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Woman went ballistic at me in the gym

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JennaR · 23/03/2026 17:48

My gym had a big refurb recently, all brand new kit etc and it is really nice.

The issue is that there’s now very little ‘free’ space where you can place mats and do work on these.

The only space is directly in front of 3 of the machines (chest press etc) where there is a mirrored wall, there’s room for about 3 people to be working on mats in a row and the machines are about a metre away. This space is intended for mat work and it’s where they are hung up.

Yesterday, I was working out on one of the mats with ear pods in. There was a man using the machine directly behind me.

After being there for about 5 minutes, I noticed a woman walk over to me so took my ear pods out. She started ranting at me saying I was trying to get her boyfriends attention and why was I being so attention seeking by exercising right in front and ‘bending over’.

I quite firmly explained I was using the space as intended. She kept going on and then said I can do what I want because ‘she’ll be the one fucking him tonight’.

The man was silent throughout and once she finished going on, they walked off together.

Another member nearby came up to me and checked I was okay.

I’ve told a couple of people this today with mixed views - one thinks I probably shouldn’t have been there and it’s a stupid design, and the other says the woman was out of order.

Would welcome any views - it’s a hotel gym with regular members and I didn’t recognise them so am hoping they were guests and I won’t see her again.

OP posts:
Katiesaidthat · 25/03/2026 10:22

Many moons ago I was chatting with a friend at a bar and this woman burned my arm with her cigarette, on purpose accidentally because "her man was looking at me". No idea, I had my back to them.
So, I´ll tell you now. They work in tandem, she proves to him that she will show her love and loyalty by being jealous and aggressive to other women "defending possession of her man" and he gets off on that. They both really enjoy it. They probably turn the tables around if they feel like it, and he goes off at some poor guy minding his own business.

Lostinmiddleage · 25/03/2026 11:18

She’s clearly very insecure so it’s her issue, not yours.

Mandaxx25 · 25/03/2026 12:35

What an absolute tool. That is so embarrassing for her. Imagine being that insecure. She should have been booted from the hotel just for being such an embarrassment to women.

Mandaxx25 · 25/03/2026 12:56

JulietteHasAGun · 23/03/2026 18:44

Maybe. But there are also random crazies about. There’s a couple who have recently joined my branch of David Lloyd and the female half went crazy in a yoga class, screaming at her male partner that he was ogling another female member. Swearing at him, and then the other woman. They joined on a three month membership, DL refused to ban them because they said they’d be leaving soon. That was last year. They’ve just reappeared and have been allowed back. 🤷‍♀️. She spends the whole time eyeballing people in classes and walking up to them aggressively and swerving away at the last minute. I see plenty of bonkers behaviour in the gym to believe posts.

Your gym sounds like an absolute shit hole.

ldnmusic87 · 25/03/2026 13:07

Did you not report it?

Mandaxx25 · 25/03/2026 13:12

canisquaeso · 23/03/2026 20:02

She’s just bonkers, her being “plump” has nothing to do with it.

The new gym layout seems like it sucks though.

How do you know it had nothing to do with it? Plenty of overweight people are insecure about it, so maybe she was.

Mandaxx25 · 25/03/2026 13:14

Katiesaidthat · 25/03/2026 10:22

Many moons ago I was chatting with a friend at a bar and this woman burned my arm with her cigarette, on purpose accidentally because "her man was looking at me". No idea, I had my back to them.
So, I´ll tell you now. They work in tandem, she proves to him that she will show her love and loyalty by being jealous and aggressive to other women "defending possession of her man" and he gets off on that. They both really enjoy it. They probably turn the tables around if they feel like it, and he goes off at some poor guy minding his own business.

I hope you knocked her out

Mandaxx25 · 25/03/2026 13:19

Goditsmemargaret · 24/03/2026 19:11

OP she is a lunatic and you need to report it.

I'm baffled by some of the replies here. I cannot see what's wrong with mats in front of machines. How is this making women a floorshow? Do men not use mats? Do women not lift weights?

Also I'm massively resent the assumption the reason she's insecure is because she is a little plump. Utterly ridiculous. She is a lunatic and would be a lunatic at any BMI.

I go to our local place a few times a week with my partner. Inevitably there are younger (and slimmer) women than me flexing their muscles in tiny shorts and bras. I couldn't care less.

You know bloody rightly what OP meant by that. She was trying to figure out a reason for her insecurity and being overweight may well have been the reason. Just because you, and others, are clearly also insecure about that, doesn't mean you get to turn round and make it about OP being ridiculous. If you weren't insecure you'd have completely understood that it may well be a possibility. So you just revealed that you ARE insecure and you DO care, very much so, by getting upset by the insinuation.
Also, she didn't say she was nuts because she's plump, she said it was maybe a reason why she acted nuts. Stop trying to twist what people say so you appear in the right.

kerryanna1 · 25/03/2026 13:41

put it this way - if i was with you or/ she had got psychical- she would have lasted 2 seconds before she was flat out on the floor ! :)

Kirstk · 25/03/2026 14:29

The woman is an insecure psycho bf has probably cheated multiple times and she takes him back blaiming the women and not him

MinorQueen · 25/03/2026 14:29

JennaR · 23/03/2026 17:48

My gym had a big refurb recently, all brand new kit etc and it is really nice.

The issue is that there’s now very little ‘free’ space where you can place mats and do work on these.

The only space is directly in front of 3 of the machines (chest press etc) where there is a mirrored wall, there’s room for about 3 people to be working on mats in a row and the machines are about a metre away. This space is intended for mat work and it’s where they are hung up.

Yesterday, I was working out on one of the mats with ear pods in. There was a man using the machine directly behind me.

After being there for about 5 minutes, I noticed a woman walk over to me so took my ear pods out. She started ranting at me saying I was trying to get her boyfriends attention and why was I being so attention seeking by exercising right in front and ‘bending over’.

I quite firmly explained I was using the space as intended. She kept going on and then said I can do what I want because ‘she’ll be the one fucking him tonight’.

The man was silent throughout and once she finished going on, they walked off together.

Another member nearby came up to me and checked I was okay.

I’ve told a couple of people this today with mixed views - one thinks I probably shouldn’t have been there and it’s a stupid design, and the other says the woman was out of order.

Would welcome any views - it’s a hotel gym with regular members and I didn’t recognise them so am hoping they were guests and I won’t see her again.

I dont even know why you need to ask who is being unreasonable in this situation. Obviously you! I mean, how dare you work out anywhere near her man. He clearly was looking at you and, by the way, thats also your fault. Dont you understand the way the world works now? You can be blamed for anything by some women! And dont Dare complain. They will swoop down and attack at slightest retaliation... best to ignore and get on with your life.

canisquaeso · 25/03/2026 15:02

Mandaxx25 · 25/03/2026 13:12

How do you know it had nothing to do with it? Plenty of overweight people are insecure about it, so maybe she was.

In the same vein, how do you know it had anything to do with it?

LadyVioletBridgerton · 25/03/2026 15:14

She’s a weirdo OP. I doubt theirs is a happy relationship if she feels the need to do that. If a woman came and worked out in front of my husband I’d just be like 🤷‍♀️ because that’s what gyms are for.

Cariadm · 25/03/2026 17:04

Passaggressfedup · 23/03/2026 18:02

Depends which yoga poses you were doing 😁

Er...I think you will find that unless the OP was being purposefully and obviously 'evocative' the 'yoga poses' she was doing were totally and absolutely irrelevant to the situation!! 🙄

Goditsmemargaret · 25/03/2026 18:02

Mandaxx25 · 25/03/2026 13:19

You know bloody rightly what OP meant by that. She was trying to figure out a reason for her insecurity and being overweight may well have been the reason. Just because you, and others, are clearly also insecure about that, doesn't mean you get to turn round and make it about OP being ridiculous. If you weren't insecure you'd have completely understood that it may well be a possibility. So you just revealed that you ARE insecure and you DO care, very much so, by getting upset by the insinuation.
Also, she didn't say she was nuts because she's plump, she said it was maybe a reason why she acted nuts. Stop trying to twist what people say so you appear in the right.

Again that woman would be a lunatic at any BMI... Just as you would be madly aggressive at any BMI.

EvieBB · 25/03/2026 20:58

Mandaxx25 · 25/03/2026 13:19

You know bloody rightly what OP meant by that. She was trying to figure out a reason for her insecurity and being overweight may well have been the reason. Just because you, and others, are clearly also insecure about that, doesn't mean you get to turn round and make it about OP being ridiculous. If you weren't insecure you'd have completely understood that it may well be a possibility. So you just revealed that you ARE insecure and you DO care, very much so, by getting upset by the insinuation.
Also, she didn't say she was nuts because she's plump, she said it was maybe a reason why she acted nuts. Stop trying to twist what people say so you appear in the right.

Jesus Christ, calm down dear

kerryanna1 · 25/03/2026 21:03

EvieBB · 25/03/2026 20:58

Jesus Christ, calm down dear

lmao GO Evie !!

EvieBB · 25/03/2026 21:06

Goditsmemargaret · 25/03/2026 18:02

Again that woman would be a lunatic at any BMI... Just as you would be madly aggressive at any BMI.

Never a truer word said! I don't understand where her anger is coming from at all....
It's like she's desperate for all plump people to feel insecure...🤷🏻‍♀️

EvieBB · 25/03/2026 21:06

Goditsmemargaret · 25/03/2026 18:02

Again that woman would be a lunatic at any BMI... Just as you would be madly aggressive at any BMI.

😂

Muffinme · 25/03/2026 21:10

Whatexcellentboiledpotatoes · 23/03/2026 18:06

OP, please report this woman to the gym and have her banned.

There's no excuse for the way she abused you.

This, without hesitation

stillchasingdereksheppard · 25/03/2026 21:16

This is batshit! She's got serious issues. Let the staff know and fingers crossed she was a guest and not a regular

SassyCow · 26/03/2026 00:17

YANBU - she's definitely the issue here. She sounds crazy!

daleylama · 26/03/2026 01:02

JennaR · 23/03/2026 18:46

It was most bizarre, I think perhaps it was an insecurity thing - she was a bit ‘plump’ (trying to use a kind term!) compared to me - then again she wasn’t short of confidence when ranting at me so who knows!

Definitely exhibiting her own insecurities. Put it out of your mind

wasieverreallyhere · 28/03/2026 23:08

I'm 56 grey hair overweight young woman was upset talking to her husband ouf dogs were saying hello some people should not be in relationships sorry you had that happen ridiculous

Plasticdreams · 29/03/2026 08:53

I would have reported her to the gym. It was completely unacceptable and she should be banned.

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