AIBU to find it incredibly frustrating that there are basically no resources in the UK for people like me?

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I’m genuinely starting to wonder whether I’m being unreasonable or whether this is just a massive blind spot in the UK.

I’m a woman, adult, functioning perfectly well in life for the most part, but I’m very cognitively able and have always been. I’ve been properly assessed and this a known entity (I was not born nor raised in the UK for context).

The issue is I’m finding that there are only pathways if you’re struggling but not if you’re just curious. I’m not only talking about the NHS, even privately I haven’t been able to find someone who hits the spot.

I’ve looked into:
ND assessments (very binary, very impairment-focused)
talk therapy - after years of it total waste of time and money.

People in the US suggested to find a neuropsychologist but they have eye-watering costs, mostly framed around brain injury or rehab

It’s either you’re ill or you’re fine, stop asking questions.

I’m not looking for validation, labels, or coping strategies.
I’m just trying to understand how my mind works, and it feels like that’s somehow illegitimate unless I’m suffering.

So… AIBU to find this incredibly annoying?

*meant to add, “if you care about that sort of thing!”
Honestly I am not sure what bearing IQ actually has on intelligence, it’s such an imperfect measure.

Just offering a reason for your, er, difficulties.

What exactly is it you’re looking for?

Understand how my brain works, which from what I understand a neuropsychological assessment does that.

Can’t you understand how self absorbed you are coming across?

Of course I do!

That’s not a compliment! Why don’t you use your apparent superpowers for good instead of wasting your time with this self indulgent rubbish?

When did I say I thought it was or that I even cared?

Ah ok, thank you 😊 Yes, it is absolutely hard and quite frustrating to go from visualisation that was extremely clear and vivid to none at all. Reading books has been particularly affected especially when I can't now picture what I'm reading about. Loved fiction, never stopped reading as a child.

Now I barely pick up a book and am not a lover of fiction as I used to be. It's curtailed my career as a result too, having struggled with the actual process of reading and language comprehension too (not great as an editor 😑).

Brains are funny things, though. Neurological conditions are crappy, but the brain does adapt through neuroplasticity.

The OP seems very lacking in self awareness for someone supposedly so clever. Maybe she should try to work on that a bit.

Which just demonstrates that intelligence is not one-dimensional. Humans are social animals, and some form of social intelligence is as important as the sorts of things IQ tests estimate.

I’m aware but that doesn’t mean I care two separate things…

It appears have very little to do with emotional intelligence.

Dear god.
(Incidentally in English you study a language, but you study for a qualification. I wouldn't normally correct someone's grammar, but in this case I feel it's deserved.)

Gosh that does sound really impactful, I hope you’re still able to enjoy reading at some point in the future. You’re so right about neuroplasticity and how amazing the brain is.

This appears to be the case!

What do you mean by ‘people like me’? Sorry, I should have phrased my question better.

Gifted adults. We’re roughly 1-5% of the overall population.

What constitutes gifted? How is even measured? And where did you get that statistic? Sorry for all the questions but you comment baffled me!

The 'gifted adult' thing is meaningless. It's what you DO with your gifts that is important.

5% of the uk population is over 3 million people!

If you're defining up to 5% of the population as "gifted", then it really doesn't mean much at all. Top 5% of IQs hardly denotes anything that special. Even top 1% doesn't really count as anything exceptional.

Exactly. I’m really wondering who told the OP she was gifted when an IQ of 149 wouldn’t indicate that.

Well it’s still statistically a minority that’s a fact. It’s higher than 95% of the population.

So yes you’ll meet a few during your life, but the vast majority of you bump into in life won’t be part of that group.

It does according to both scales:

https://www.mensa.org/what-is-iq/