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Has lack of Premier Inn breakfast ruined the weekend?

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Liesmorelies · 18/01/2026 16:33

I mean, it hasn't, not for me, but DH seems to feel otherwise and I don't know if I've been UR. We (us and two dc) were in London overnight to see a show. We would normally maximise our time in the city and leave maybe this sort of time on Sunday, but we've all been ill and still feel a bit tired and rundown and so agreed we'd leave after breakfast and maybe a walk/quick trip to a park or the river.

When I woke I realised our PI was about a 20 minute walk from Shoreditch market where I was sure there are loads of cafes and stalls. Although we normally have the PI breakfast I thought this would be a nice change and mean we would be doing what we had planned (quick trip to somewhere nice and a walk) and could then leave. Also looked up a particular cafe that looked nice. Everyone agreed - all fine.

When we arrived at the cafe there was a queue. DH immediately said in a moody way, 'That's that then,' and started huffing. I said let's walk up (we were at the end of the road) it might not be that bad, but he had walked off. We ended up wandering around the area with him getting increasingly grumpy. Sods law, we weren't really going past any suitable looking cafes, although I'm sure the area is full of them. We did see a Pret but I didn't want that.

We eventually saw a nice independent cafe where we were able to have porridge,pastries, toast and spreads, fresh juice and lovely coffee. We all ate but DH wouldn't stop going on about the bloody PI. Yes, I get that he would eat his body weight there and we ended up with a relatively small breakfast that probably cost more (though our kids are 16 and 18, so no more free PI breakfasts!) but what we had was lovely, the place was lovely, and a bit different, and, ffs, PI will still be there next time. I offered to look for another place or even a Greggs for him to 'top up,' but he went in full strop mode. DS1 loves a PI breakfast too and he didn't moan, and dd was wanting pancakes in the place with a queue but she didn't moan that she didn't end up getting them, it's just him acting like a child. He also moaned about the cost, saying PI breakfast would have done for lunch as well, but we were home in time for a late lunch and no one wanted food on the journey so it's like he's just looking for stuff to moan about.

We're home now but he has said he's sick of me making all the decisions, I'm fussy and nothing is good enough and I'm just hard work. He's gone for a run but it was an atmosphere all the way home. Did I do wrong - I get I could have looked at booking but to me it worked out fine in the end.

OP posts:
DiaryDiaryOnTheWall · 30/08/2026 06:51

wasieverreallyhere · 29/08/2026 23:02

Who goes premier inn any more overpriced check other options

Who reactivates a thread from 9 months ago??

helpfulperson · 30/08/2026 07:08

wasieverreallyhere · 29/08/2026 23:02

Who goes premier inn any more overpriced check other options

Lots of us. I love them. What other options do you view as more acceptable

Bornfreebutinbiscuits · 30/08/2026 07:22

Op couldn't he have stayed at pi to have his breakfast there whilst you went to a nicer cafe ?

YouWillNeverGuessMyUsername · 30/08/2026 09:35

wasieverreallyhere · 29/08/2026 23:02

Who goes premier inn any more overpriced check other options

😂😂

There's like 86,000 Premier Inn bedrooms in the UK.... Fairly safe to say loads of people use them.

AhBiscuits · 30/08/2026 09:51

wasieverreallyhere · 29/08/2026 23:02

Who goes premier inn any more overpriced check other options

We stay in one at least a couple of times a year, they're really good value.

backformoreofthesame · 30/08/2026 09:54

This exact thing happened to someone last year too! Amazing

LlynTegid · 30/08/2026 09:55

YouWillNeverGuessMyUsername · 30/08/2026 09:35

😂😂

There's like 86,000 Premier Inn bedrooms in the UK.... Fairly safe to say loads of people use them.

Whilst locations and to an extent facilities are varied, you know what you are getting, so can be an option for one or two nights.

Instead of a poor B+B or putting your safety and health at risk by using a Travelodge.

nellly · 30/08/2026 10:24

pouletvous · 18/01/2026 16:50

PI breakfast is minging

an independent cafe would be miuch nicer

why is he sulking about a fry up?

See if you weigh it up purely as PI vs nice independent cafe I agree.

for me though it depends how long you all ended up spending traipsing around starving in the morning.
why didn’t you just join the queue for the place? And you rejected a few cafes and Pret? I think that would start to annoy me too even if the basic idea of going out was good.

and for a teenage boy a PI was probably preferable to a small smattering of higher quality food 😬

Minasama · 08/09/2026 21:58

It’s hard to tell without hearing your conversation, but it sounds as if he wasn’t fully aligned on the decision to not book a PI breakfast, and felt that he missed out and the morning was rather spoiled by it. Then because he was already a bit upset he ruminated and felt he’d just rolled over and things were worse because of it.

Next time make sure it’s a joint decision, or agree you’ll take it in turns. He clearly likes a PI breakfast even though you prefer a nice cafe and neither of you are right or wrong, (even though you think you are right !) it’s just a preference thing that each of you should respect.

Minasama · 08/09/2026 22:02

BauhausOfEliott · 20/01/2026 12:33

We're home now but he has said he's sick of me making all the decisions, I'm fussy and nothing is good enough and I'm just hard work.

It's clearly not just about the breakfast, then, is it?

It's about the fact that you want things your way all the time and the easiest option is never good enough for you.

Whether or not you think some toast and porridge in a cafe is better than a hot buffet at a Premier Inn is really neither here nor there; the point is that your husband didn't and he had to spend his morning walking around looking for something to eat when he'd really rather have just taken the easier option and had the breakfast he clearly fancied at the PI.

The breakfast is clearly only one example of many and you're focusing on it to deflect from your husband's real point, which is that you want things your way and everything has to be perfect and special and yes, I realise you say 'everyone agreed' but I suspect they were well aware that you wouldn't take no for an answer. 'Everyone agreed' very often means 'everyone went along with it because it was obviously what I wanted and they didn't want to argue'.

Every time anyone has made to try to make you see things from your DH's point of view, you've just argued and insisted that you're in the right about everything and that no other view is valid.

You do sound like hard work to me. Maybe you need to be a bit more sensitive to other people's feelings and views and accept that sometimes, things don't have to be perfect and the easier option is just fine.

So, stop going on about the breakfast and the sulking, and have a think about the whole dynamic of your relationship and your behaviour.

I agree with this assessment.

MaryBeardsShoes · 08/09/2026 22:08

If annoys me to go out for breakfast. Either I have to get up too early, or I’m eating breakfast closer to lunch time and it puts my energy out of whack. I’d love to hear his side of the dynamic and whether you’re often a pain in the arse.

TheFormerMrsTruelove · 08/09/2026 22:30

Liesmorelies · 18/01/2026 21:02

Well I haven't said I'm completely right, have I? I've acknowledged that we had less food and that we (I) should definitely have booked. But several people seem to feel he's fine to sulk all day. I'm grateful for those who have seen my pov. I just wanted to make something out of the morning but it should have been planned better.

He's not sulking now and is acting like nothing has happened. Which is fine and, yes, it's a bit of a non-issue, I know.

He's not sulking now and is acting like nothing has happened. Which is fine and, yes, it's a bit of a non-issue, I know I don’t think it is fine. And it would be a massive issue for me. You went to a lot of time and trouble to book something that he would enjoy. If a PI breakfast was something he was looking forward to, then why didn’t he open his mouth and say ‘I’m so glad we’re staying a a PI, I really enjoy their breakfasts’? When you raised the idea of going to look for a cafe, why didn’t he say ‘Do we really have to? I really fancy having breakfast here’? It’s almost as though he enjoys the sulking part of it and likes seeing something you’ve planned not work out perfectly so he’s got an excuse to behave like a fucking child.

Do you really want to spend the rest of your marriage having him throwing a tantrum because he’s refused to give you any input, or help with booking things, and then kicks off because it’s not how he secretly envisioned it?

I think I would wait until the DC are out of the way then ask him what the fuck that was about and that if he’d been a child, you would have assumed he’d had too much excitement and needed a nap. Tell him it’s absolutely unacceptable, that he owes you and the DC a bloody sincere apology. Tell him that he might be sick of you making all the decisions, but that you are sick of him leaving all the organising to you, you’re sick of pandering to him and you’re sick of pretending it’s all ok when he’s over it, when you just feel contempt. Sulking is a pattern of behaviour and it can be broken with a lot of effort and hard work. Tell him that if he wants to remain in a happy marriage then he needs to fix it because you’ve had enough of being married to a sulky child.

TheFormerMrsTruelove · 08/09/2026 22:36

Bugger! I didn’t see it was from January. @wasieverreallyhere Why would you do that?!

5foot5 · 08/09/2026 22:58

backformoreofthesame · 30/08/2026 09:54

This exact thing happened to someone last year too! Amazing

No you'll probably find it happened in January this year as this is an old thread that @wasieverreallyhere decided to resurrect for some reason

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