To think a daily shower is not excessive for a 12 & 14 YO?

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DP has just decreed a daily shower as ‘excessive’ and they are absolutely not to have them.

Tell him, he's right...he does pay 50%, so he can now pay nothing and move out...

He showers 3 times a week ? Thats rank and sure will be smelly in this hot weather

guessing you don’t get that close to him as whiffy and tmi bit sure A bit of knob cheese about 🤮🍆

your teens can and should shower daily

He DOES pay half the bills.
So it is half his responsibility to make sure the children have what they need.

I bet this is just the tip of the iceberg.
What else is he controlling about?

I shower every day and I think it’s good hygiene. My stepdad used to comment on it which then led to me being worried and not showering enough. As long as they aren’t having really long showers, I don’t see the problem

No he showers 3 times a week at most 🤢🤢🤢🤢

Don’t let your kids smell op just because you’re with a weirdo who doesn’t care bout his own personal hygiene

🙀🙀🙀🙀🙀🙀

Grim. Truly.

Ugh grim - he should be encouraging their independence around hygiene and pleased about this

Please tell us you are not staying with a smelly controlling man who thinks it is ok to tell your children that they cannot wash themselves every day in their OWN home

OP, tell us what the iceberg looks like under the waterline…..

And you are with this shower dodging control freak because... ?

You shouldn't be exposing your boys to someone controlling like this.

Showers two or three times a day. 🤔 I bet they've been to elevenerife.

Everyone stank of body odour back then. Them days were old, but not good.

You could ask people in Kent and Sussex

My 14 year old showers almost every day and my 12 year old every second day.

A daily shower isn't excessive for anybody.

At least once a day for my 15 and 16 year olds.

Why is he paying half the utilities? How many people live in the house and how many are his DC?
He is being very unreasonable to moan about a daily shower, but if you’re on a water meter and they’re spending hours in there then he’s probably right to moan about the cost.

A daily wash in their own home is the bare minimum for their wellbeing as teens, not to mention their self esteem. My step mum used to try to restrict my shower access too and it was awful - a choice of being smelly at school or having fights at home. What else is he controlling?

It sounds like such an unhappy home

Teenagers are stinky! They must shower every day, with soap!!!!
Please don't tell us your DP wants sex on his non showering days...... 🤢🤢🤢

In what world is showering everyday not an essential? How is that even up for debate, irrespective of how much he contributes to the household? He is totally illogical and clearly, an unhygienic man. He pays half the bills, so he can dictate people's routines? What's next, you can only flush the toilet once a day? He is utterly stupid and I would probably not stay with such a man.

I have water in Kent ?