AIBU to find it incredibly frustrating that there are basically no resources in the UK for people like me?

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I’m genuinely starting to wonder whether I’m being unreasonable or whether this is just a massive blind spot in the UK.

I’m a woman, adult, functioning perfectly well in life for the most part, but I’m very cognitively able and have always been. I’ve been properly assessed and this a known entity (I was not born nor raised in the UK for context).

The issue is I’m finding that there are only pathways if you’re struggling but not if you’re just curious. I’m not only talking about the NHS, even privately I haven’t been able to find someone who hits the spot.

I’ve looked into:
ND assessments (very binary, very impairment-focused)
talk therapy - after years of it total waste of time and money.

People in the US suggested to find a neuropsychologist but they have eye-watering costs, mostly framed around brain injury or rehab

It’s either you’re ill or you’re fine, stop asking questions.

I’m not looking for validation, labels, or coping strategies.
I’m just trying to understand how my mind works, and it feels like that’s somehow illegitimate unless I’m suffering.

So… AIBU to find this incredibly annoying?

I have been offered a role at a FAANG company in the past, extremely well paid too! But they wanted me to relocate, and that was a red line from my husband.

You got offered one without having to do ANY aptitude tests?

Of course you did. Because you are so special.

I had to demonstrate my skills within my role i.e. data analysis. It was one of the stages in fact. However it was very much specific to my role, not random psychometric tests.

You've let yourself down there.

They aren't "random" tests. They're aptitude tests. They show how well you can use that brain of yours to solve problems or work as a team or how you would approach issues and so on. They show how you would fit in the role outside of analysing data, because most roles are more than just the job title.

Someone so interested in them would know that.

And I’ve also said that from my cultural
context they’re seen as discrimination, which is why I wouldn’t expect them.

Besides, as discussed here they’re a skill.

But not expecting them is different to being unable to see how they could be useful to an employer. Rather than describing them as "random".

And you live and work in the UK, yes? Where they are not seen as such. And have a lot of connections to the US? Where major employers use them?

But they’ve never been part of my experience.

although granted, there’s a lot of “vibe checking” in my line of work.

For someone who claims to love the pursuit of knowledge, you base a lot on your own experience.

I've never interviewed for Google. I've looked at what their recruitment process and person specs look like though. Out of curiosity for whether I'd be able to do it. And the fact there used to be lots of news stories around what working for them (and others) was like.

You think is illegal to discriminate on the grounds of valid tests indicative of ability to do the job?

That isn't illegal in the UK.

Your parents paid for your IQ to be tested at 22?

No, in your answer to me you said you thought that using tests was "nuts", not discriminatory.

As in you couldn't see what the point would be.

Could you answer the last question?

Agree, the NHS is based on medical need, the OP has no need for any of the tests or therapies she is talking about- she openly admits it's "curiosity" why should taxpayers subsidise her curiosity, particularly as she has not been here long enough to really pay for any of it- what is wrong with going back to the US and exploring there- why expect us to indulge this whim ?
All of this is based in the OP's belief she is in someway brilliant and high functioning- but her inability to see that her demands are unreasonable goes a long way to disproving any brilliance or high functioning.

OP isn't from the US if what she says about the cost of health care there is true.

I wouldn’t know top of my head. I’d had to ask my mom to go through the whole file.

You know everything about your abilities and what tests you haven't had, and you can't remember if you've ever had a critical reasoning test? It's not the kind of thing you would normally forget, especially if you have the superb memory that you say you have.

I have a very specific “long call”
memory.

I don’t remember the name either of the specific College Board test where I got a perfect score in verbal reasoning. I don’t remember how old I was either, I want to say 12 or 13.

The diploma was framed and on display but yet I don’t remember either.

but I don’t have to convince you of anything if you believe me or not has zero relevance to me.

but I don’t have to convince you of anything if you believe me or not has zero relevance to me.

And yet you keep engaging, so it means something.

no, not really…

Reminds me of this

Yes, really. If it genuinely meant nothing to you then you would stop responding.

This thread is ridiculous. Poster after poster after poster haranguing the OP and trying to persuade her to take less interest in her brain/neuropsychology. If people aren’t interested in the question posed I wish they would scroll by instead of repeating the same critiques as other posters over and over again or else desperately finding new ways to criticise based on the OPs latest responses, it’s so rude.

That’s what YOU think ;)

To be honest it doesn't take much of a brain to realise that if someone keeps putting in the effort to respond then their claims that they aren't remotely bothered about responding don't stack up.

I'm not the genius you are but this is about your actions, not what I think is going on in your head.

The OP is enjoying it. I wouldn't want to spoil her fun.

Did you comment simply to tell other people not to?

You also have the option to ignore a thread you find ridiculous instead of telling people what they should or shouldn't be doing.