve been back with the same family members and the Gent was working again but not our table. He certainly recognised DH and was visibly happy but unable to approach us.

we reminded DH of the conversation but he doesn’t remember what he said of course. It was just a blah blah thing to him at the moment.

but yes if there had been a pool noodle available at the time I would have hit him over the head with it. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

“ I’m assuming you’re both swingers or he wishes to be “ .
You literally have to be the only person in the universe that got that from OPS post 😂