To want one more child?

[Whatnow777]

I'm 44, AMH 0.5. One biological child 2.5 years old through IVF. 4 miscarriages in my past. We are not in a great position financially but both want to complete family with a second child. Wae have been trying naturally but not had success yet. 3 of the 4 miscarriages were naturally conceived.
Options:

1. We have one mosaic -15 embryo in storage from 2023.
2. Donor egg. I would only feel comfortable having donor egg if the child is able to contact the donor at some point. I am not too keen on idea of donor as it seems so complicated and I worry about child feeling different to our other.
3. Try IVF again

Financially we are not in a great place at the moment as I have been scammed out of some money recently. We would have to get a loan to cover any option. What would you do?

Well said and I couldn't agree with you more. Am 43 and also considering a second child via DE after recurrent loss and a failed OE transfer.

@Whatnow777 Any further update? Are you giving the mosaic embryo a chance?

I think the large majority of women who experience miscarriages and/or go through fertility treatments have their emotional wellbeing significantly impacted. That's what people are getting at when they say enjoy the child you have. You'd be putting additional emotional strain on yourself which your child is very likely to pick up on. The years that should be full of happy memories are likely to be tainted by loss. You are considering taking out a loan to go through fertility treatment when you already have a child to pay for.
The chance of a successful pregnancy at your age is minimal, if you do concieve and go full term your health is at risk. Take the urge for a child out of it and think logically, there's a very small chance you will have another child, the risks are much greater than the potential benefits.

Thank you for asking. Soon after I wrote this post, I found out I was pregnant. I couldn't believe it, actually! In a weird way I thought it was going to work out. It was the first time it's happened without me tracking my ovulation, without trying. I got to week 6 - saw a heartbeat, etc and everything looked good, all the measurements were on point. Then I got to week 9 and lost it :(.

It isn't the first time, I've had a few of these, and it's probably down to my age - chromosomal issues etc. It made me more appreciative of what I have, and made me decide not to get pregnant again unless it's using that embryo/ donor due to the risk, and I'm just fed up with the miscarriage process.

I have only just come round to deciding, and I'm pretty sure I'm going to try that embryo. I just started a new job, though, so I plan to at least do a few months before trying the embryo!