Did my DH’s comments to a stranger cross the line?

[Cyclingsar]

Local retail park - there’s a gym by the car park. Walking back to the car earlier, DH makes conversation with a man (early/mid 20’s I guess) and says he’s in good shape (he had a vest on and was muscly) and that he wouldn’t trust him around me. Jokey tone, the guy laughed. He then said ‘she’d eat you alive, son. She’d probably teach you a thing or two’, again he laughed and we carried on walking.

DH is a bit of a cheeky chappy and always makes conversation with strangers, but I felt this was a bit off.

He just sounds absolutely unboundaried. How unpleasant!

Lack of couth.

And when you “tore a strip off him”, how did he react?
I think this is the key point. Did he apologise for referencing your sex life to a passing car park stranger? Could he admit that he was being inappropriate? Can he see that he is literally attention-seeking? Does he have any self-awareness?
He sounds like the kind of person who thinks their banter is amusing to everyone when around them when, in fact, everyone is quietly rolling their eyes.
If he craves male connection that badly, does he perhaps lack friends as well as social skills? He sounds like he needs a hobby. And some humility. And you deserve an apology.

He does have plenty of friends, and is a local councillor now too, so there are people who took a liking to him.

Omg! I’d have told DH to stop embarrassing people (covering all 3 of us). We’re old enough to be his parents!

My DH wouldn’t noticed another fella in a car park and certainly wouldn’t speak to him and would never, ever comment on his personal appearance. The rest of it is just gross.

A councillor as in local government?? He's a gobby twat with obviously twat minded friends and probably Reform, they take anyone from what I hear.

Just read your ages... he sound like a dirty old man.

A Reform Councillor? 🤣🤣😂

I would assume then after you “tore him off a strip” he did not apologise, or acknowledge the sleezy/creepiness of his words -

“Cheeky chappy” 🤢 he sounds like a bellend

Instant ick. How crude and embarrassing 🤢

And Keir Starmer is PM when 70% of people think he’s a dick. And Nigel Farage is possibly PM in waiting when 80% of people think he’s a dick. Unfortunately career success isn’t correlated to not being a dick (unless perhaps negatively in the case of politicians).

I would have laughed and that would have been the end of that

It all depends on your relationship style. I admit it's a gross comment, but you know your DH enough to know where it really comes from.

Nevertheless if you felt humiliated ask him to stop.

I wouldn't like it, but maybe in his mind he wanted to compliment you in several ways:
Assuming this young guy would like you (because you're attractive) and would make him jealous
Assuming you're the 7 wonders in "that" aspect.

A bit gross for many, but possibly came out of admiration for you, although definitely a bit over the line.

Stop him if he thinks he's funny but you feel embarrassed

Jesus .. just when I thought things couldn't get any worse. Prince among men.

He isn't a "cheeky chappie" given he is in his early 50s he a lewd, vulgar man. My sons are early 20s and I'd not want someone perv old enough to be their grandad saying things like that to them.

I hate men like this. You must know him by now and listen to his shit all the time? My friends husband is constantly making sexual innuendos as it’s so tiresome! Turns out they never have sex… I always think men like this are making up for something or very insecure. Surely you find it super unattractive?!

So you could have been this lad's mum. Very disgusting of him - disrespectful of you and the young man. I would hate for someone to talk like that to my sons.

He sounds porn/sex obsessed.

Is this for real? What am I even reading. It’s a ick as it gets, your old enough to be his mother if not his grandmother.

'his woman'? That's pretty disrespectful wording.

How to add points to the 'unattractive scale' 🤢 imagine how he would feel if it was you saying stuff like that to another woman. "you look fit as, I'll have to watch my husband around you... He'd smash you rigid and you wouldn't be able to handle him" sounds really pervy doesn't it? I would want to crawl under a stone if my gf said that about me.

So your husband felt the need to embarrass you in front of a stranger today because it would make him feel better for not having a buff body ?!?!
and you think this is banter??
he does not like you very much to humiliate you in a supermarket carpark for no reason at all !!

The whole thing is weird, who talks to strangers like this?? And saying he wouldn’t trust him around you? Very disrespectful attitude to you.

No, but barely anything on here is true, but still it allows people to rage for a few minutes