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Woman went ballistic at me in the gym

200 replies

JennaR · 23/03/2026 17:48

My gym had a big refurb recently, all brand new kit etc and it is really nice.

The issue is that there’s now very little ‘free’ space where you can place mats and do work on these.

The only space is directly in front of 3 of the machines (chest press etc) where there is a mirrored wall, there’s room for about 3 people to be working on mats in a row and the machines are about a metre away. This space is intended for mat work and it’s where they are hung up.

Yesterday, I was working out on one of the mats with ear pods in. There was a man using the machine directly behind me.

After being there for about 5 minutes, I noticed a woman walk over to me so took my ear pods out. She started ranting at me saying I was trying to get her boyfriends attention and why was I being so attention seeking by exercising right in front and ‘bending over’.

I quite firmly explained I was using the space as intended. She kept going on and then said I can do what I want because ‘she’ll be the one fucking him tonight’.

The man was silent throughout and once she finished going on, they walked off together.

Another member nearby came up to me and checked I was okay.

I’ve told a couple of people this today with mixed views - one thinks I probably shouldn’t have been there and it’s a stupid design, and the other says the woman was out of order.

Would welcome any views - it’s a hotel gym with regular members and I didn’t recognise them so am hoping they were guests and I won’t see her again.

OP posts:
Blueuggboots · 23/03/2026 17:50

She’s a fucking loon!!!!

Peterrabbitismybrother · 23/03/2026 17:50

Her insecurity is not your problem.YANBU

rwalker · 23/03/2026 17:50

Speak to the staff

SaffronsMadAboutMe · 23/03/2026 17:51

What's your view?

I'd go with that and stick to it OP.

Only a weird person would think you were in the wrong.

MeAndMyGhost · 23/03/2026 17:52

Obviously she is BU and I would not give this another thought.

BuryAllYourSecretsInMySkin · 23/03/2026 17:53

Bloody hell, she's very clearly insecure as fuck and took it out on you.

You've done nothing wrong.

Rosecoffeecup · 23/03/2026 17:53

She's a nutter and clearly doesn't trust her fella

Sparkletastic · 23/03/2026 17:55

Maybe they get off on her jealousy. Absolutely nothing you did wrong though.

Czerwonitz · 23/03/2026 17:56

I would not be shocked if she were filming something for engagement farming on social media

wobblychristmastree · 23/03/2026 17:57

Can’t you complain to the management?

SoSadSoSadSoSad · 23/03/2026 17:57

Jesus wept. What a nutter. You can work out exactly where you like.

Notprying · 23/03/2026 17:58

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Pippa12 · 23/03/2026 17:59

I think folk will be talking about her behaviour tonight, not yours! What a tit. I bet her fella was mortified!

Topseyt123 · 23/03/2026 18:00

She sounds like an utter loon. I'd have put the earbuds back in, paid her her no attention and continued the workout.

Vodkamartini3olives · 23/03/2026 18:00

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Vodkamartini3olives · 23/03/2026 18:00

*well

Dartania · 23/03/2026 18:01

So many ‘crazies at the gym’ posts lately. 🤔

Wynter25 · 23/03/2026 18:01

YADNBU X

Passaggressfedup · 23/03/2026 18:02

Depends which yoga poses you were doing 😁

ThejoyofNC · 23/03/2026 18:02

You absolutely need to report this.

Imagine being that bloody insecure. I bet the poor man isn't allowed to go to the gym by himself, the fact he didn't say a word is very telling.

ThejoyofNC · 23/03/2026 18:02

Passaggressfedup · 23/03/2026 18:02

Depends which yoga poses you were doing 😁

Why?

Notprying · 23/03/2026 18:03

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Pollqueen · 23/03/2026 18:03

Blueuggboots · 23/03/2026 17:50

She’s a fucking loon!!!!

This

Heatedrival · 23/03/2026 18:04

Who on earth agreed with her?!
Of course she was wrong. Insanity.

Whatexcellentboiledpotatoes · 23/03/2026 18:06

OP, please report this woman to the gym and have her banned.

There's no excuse for the way she abused you.

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