To think some “independent” people are actually just afraid no one will show up for them?

[HyperIndependenceHurt]

Hyper-independence is often just unprocessed disappointment.

You've summed it up!

'Quicker and easier for the most part to crack on with things myself.'

I honestly wish I could do more DIY stuff. Because when I do the things I CAN do, they're done better than professional. Decorating as an example. I once paid over £800 for some decorating. I do it better myself.

I think that can be true but it's also self esteem